1. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 1 Welcome Courage and clarity in the face of complexity, agility for continuous change and growth, peaceful mind to sustain paradox, and a vision of all things connected. A presentation by Kenan Doyle Branam ~ kenan@branam.com kenan@branam.com

2. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 2 The Quaternion The Gestalt Pillow Talk —an exercise guide for personal transformation, is from The Gestalt Adventure, copyrighted in 1978 by Leland Johnson, Ph.D. and Mary Ann Merksamer, M.A. — Kenan@Branam.com Kenan@Branam.com "One becomes two, two becomes three, and out of the third comes the one as the fourth." - alchemist Maria Prophetissa

3. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 3 The Quaternion

4. Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 4 The Quaternion

5. Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 5 The Quaternion

6. Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 6 The Quaternion

7. Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 7 The Quaternion Ken Wilber’s AQAL: all quadrants, all Levels I, We, It, Its

8. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 8 Polarities - Dialogue "Yes," Yellow Robe agreed, "This is part of the teaching. One half of you loves, and the other half of you, at times, hates. This is the Forked Medicine Pole of Man. The clever thing the Medicine has taught us here is this. One Half of you must understand the Other Half or you will tear yourself apart... But remember, Both Halves must try to understand. Even within yourself it is hard to know which of the Forks is which." - From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts StormSeven Arrows

9. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 9 Polarities - Dialogue Therefore having and not having arise together. Difficult and easy complement each other Long and short contrast each other High and low rest upon each other Voice and sound harmonize each other Front and back follow one another. - Tao Te Ching by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English

10. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 10 Road Map to Polarities

11. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 11 Experience - Pillow Talk Paul Reps recalls in "Square Sun, Square Moon" a school in the Orient which teaches a game called "Pillow Talk" to groups of children ten to twelve years old.

12. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 12 First Position - Placing Yourself A. NOW—sense, think, feel... (e.g., hard, flat, happy...) B. TRAITS—unique qualities (e.g., dependent, loving,...) C. UNFINISHED—I will/won't let go of my ____)

13. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 13 Second Position: The Opposite Pole A. NOW—sense, think, feel... (e.g., soft, round, sad...) B. TRAITS—what you see in you... (e.g., independent, angry...) C. UNFINISHED—I won't/will.." (e.g., let go of my ___."

14. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 14 The Dialogue "What one says is wrong, the other says is right; and what one says is right, the other says is wrong. If the one is right while the other is wrong, and the other is right while the one is wrong, then the best thing to do is to look beyond the right and wrong." "Chuang Tsu", translated by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

15. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 15 The Dialogue

16. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 16 The Dialogue ACCUSATION INDENTIFICATION CLARIFICATION NEGOTIATION CLOSURE Let loose and let yourself feel. You're afraid to feel. You want to be a vegetable. Now you're beginning to feel. That's better than no feeling. Go on, feel. I'm glad you're feeling hopeful. I want something from you. I want you to practice feeling frequently, beginning now Great! Will you give any effort to being with people? I will give you that. I don’t feel anything. I'm not afraid. I just don't want to put out the effort. No—1 don't want to be like that. Yes—1 feel resentful toward you. You're right. I feel now. I feel hopeful. O.K. Ask. Right now. I feel silly. I will do what you're asking and I'm not minding the effort. Yes, I'll make the effort to give more openly and freely of my loving and caring as long as you stay off my back when I need to be quiet and indifferent. Whew. I feel lighter. LOVING INDIFFERENT

17. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 17 Third Position: Merging of One and Two

18. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 18 Third Position: Merging of One and Two A. ARBITRATE frustrated, hopeless, tired, relieved, compromise... B. JUDGE top dog/underdog C. WATCH LET YOURSELF ALONE no self help, no resolutions, no intervention, no buildup, no tear down.

19. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 19 Third Position: Merging of One and Two "No. my son, there is no such thing as good and bad. This is only used by the white men to create fear among themselves... the answer to this conflict is the Give-Away. Whenever one gives from his heart, he also receives." From Seven Arrows by Hyemeyohsts StormSeven Arrows

20. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 20 Fourth Position: Transcendence

21. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 21 Fourth Position: Transcendence A. REMEMBER your calm center B. SYMBOLIZE sign, word, sound... C. RECOGNIZE

22. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 22 Fourth Position: Transcendence Transcendence is a place of the heart, a place of peace much like the heart chakra.

23. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 23 Fourth Position: Transcendence "...the sage does not bother with these distinctions but seeks enlightenment from heaven. So he sees "this", but "this" is also "that", and "that" is also "this". "That" has elements of right and wrong, and "this" has elements of right and wrong. Does he still distinguish between "this" and "that", or doesn't he? When there is no more separation between "this" and "that", it is called the still-point of Tao. At the still-point in the center of the circle one can see the infinite in all things." "Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

24. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 24 Fourth Position: Transcendence "That is why it is said in Islam, 'Die before you die.' We have to learn to die to each moment; and as we die in love so we are reformed in love.“ "It needs great courage to die each moment. But until you can truly surrender you are not yet a salik, a traveler on the way. A salik is one who has found himself. And when he knows himself he knows the truth, and knows what needs to be done." Hamid in "The last Barrier“ by Reshad Field

25. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 25 Fifth Position: Integration

26. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 26 Fifth Position: Integration

27. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 27 The Paradox of Being: In and Out of Your Selves

28. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 28 The Five Stages of Resolving Paradoxical Duality NEITHER HERE NOR THERE DENY Who, me impatient? No, I'm always loving. SHUTTLE I can be loving at work and impatient at home. SIMULTANEOUS I can be both. Like a game. BOTH HERE AND THERE I am both just loving and just impatience.

29. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 29 The Five Stages of Resolving Paradoxical Duality "Having transcended all life, he began to achieve the clear vision of dawn. Having achieved the clear vision of dawn, he began to see the One. Having seen the One, he began to transcend the distinction of past and present, he began to enter the land where there is no life or death, where killing does not take away life and giving birth does not add to it. He would reject nothing, welcomed all things, negated all things, and affirmed all things. This is called tranquillity in struggle, meaning perfection is the result of struggle." - "Chuang Tsu" Translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English

30. The Quaternion Polarities Road Map The Experience First Position Second Position Third Position Fourth Position Fifth Position Paradox Five Stages of Resolution Gestalt Pillow Talk Author: Kenan Doyle Branam 2010 kenan@branam.com 30 Sharing Time Courage and clarity in the face of complexity, agility for continuous change and growth, peaceful mind to sustain paradox, and a vision of all things connected. A presentation by Kenan Doyle Branam ~ kenan@branam.com kenan@branam.com