1. Engaging Parents and Children
Making a difference today and in the future
Heather Chapman-Henry, LCSW, RPT

3. Building a relationship
This work matters now and makes a difference for the future for kids and adults.
Get to know them and let them know that their goal is your goal.
Tell them what you are there to do
Ask what they want from their kids- have them get specific
Acknowledge how hard it is to be a parent!

4. Tips for Engagement Be upbeat and enthusiastic Be authentic
Make it a game, but lay out the “rules” of no one getting hurt
Ask open ended things like, “Tell me about this person.”
Don’t take things personally

5. Engagement Continued
Keeps things simple Give kids and parents the words to use to express themselves and their needs. If kids don’t want to answer right away, they aren’t ready. Take it away from them or try another way in. Make it a game- “let’s see if we can…”

6. Engagement “Kit”
A soft ball Blank paper and markers (get some cool ones) A squishy or other sensory toy Playdoh Bubbles baloons

7. Specific Activities to Try
Feeling Faces and ball toss
Draw family doing something. This could even be an animal family if this is too much too soon.
Blowing Bubbles together with parent
Balloon toss with feeling faces on balloon
Favorite animal with the Playdoh

8. Parent-Child Connection Activities
Bubble Blow
Hitting balloons back and forth- balloon tennis
Story telling
Tapping or clapping rhythm and asking parent and child to copy
Becky Bailey – “I Love You Rituals”

9. Parent input
Ask parents what works and doesn’t work for their child. Ask them what seems to motivate their child. Ask them to notice and track patterns. Ie. Were they hungry, tired, beginning of day, time of transition? You can ask each time: “What seemed to work this week? What did you try that didn’t work?” End each day with something their child did that they liked.

10. Staying Calm
Feeling safe is key. - flight, fight, freeze All kids actions are trying to tell you something. Breathing sends signals to the brain to calm. Kids and parents have to LEARN and PRACTICE calming themselves. It is not instinctive.

11. Breathing
Water fall breath Square Breathing Balloon breathing Smell the flower- Blow out the candle Ask them to practice when they are calm several times a day ie. At a stop light, on the way to some place, etc.

12. Where is the upset in your body?
Use a marker to show me where your body feels upset. Use yourself as an example.
Good feelings and bad feelings ie. Nervous tummy
Your body is trying to tell you what it needs and how it feels.

13. Recommended Books
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson