1. St. Paul UMC Safe Sanctuary Training
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St. Paul UMC Safe Sanctuary Training

2. Jesus’ example . . .
Mark 9:36-37
“Then [Jesus] took a little child and put [him] among them; and taking [her] in his arms, he said to them, ‘Whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me, and whoever welcomes me welcomes not me but the one who sent me.”
The IMPORTANCE & VALUE of Children & Youth

3. Sensitive Issue Statistics By the age of 18 1 out of 3 girls
1 out of 5 boys

4. What will this policy do for St. Paul?
Create a “Heightened Common Sense”
If 2nd year of training . . .
Allow us to find “Grace-filled” ways to live out the policy (as opposed to rigidness)

5. Policy as Precaution At church we . . .
Lock the closet with chemicals in it
Lock the offices
Our computers have passwords
We have age-appropriate toys
The policy becomes another safe-guard

6. Approved by Church Council 8/23/10
Artwork from Safe Sanctuaries, Reducing the Risk of Abuse in the Church for Children and Youth © 2008 by Discipleship Resources. Used by permission.

7. MINIMUM AGE
Volunteers and staff should be 4 years older (and a minimum of 6th grade) than the age of the children/youth they will be serving. Volunteers under the age of 18 will be considered assistants. Volunteers in 6th – 12th grade will have to have the approval of either the Director of Nursery Ministries or the Director of Children’s Ministries AND the Director of Youth Ministries.

8. SIX MONTH RULE
All volunteers must have been an active participant in the congregation for six months before they will be allowed to serve as a volunteer in the areas of nursery, children and youth ministries. Exceptions to this rule will be considered by the Safe Sanctuary Board and Pastor(s).

9. POLICY INSTRUCTION
Annual attendance at a Safe Sanctuary training (or similar event) shall be required of all paid staff members, and adult volunteers who work with children and/or youth. These training sessions will focus on current issues of child safety.

10. SCREENING PROCEDURES
The following will be required prior to serving as a volunteer or staff member. There will be special exceptions at the discretion of the Safe Sanctuaries Board. a. An application b. An interview c. Disclosure Form d. Reference Checks (2) e. Background Checks

11. TWO ADULT RULE
A minimum of two non-related adults are to be utilized in all programming with children and youth. When impossible to staff with two non-related adults, there must be an additional adult serving as a floater (Pastor, Sunday School Superintendent or a screened volunteer, etc.) with visual and physical access to all areas.

12. SIGN-IN PROCEDURES
It is recommended that children under 6th grade be signed in and out by a parent or guardian with information as to where they will be and any special problems or allergies noted.

13. DISCIPLINE
No physical punishment or verbal abuse, e.g., ridicule, are to be used at any time. If the behavior continues to be a problem, it will be discussed with parents or guardians.

14. OPEN DOOR POLICY
Classrooms or child care rooms may be visited without prior notice by church staff, parents or other volunteer church workers, e.g, Sunday School Superintendent, at any time. Brief observations of child care rooms and classrooms of children or youth are conducted by the pastor or primary leader during all activities.

15. ADVANCE NOTICE
Parents will always have advance notice and full information regarding events in which their children or youth will be participating. A signed permission slip must accompany children or youth on off-site events.

16. COMMON SENSE RULE
In advance, persons planning ministries with children and youth will carefully consider the advantages and disadvantages of the settings in which they will be with the children/youth, whether this be indoor, outdoor, classroom, ball fields, gym, bus, hotel, etc. Plans must be made for adequate supervision. ALSO, safety and supervision should be assessed regarding the use of equipment, such as vigilance when children are using the playground.

17. MENTORING Outings should be in public places;
Routes, time frames, etc. should be agreed upon in advance, and known to all;
Plan activities & outings that include several adults & children (i.e., two sets of mentor & child);
One-to-one mentoring or tutoring should take place in a group setting, such as one large room rather than individual rooms spread through the church building.

18. ROOMING
Adults should not share the same bed with a youth or child (except parent/child).
An adult should not to be alone with a youth or child in a room.

19. TRANSPORTATION Traveling to or from programmed events:
All drivers must be 25 years of age or older.
Where possible, it is recommended that two adults be placed in each vehicle or the vehicles teamed in minimum groups of 2 that stay together at all times.
For all trips each child and youth shall have a regular permission slip from the parents/guardian, signed. Yearly, a permission/medical slip shall be on file for each child or youth.

20. HOME VISITS VISITING AT YOUTH AND CHILDREN’S WORKERS HOME
When volunteers or staff are serving as a representative(s) of St. Paul in their home (for example, in a youth leader capacity) they must:
Follow the two adult rule (non-related adults),
Follow the adult/child ratios.

21. FACILITIES CHECK
The Safe Sanctuary Board should perform an annual check of the church facility and grounds and equipment for safety, child accessibility, and child appeal and perform periodic fire drills, in conjunction with the Director of the Preschool Ministries.

22. Outside Groups
Outside groups will adhere to St. Paul UMC’s Safe Sanctuary Policies.

23. How to Respond “I believe you and I will get you help.”
Comfort and reassure the child:
“I believe you and I will get you help.”
Child should not feel ashamed.
Write down exactly what the child told you
If it’s immediate danger, call police
Call TN Department of Children’s Services
Mandatory & Confidential
Tell a St. Paul Pastor if:
On Church Property
At a Church Function

24. Talking to OUR children
Age appropriate
Don’t use nicknames
#1. Say, “NO!”
#2. RUN
#3. TELL ME (Trusted Adult)

25. 5 Types of Child Abuse

26. Neglect A failure to provide… Food, Clothing, & Shelter Supervision
Education
Health Care
Hygiene
Unsanitary Home Conditions/ Hoarding

27. Emotional Interferes with positive emotional development
Slow to walk or talk
Seeks constant attention (not getting at home)
Poor self-image
Poor academics

28. Physical 2nd leading cause of death in children
Causing severe physical harm
Bruises, welts, burns
Shaken babies
Aggression or withdrawal
Outrageous explanations for injuries
2nd leading cause of death in children
Discipline Teaches – Physical Abuse Harms

29. Sexual Intimidates or forces a child into sexual activity
Sleep disturbances
Avoids place/person
Unusual knowledge/talking about
sexual activities
Sexual behavior
Private areas bleeding/bruising

30. Domestic Violence Child witnesses abusive couples at home Lying
Seeks constant attention
Poor anger management
Self-Abuse
Anxiety
Girls- Passive; Boys- Aggressive

31. Thank You!!! For your time For your service to Christ
And for loving our children!