1. © 2015 Eve Coates

2. BULLYING But sometimes it’s hard to know exactly what bullying is.
It’s very important to take a stand against bullying.
BULLYING
But sometimes it’s hard to know exactly what bullying is.

3. ? ? ? Not every mean or hurtful thing someone does is bullying.
But why is it important to know the difference?

4. Because BULLYING is more serious.
Some problems and arguments you can solve on your own.
Hey, I wanted to play with the jump rope!
Well, too bad, I got to it first!
Fine. What if you play with it this recess, and I play with it next recess.
Okay, I guess so.

5. Sure. Let’s see if we can come up with a solution together.
Sometimes you may still need outside help from an adult, even if it isn’t bullying.
A boy on the playground is being silly and keeps taking our basketballs. We asked him to stop, but he won’t. I’m not sure what to do, can you help?
Sure. Let’s see if we can come up with a solution together.

6. But when it IS BULLYING, you don’t just need the help of an adult
But when it IS BULLYING, you don’t just need the help of an adult. EVERYONE needs to be a part of helping.

7. The teachers need to help fix the bullying problem.

8. The person bullying needs to help fix it.

9. The person being bullied needs to help fix it.

10. And all the other students need to help too! Every one of you!

11. Will YOU help stop bullying?
That’s because the only way to REALLY stop bullying is if EVERYONE tries to prevent it.
Will YOU help stop bullying?
STOP

12. learn what bullying IS and what bullying ISN’T.
There are many things you can do to stop bullying, but first you need to
learn what bullying IS and what bullying ISN’T.
Accident
BULLYING
BULLYING
BULLYING
BULLYING
NOT
BULLYING
Mean Moment
Argument

13. Bullying is when someone purposely hurts someone else,
So what IS bullying?
Bullying is when someone purposely hurts someone else,
over and over, and the person being bullied feels scared or powerless, like there’s nothing they can do to stop it.

14. The reason the person being bullied feels they can’t stop it is because the person bullying them has more power.

15. The person bullying might have more power because they are bigger or stronger.

16. The person bullying might be older.
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17. They might be more confident so they know they can scare someone else.
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18. They might have more friends that will join in on the bullying.
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19. They might know something about someone that would embarrass them.
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20. Bullying always has an imbalance of power.
That means the power isn’t balanced between the person bullying and the person being bullied.
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The person bullying has some kind of power over the person they are bullying and they use it to hurt or scare them.

21. Let’s review the main parts of bullying one more time.
Bullying is
purposely hurtful
The person being bullied feels
over and over
powerless

22. Do you know the definition of bullying? What’s the first main part?by
accident
teasing
purposely
hurtful
unfair

23. What’s the next part of bullying?
purposely
hurtful
over and
over
fight
one time

24. What’s the last part of bullying?
purposely
hurtful
over and
over
Good job!
powerless
The person being bullied feels
powerful
The person being bullied feels
mean

25. Sometimes when people hear the word BULLYING, they picture someone beating someone else up.
This is one type of bullying, but there are other kinds of bullying too.

26. Pulling someone’s hair.
Physical bullying is when someone hurts someone else’s body.
PHYSICAL
SOCIAL
VERBAL
CYBER
EXAMPLES
Hitting
Pulling someone’s hair.
Pushing someone down.

27. EXAMPLES PHYSICAL SOCIAL VERBAL CYBER Threatening someone.
Verbal bullying is when someone uses words to hurt someone else.
PHYSICAL
SOCIAL
No one likes you.
VERBAL
CYBER
EXAMPLES
Threatening someone.
Making fun of how someone looks or acts.
Calling someone names.

28. EXAMPLES PHYSICAL SOCIAL VERBAL CYBER Spreading rumors about someone.
Social bullying is when a person tries to get everyone to turn against someone else or to not like them. Someone who uses social bullying usually has many friends that will join in.
PHYSICAL
SOCIAL
VERBAL
CYBER
EXAMPLES
Spreading rumors about someone.
Embarrassing someone in front of others.
Telling other people not to talk or play with someone else.

