1. MANAGING TRANSITIONS
Dr. Anna Muscetta

2. Managing Transition Third culture kids Transition Culture shock
Reverse culture shock
Tools

3. Third Culture kids and transition
Ruth Van Reken: “A third culture kid is a person who has spent a significant part of his or her developmental years outside their parents’ culture. The third culture kid builds relationships to all the cultures, while not having full ownership in any. Although elements from each culture are assimilated into the third culture kid’s life experience, the sense of belonging is in relationship to others of the same background, other TCKs”

4. Managing transitions Transition noun
tran·​si·​tion | \ tran(t)-ˈsi-shən , tran-ˈzi-, chiefly British tran(t)-ˈsi-zhən\
Definition of transition
 (Entry 1 of 2)
1a : passage from one state, stage, subject, or place to another : change
b : a movement, development, or evolution from one form, stage, or style to another
2a : a musical modulation
b : a musical passage leading from one section of a piece to another
3 : an abrupt change in energy state or level (as of an atomic nucleus or a molecule) usually accompanied by loss or gain of a single quantum of energy

5. Managing transitions
Whether you are the leaving family or you are the ones waving goodbyes, transitions are tough. Moving from one country to another, moving from one school year to the next or to a new Key stage can cause anxiety

6. Managing transition Three levels: individuals, couple and family
Three stages: before, during and after
Two dimensions: logistic and emotional

7. Managing transitions

8. Managing transitions

9. Managing transition
No matter which side are you in, YOU might need support

10. Managing transitions: emotions
You are neither one thing or the other
You are impatient to reach the next step
You are excited about new opportunities
You are scared about the future
You are worried to miss what you are familiar with
You are confused about new emotions and new experiences
You are sad to leave friends/places

11. Managing transitions From childhood to puberty
From primary school to secondary school
From school to university
From individual to couple to family

12. Diaspora Blues
So, Here you are Too foreign for home Too foreign for here Never enough for both

13. Managing transition
Cultural shock
Reverse cultural shock

14. Culture shock: an emotional rollercoaster

15. Reverse culture shock: different but not that much
Going abroad can be hard, but reverse culture shock happens nearly to all expats returning back home.

17. How can we support our children?
Managing Transitions
How can we support our children?

18. Tools and tips Saying goodbye is a process
We need to talk about it (well in advance, not too much)
Last time for everything (whenever is possible)
World map ( where are all my friends )
Books
Farwell books
Memories boxes
Pics
Others……… ( be creative)

19. The Circle of Security

20. The Circle of Security

21. The Circle of Security
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22. The Circle of Security
At times all parents feel lost or without a clue about what our child might need from us. Imagine what it might feel like if you were able to make sense of what your child was really asking from you. The Circle of Security® Parenting™ program is based on decades of research about how secure parent-child relationships can be supported and strengthened.

23. The Circle of Security
Understand your child’s emotional world by learning to read emotional needs
Support your child’s ability to successfully manage emotions
Enhance the development of your child's self esteem
Honor the innate wisdom and desire for your child to be secure

27. References
Third Culture Kids: Growing Up Among Worlds, Revised Edition , 2009 D.C.Pollock and R.E.Van Reken
Why won’t my teenager talk to me? , 2014 J. Coleman
The Little Prince, 1943 Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

28. I wish you all a smooth transition…..

29. Thanks