1. Michael Shurtleff

2.  A: Hey mom. What is going on?  B: Oh… I was just wondering why this garage was still a mess.  A. I meant to clean it before practice but I did not have time.  B: Well I guess you will have time when I pull you off of the team.  A. Really mom…over the garage you would ruin the whole season.  B. Over the garage I would ruin your whole life if I have to.

3.  Where is the love?  Who is the other person in the scene in relation to me.

4.  A: Hey mom. What is going on?  B: Oh… I was just wondering why this garage was still a mess.  A. I meant to clean it before practice but I did not have time.  B: Well I guess you will have time when I pull you off of the team.  A. Really mom…over the garage you would ruin the whole season.  B. Over the garage I would ruin your whole life if I have to.

5.  A: Do you know what happened to me last night?  B: No idea  A. Really?  B. Really?  A. That is not what Jill said.  B. I have NO idea what you are talking about.

6.  What am I fighting for ?  What is my dream and how can I make it come true in this scene?

7.  A: Do you know what happened to me last night?  B: No idea  A. Really?  B. Really?  A. That is not what Jill said.  B. I have NO idea what you are talking about.

8.  A: I cannot believe you just did that?  B: I am hungry…starving  A: I have been looking forward to that sandwich since 8 am when I got to work.  B: It is not like you can’t afford another one.  A: That is not the point. That is my sandwich that you just ate.  B: Sorry.

9.  What just happened?  How do you feel about what just happened?  Try to physicalize it and start strong.

10.  A: I cannot believe you just did that?  B: I am hungry…starving  A: I have been looking forward to that sandwich since 8 am when I got to work.  B: It is not like you can’t afford another one.  A: That is not the point. That is my sandwich that you just ate.  B: Sorry.

11.  A: I hate you…I have decided that I hate you.  B: You hate me. Hate is a strong word.  A: But on you…it is deserved.  B: Just because he is taking me to prom and not you is not a reason to hate me, is it. I mean we have been friend for years and now you hate me? Because of a prom date?  A: Yep, I think I do.

12.  Humor can exist in almost any situation  Find the humor that exists in the scene.  Try turning the scene on its ear by finding the humor.  Connect with the partner via humor.  Don’t try to be funny…just find the humor…there is a difference.

13.  A: I hate you…I have decided that I hate you.  B: You hate me. Hate is a strong word.  A: But on you…it is deserved.  B: Just because he is taking me to prom and not you is not a reason to hate me. I mean we have been friend for years and now you hate me? Because of a prom date?  A: Yep, I think I do.

14.  A: Listen, Jill..I really think it is time we called this whole thing off.  B: Jack the wedding is tomorrow. My whole family is waiting to see us walk down that aisle.  A: I just think this is a HUGE mistake.  B: Think all you want but you are getting married to me tomorrow. Like it or not.  A: I can’t. I am losing my mind here. I cannot marry you. We are not right for each other.  B: Right or not, we are getting married tomorrow. I don’t care if we get divorced Monday morning, but you are NOT going to humiliate me in front of everyone I know.

15.  Play the opposite of what you think should be happening. Play against the text.  What ever is happening in the scene, the opposite is happening as well.

16.  A: Listen, Jill..I really think it is time we called this whole thing off.  B: Jack the wedding is tomorrow. My whole family is waiting to see us walk down that aisle.  A: I just think this is a HUGE mistake.  B: Think all you want but you are getting married to me tomorrow. Like it or not.  A: I can’t. I am losing my mind here. I cannot marry you. We are not right for each other.  B: Right or not, we are getting married tomorrow. I don’t care if we get divorced Monday morning, but you are NOT going to humiliate me in front of everyone I know.

17.  A: What is your problem?  B: What are you talking about?  A: I think you know…why all the attitude?  B: I’m sorry…I am just…tired.  A: Tired?  B: Yes  A: That’s all?  B: Yes…no that’s…I don’t want to have this conversation right now.

18.  What is new?  Discover moment to moment actions  If you miss events, nothing will happen and your scene will die.

19.  A: What is your problem?  B: What are you talking about?  A: I think you know…why all the attitude?  B: I’m sorry…I am just…tired.  A: Tired?  B: Yes  A: That’s all?  B: Yes…no that’s…I don’t want to have this conversation right now.

20.  A. I have a confession.  B. Hmmm…that sounds intriguing.  A. I just wanted to tell you that I have really enjoyed hanging out with you lately  B. Ok…where is this going?  A. Nowhere…it’s just I really think I want to be more than friends.  B: Oh. Wow  A: Wow  B: I don’t know what to say. This is NOT what I am thinking about when I am with you. I thought we were just hanging out.