29. EXAMPLES PHYSICAL SOCIAL VERBAL CYBER
Cyber bullying is when someone uses the internet or text messages to hurt someone else. Someone who cyber bullies someone else might send them mean messages constantly, and the person being bullied might not even know who is sending them or how to stop them.
They might still feel bullied or unsafe even when they are at home.
PHYSICAL
SOCIAL
VERBAL
CYBER
EXAMPLES
Sending mean or threatening messages or texts to someone.
Posting something embarrassing of someone else on the internet.
Making mean comments about someone online.

30. It’s bullying when it happens
But remember, it’s not bullying every time someone pushes someone, or calls them a name, or won’t let someone else play with them.
PHYSICAL
SOCIAL
It’s bullying when it happens
on purpose
over and over
VERBAL
CYBER
And the person being bullied feels
powerless

31. Now that we know what bullying IS, let’s talk about what bullying ISN’T!

32. Many problems, fights, and conflicts happen at school.

33. ✓ PROBLEM PROBLEM PROBLEM PROBLEM PROBLEM PROBLEM PROBLEM NOT BULLYING
Do you think most of these problems
are bullying
or are not bullying?
Click on your answer below.
Most problems at school AREN’T bullying!
Let’s talk about a few things that usually AREN’T bullying.
PROBLEM
PROBLEM
BULLYING
PROBLEM
BULLYING
NOT
PROBLEM
PROBLEM
PROBLEM
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34. Arguments What did you disagree about?
It’s normal for people to disagree and sometimes have arguments or fights.
Raise your hand if you’ve ever gotten into a fight with a friend.
What did you disagree about?

35. Do you think you were BULLYING each other because you disagreed?
Arguments
Do you think you were BULLYING each other because you disagreed?
BULLY
BULLY

36. Fights sometimes DO happen over and over with friends.
Arguments
No! You probably WEREN’T bullying each other, you were just disagreeing. Why isn’t it bullying?
purposely hurtful
Usually, when friends get into fights, they aren’t purposely hurting the other person. They might say mean things, but it’s usually just because they are mad, not because they are really trying to hurt their friend.
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Fights sometimes DO happen over and over with friends.
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BUT, if it’s just a regular argument and not bullying, neither person feels powerless or scared. They are both equal and can try to work it out together.

37. Unfair Situations
Life isn’t fair. Many times, people will do things that aren’t fair to you.
Someone might cut in front of you in line.
Someone might take the last cookie before you get one.
Someone might not share a toy with you.
Even though these things aren’t NICE, they probably aren’t BULLYING.

38. Unfair Situations purposely hurtful powerless over and over
Why isn’t it bullying?
purposely hurtful
The person doing it usually isn’t purposely trying to hurt someone else. For instance, someone who takes the last cookie probably wasn’t doing it to make you feel bad. They probably just wanted the cookie.
over and over
It usually doesn’t happen over and over.
powerless
Even though it isn’t fair, the person probably isn’t trying to make someone else feel scared or use their power to hurt them.

39. Mean Moment
Everyone has bad days and sometimes people have a
mean moment and take it out on others or lose their temper.
It’s not nice or okay to say mean things, but it’s not always bullying.
Have you ever said something mean when you were having a bad day?

40. But it usually doesn’t happen over and over to the same person.
Mean Moment
Why isn’t it bullying?
purposely hurtful ✓
When someone has a mean moment, usually they ARE purposely trying to hurt someone else.
over and over
But it usually doesn’t happen over and over to the same person.
powerless
The person usually feels bad for having a mean moment and may try to fix it. When it’s just a mean moment, the other person doesn’t feel scared or powerless like they can’t stop it.

