1. LETS NOT! TALK ABOUT SEX BABY From a Maori Prospective

2. Ko Jenny Manuera Taku ingoa Ngati Kahu / Nga Puhi/Welsh/fijian/spanish/french Private Practice – Manuera Life Development Services 17 years as a Counsellor STNZ Therapist / member of STING Work in Tamaki Makaurau(Auckland) & Kirikiriroa (Hamilton)

3. Why is it difficult for most Maori to talk about anything sexually. never mind dysfunction in a therapeutic environment? Consider the following Mana: high status/pride/esteemed high – effective for Tane / Wahine – ensure Mana always Tika: our guidelines / ethics the right way Pono: integrity / true to self / honesty – transparency Tapu: sacredness / forbidden Aroha: love /compassion/concern – underpins all of these concepts

4. Whakapapa This is the essence of who we are MAORI – (our Ethos) Presently: We are in this age - sex driven to maintain Whakapapa lines KO WAI AU - Who am I Those who have come before us (Tupuna) Those who will journey on from us - future generation Tamariki/Mokopuna

6. Beginning of dysfunction Colonisation effect LOSS OF: Whenua – Land Moana/awa - Our waters Te Reo - Our language Taonga - Treasures Identity

7. EFFECTS – for us as Maori The inability to resolve conflict - Korero to each other Unable to create an positive atmosphere to address issues – as a couple Isolation for us as Maori - Urbanisation Disconnected from our Marae / Hapu / Iwi Effect of Diseases e.g. diabetes/heart etc Substance abuse Lack of healthy balance of Hinengaro(Mind), Tinana(Body)Wairua(Spiritual/emotion) and Whanau All of this sets up environment for total Sexual Dysfunction

8. TAWHITO – Old Maori World Dystinctive roles - for Wahine / Tane Equality for both gender - separate responsibility TOHUNGA - Priest/expert/counsellor – own therapist – Practiced Te Whare Tapa wha – holistic balance – Dealt with all levels of health – Provided rongo – Mythology - our own stories – Sexual stories – in a Narrative way – Display of genitals within our carvings / waka as a sign of MANA – He upheld the importance of Wahine Toa – esteemed her high – Karakia

9. Ist story - Hine nui te Po Hine nui te Po – Great lady of the night First part of sexual encounter : beginning Tane meets Hine-ahu-one – first women of Maori Mythology Tane ejaculated his sperm all over her – to produce whakapapa First born: - Hine Ti-tama – He had sexual intercourse with her (daughter) – Dysfunction within maoridom occurred She ran out of shame – that overwelmed her- Whakama CHOICE: - Run back to him and face shame-pull in to trauma/depression or? Go forward: descend into darkness to become Maori Goddess – changed her name to Hine nui te Po be empowered Nik Minute: Maui – (Hero dude captured the SUN) wanted to trick/defeat her Turned himself into a worm to climb into her vagina while she was sleeping To gain immortality “WRONG”! Manu (bird) laughed – woke her and she crushed him to death between her thighs

10. Te Ao Hau – (New world) Where are our Goddesses? Where are our Warriors ? WE HAVE: Dysfunction: High stats in Prisons A & D issues Domestic violence within whanau Abuse of our children BIGGEST ISSUES ARE: Our disconnection from our whakapapa - our Identity of who we are Maori Not understanding that we were “Once Warriors”!! Not knowing our stories of ole that empower us Understanding and implementing “Te whare tapa wha”! Impact of “Whakama”! – Shyness to shame - 38 plateus Forgotton how to “whitiwhiti korero” - Talk about sex baby SO!!!!!

11. Te Ao Hau BIGGEST ISSUES ARE: Our disconnection from our whakapapa - our Identity of who we are Maori Not understanding that we were “Once Warriors”!! Not knowing our stories of ole that empower us Understanding and implementing “Te whare tapa wha”! Impact of “Whakama”! – Shyness to shame - 38 plateus Forgotton how to “whitiwhiti korero” - Talk about sex baby SO!!!!!

12. Formula for dysfunction Reclaim who we are as “Maori”-know our stories STEP:1 Start with Positive statement/ whakatauki / Karakia – If ok with them STEP : 2 Practice Manaakitanga - ensure MANA – hospitality of the highest STEP: 3 Whakawhanaungatanga - connection – tell Maori who you are where you are from - (Takes 1 minute) STEP: 4 Set up environment – Marae atea - 3 levels fo space / Tapu – another Korero

13. Whakatauki – Maori Proverb He aha te mea nui I te Ao What is the greatest thing in the world Maku e Ki Atu I tell you He Tangata He Tangata He tangata Hi It is people it is people it is people