21.  Give and take  Give and receive  Discover your wins and losses in the communication.

22.  A. I have a confession.  B. Hmmm…that sounds intriguing.  A. I just wanted to tell you that I have really enjoyed hanging out with you lately  B. Ok…where is this going?  A. Nowhere…it’s just I really think I want to be more than friends.  B: Oh. Wow  A: Wow  B: I don’t know what to say. This is NOT what I am thinking about when I am with you. I thought we were just hanging out.

23.  A. I want that cupcake  B. It is the last one. Mom did not even get one yet  A. I need that cupcake  B. I think you are being a bit dramatic.  A. Look I will make some more for mom later, but if I don’t get that cupcake…you don’t understand something really bad is going to happen.  B: I don’t want that. Take it. Just PROMISE me you will make more.  A: Ok…fine…fine. Just hand it ove.

24.  Why is it important  Make it more important.  It has to be important or the scene falls flat.

25.  A. I want that cupcake  B. It is the last one. Mom did not even get one yet  A. I need that cupcake  B. I think you are being a bit dramatic.  A. Look I will make some more for mom later, but if I don’t get that cupcake…you don’t understand something really bad is going to happen.  B: I don’t want that. Take it. Just PROMISE me you will make more.  A: Ok…fine…fine. Just hand it over.

26.  A: Oh my god. Jimmy is here.  B: Where?  A: Over there in the food court, talking to Phoebe  B: Where I don’t see him  A: By the Chic-Fil-A  B: Oh there….what the hell is she wearing?  A: She does look skanky  B: Is he…oh my god…they are kissing!  A: Oh no.  B: I am going to kill that boy. Where is my phone? I need a photo of this.

27.  Events equal changes, especially in the relationship  You have to create the events, otherwise, nothing will happen--the scene will be dead

28.  A: Oh my god. Jimmy is here.  B: Where?  A: Over there in the food court, talking to Phoebe  B: Where I don’t see him  A: By the Chic-Fil-A  B: Oh there….what the hell is she wearing?  A: She does look skanky  B: Is he…oh my god…they are kissing!  A: Oh no.  B: I am going to kill that boy. Where is my phone? I need a photo of this.

29.  A. I don’t know about this  B. C’mon this will be hilarious  A: You are always getting me into stupid stuff. I don’t know why I go for it.  B: Know one is going to know it was us. Would you just relax.  A: If we get caught I will be suspended and you will be expelled.  B: This is under control ok. Would you take off your diaper and grow up?  A: You grow up. This is lame. I am out.

30.  Where are you?  What tension or emotion does your location create?

31.  A. I don’t know about this  B. C’mon this will be hilarious  A: You are always getting me into stupid stuff. I don’t know why I go for it.  B: Know one is going to know it was us. Would you just relax.  A: If we get caught I will be suspended and you will be expelled.  B: This is under control ok. Would you take off your diaper and grow up?  A: You grow up. This is lame. I am out.

32.  A: I know what your thinking.  B: You do?  A: I do  B: Really. What am I thinking  A: That I am the most beautiful person you have ever seen and that you are lucky to have a girl (boy) friend like me.  B: Oh I assure you that is not what I am thinking.  A: Shut up.  B: I was thinking that we should go to BK for dinner. I really want a bacon double cheeseburger.  A: Oh that is romantic.

33.  It 's not insincere-it’s very true to life and real.  Game Playing and Role Playing is a way dealing with reality, not escaping it.  For example, a teacher’s role with students in college classroom setting is different than later if they meet later at a cocktail party.

34.  A: I know what your thinking.  B: You do?  A: I do  B: Really. What am I thinking  A: That I am the most beautiful person you have ever seen and that you are lucky to have a girl (boy) friend like me.  B: Oh I assure you that is not what I am thinking.  A: Shut up.  B: I was thinking that we should go to BK for dinner. I really want a bacon double cheeseburger.  A: Oh that is romantic.

35.  A: Do you know what happened to me last night?  B: No idea  A. Really?  B. Really?  A. That is not what Jill said.  B. I have NO idea what you are talking about what happened?  A: I just had a really bad night.  B: Bad how?  A: I don’t really want to talk about it.  B: You brought it up.  A: Forget I said anything. Let’s just forget the whole thing.

36.  Wonder about your partner and your situation  Have a secret - keep it a secret, but let it add drive and intensity to your scene.

37.  A: Do you know what happened to me last night?  B: No idea  A. Really?  B. Really?  A. That is not what Jill said.  B. I have NO idea what you are talking about what happened?  A: I just had a really bad night.  B: Bad how?  A: I don’t really want to talk about it.  B: You brought it up.  A: Forget I said anything. Let’s just forget the whole thing.

38.  1. Relationship  2. Conflict  3. The moment before  4. Humor  5. Opposites  6. Discoveries  7. Communication and Competition  8. Importance  9. Find the events  10. Place  11. Game playing and Role Playing  12. Mystery and secret

39.  So your cold reads are not BORING!  So you have tools to help you make a choice.  So that you grab the auditors attention