41. Let’s see if we can decide what’s bullying and what’s not!
Let’s Practice!
Let’s see if we can decide what’s bullying and what’s not!

42. Read the story and decide if you think this is a case of bullying or not.
Andrew was having a bad day. He didn’t get much sleep because his dog was barking all night. Then he tripped on the way to school and got mud all over his backpack.
He was still feeling bad when he decided to play soccer with his classmates. Another boy kept getting in his way so he couldn’t make a goal. He was getting so mad!
He was just about to kick the soccer ball into the net when that same boy blocked him again. He lost his temper and pushed the boy over.
Later, after he calmed down, he felt bad about what he had done. He was still feeling a little mad, but he realized what he did was wrong.
Do you think Andrew was bullying the other boy?
Bullying
NOT Bullying

43. But it did NOT happen over and over.
This was probably NOT bullying. Andrew was wrong to push the other boy down, but he was probably having a mean moment, not bullying him.
Purposely hurtful ✓
Andrew did purposely try to hurt the other boy.
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over and over
But it did NOT happen over and over.
powerless
Andrew is not trying to use his power to make the other boy feel afraid all the time, it just happened once and he felt bad afterward.

44. Read the story and decide if you think this is a case of bullying or not.
Every time Joey saw Tyler at school he felt scared. Tyler was always giving him mean looks and would purposely trip or shove him when teachers weren’t looking.
One time Joey got Tyler in trouble for talking during library. After they left, Tyler stopped Joey in the hall and threatened to hurt him if he ever did that again.
Joey tried to avoid Tyler, but it never seemed to work. Tyler was bigger and more confident. He knew just how to scare Joey.
Joey was even scared to tell the teachers because he thought Tyler might start bothering him even more if he did. He didn’t know what to do.
Is Tyler bullying Joey?
Bullying
NOT Bullying

45. ✓ ✓ ✓ Purposely hurtful powerless over and over Yes this IS bullying!
Tyler is purposely trying to hurt Joey and make him feel scared.
POWER
over and over ✓
It happens over and over.
powerless ✓
Tyler is bigger and more confident than Joey. He’s using his power to make Joey feel scared and powerless. Joey doesn’t feel like there’s anyway to stop it.
To stop this bullying, Joey, Tyler, the teachers, and the other students need to help.

46. Read the story and decide if you think this is a case of bullying or not.
Jacie and Maddie used to be best friends. They did EVERYTHING together. But then a new girl, Joy, moved into the class. Joy loved riding horses, drawing, and swimming, JUST like Jacie!
Maddie didn’t really like drawing or swimming, and she was allergic to horses, so she and Jacie never did these things together. Jacie was excited to finally have someone to do her favorite things with.
Pretty soon, Jacie and Joy did everything together. Maddie started to feel left out and sad. She asked Jacie why she wasn’t playing with her as much and Jacie said she just had more things in common with Joy so they liked playing together more.
Do you think Jacie was bullying Maddie?
Bullying
NOT Bullying

47. Jacie did start playing with Joy over and over instead of Maddie.
This was probably NOT bullying. Jacie and Joy like to do more things together, and even though this makes Maddie sad, it’s not the same as bullying.
Purposely hurtful
Jacie did not purposely try to hurt Maddie.
POWER
over and over ✓
Jacie did start playing with Joy over and over instead of Maddie.
powerless
BUT, she was not trying to use her power to make Maddie feel powerless or lonely. She just had more fun with Joy, but she did not try to make Maddie feel left out.

