Presentation on theme: "Chemical Dependency in the Family. Affects on the family: Addiction in the family affects any family member in any area of their life – now or in the."— Presentation transcript:
Affects on the family: Addiction in the family affects any family member in any area of their life – now or in the future.
Affects on the family: It affects their view of a family How they relate to each other in their family How they communicate with each other How they handle their problems and conflicts It affects future relationships – usually carries over from what they learn
Family Roles: The family will take on roles to reduce stress in the family. They are used as a defense mechanism to try to have a “normal” family.
Chemically Dependent Person Things Others See : Charming person who gets others to do things. Perfectionist Inner Feelings: Pain Guilt Fear of what might happen
Chemically Dependent Person Job in the family : Focal point: everything revolves around them. Depends on if they had been drinking, what mood are they in… Characteristics : Blames others for their problem Makes excuses for their use/abuse
Chief Enabler Things Others See : Overly responsible for the family Easily manipulated by the chemically dependent person Inner Feelings: Fear Anger Guilt
Chief Enabler Job in the family : Try the best to keep the family together Characteristics : Makes excuses and covers up for the addict Pays off debts for them, call in sick for them, etc.
Family Hero Things Others See : Very successful and always does what’s right Inner Feelings: Inadequate Confusion Anger - all of this conflicts with what others see
Family Hero Job in the family : Gives the family something to be proud of Characteristics : Very high achiever – has to be the best in grades, sports, etc. VERY STRESSFUL ROLE
Family Scapegoat Things Others See : Angry Defiant Aggressive Inner Feelings: Lonely Hurt Guilty Rejection Resentment
Family Scapegoat Job in the family : Take focus off the addict Family takes out anger on them
Family Scapegoat Characteristics : Can’t compete with the hero, so goes for negative attention. Gets in trouble – suspended, arrested, flunking classes. Strong ties to friends that are also trouble At risk to use/abuse drugs – their escape
Lost Child Things Others See : Withdrawn Loner Passive Inner Feelings : Feel as if they are unimportant
Lost Child Job in the family : Appreciated because they are not looking for any attention Characteristics : Escapes into a fantasy world – books, TV. A daydreamer. Very quiet, not a lot of friends. May be attached to an object like a doll.
Family Mascot Things Others See : Immature, a “class clown” Inner Feelings : Anger Insecure Confusion Low self-esteem
Family Mascot Job in the family : Make everyone laugh – even in tense situations Characteristics : Hyperactive Short attention span Needs to be the center of attention
Stages Family MAY Go Through: Stage one: Denial “We have no problem” Try to hide the problem from themselves and others, embarrassed and worried about their reputation. Makes excuses for the addicts’ behavior. Tries to create the “perfect family” illusion
Stages Family MAY Go Through: Stage two: Home Treatment “We can handle it ourselves” They try to control the addict themselves – nagging, threatening, getting rid of the supply, etc. They become socially isolated They blame each other and themselves when this fails
Stages Family MAY Go Through: Stage three: Chaos and Disorganization A crisis occurs because of the addict’s abuse of drugs – can no longer deny or hide the problem. Family feels helpless, violence may occur, frightened May look for help – want “magic solution”
Stages Family MAY Go Through: Stage four: Reorganize Family gets help for themselves – not waiting for the addict to want help Ignore the addict or treat them like a child Conflicting feelings – love, fear, anger, shame and resentment