48. Read the story and decide if you think this is a case of bullying or not.
Maria and Alicia always played together at recess. They normally had a lot of fun playing together, but today they were having a disagreement about what game to play for inside recess. Maria wanted to play checkers, but Alicia wanted to play Tic-tac-toe.
“Will you please play checkers? I really don’t want to play Tic-tac-toe,” Maria said.
“No! I want to play Tic-tac-toe!” Alicia said.
“You always get to choose what to play. What if we put a puzzle together instead?” Maria said.
“I don’t want to put a puzzle together, I just want to play Tic-tac-toe. Let’s play that, or I don’t want to play with you at all.” Alicia said.
This hurt Maria’s feelings, so she went to sit at her desk alone.
Do you think Alicia was bullying Maria or not?
Bullying
NOT Bullying

49. It didn’t happen over and over. Usually, Alicia and Maria get along.
This was probably NOT bullying. Maria and Alicia were just having a normal argument. What Alicia said wasn’t nice, but it likely wasn’t bullying.
Purposely hurtful
It was hurtful, but Alicia might not have been trying to hurt Maria’s feelings. She might just really have wanted to play
Tic-tac-toe.
POWER
over and over
It didn’t happen over and over. Usually, Alicia and Maria get along.
powerless
Maria and Alicia are friends. Their power is balanced. They can probably work this out together. Neither of them feels scared or powerless.

50. Read the story and decide if you think this is a case of bullying or not.
Whenever Alice would walk past Jenny and her friends, they would all stop talking and stare at her as she passed by, then they’d start laughing and whispering to each other. It made Alice feel uncomfortable.
Someone told Alice that Jenny was spreading rumors about her. She was telling everyone really embarrassing things about Alice that weren’t even true, but it still made Alice feel terrible. She tried to ignore it and just hang out with other people, but soon hardly anyone would hang out with her. When she went to sit down at lunch, Jenny stood up and got everyone else to leave the lunch table so that Alice had to eat alone.
Alice started feeling sick about coming to school and would ask her parents if she could stay home. She didn’t know how to stop Jenny from making her feel so bad.
Is Jenny bullying Alice?
Bullying
NOT Bullying

51. ✓ ✓ ✓ Purposely hurtful powerless over and over Yes this IS bullying!
Jenny is purposely trying to hurt Alice and make her feel scared.
POWER
over and over ✓
It happens over and over.
powerless ✓
Jenny is purposely using her power and her popularity to hurt Alice and make her feel alone and powerless. Alice doesn’t know how to stop it and she doesn’t want to come to school anymore because it’s hurting her so much.
To stop this bullying, Jenny, Alice, the teachers, and the other students need to help.

52. Read the story and decide if you think this is a case of bullying or not.
Charlie really wanted to play on the new tire swing at his school, but Katie got there first every day that week. She’d stay on the swing the whole recess and then run out ahead of everyone to get to it first the next recess.
“Please, can I play on the tire swing?” Charlie asked Katie.
“No. I really want to use it right now. I’m having so much fun! Maybe you can use it next week.” Katie said.
Charlie was so upset. Katie was usually nice to him, so why was she being so unfair?
Do you think Katie was bullying Charlie?
Bullying
NOT Bullying

53. It did happen over and over.
This was probably NOT bullying. Katie is being unfair to Charlie, but that doesn’t mean she is bullying him.
Purposely hurtful
Katie isn’t purposely hurting Charlie. She isn’t trying to make him feel bad or scared, she just really wants to play on the swing and doesn’t want to share.
POWER
over and over ✓
It did happen over and over.
powerless
BUT, Katie is not using her power to try to make Charlie feel scared or powerless. He could try to work this out with Katie by himself and if that doesn’t work he can ask a teacher for help. It’s okay for him to ask a teacher for help, even if it’s not bullying.

54. You are probably being bullied if :
What if you’re still not sure if someone is bullying you?
A good way to know if you’re being bullied or not, is to think about how you feel.
You are probably being bullied if :
You feel scared or unsafe
You feel like you just can’t stop it, no matter what you do
You don’t want to come to school anymore
If you don’t feel scared, unsafe, or powerless to stop it, it’s probably not bullying.
Remember, it’s always okay to ask for a teacher’s help even if it ISN’T bullying! First try to solve a problem by yourself, and then you can ask a teacher or adult for help if you need to.

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