1. Integral Love Relationship

2. Evolution of Consciousness

4. Consciousness Development
8. Turquoise—Postintegral—embodied or conceptual 7. Teal—Integral—integrated or partial 6. Green—Pluralistic—sensitive or indifferent 5. Orange—Rational—win or lose 4. Amber—Mythic—right or wrong 3. Red—Egocentric—good or bad 2. Magenta—Magic—safe or unsafe 1. Infrared—Archaic—dead or alive
Second Tier First Tier

5. 1. Infrared Archaic - dead or alive
Basic Qualities and Capacities
Limited Views
Basic survival instincts. Oneness with nature.
No conscious awareness of interior, past or future. 

6. Consciousness Development
8. Turquoise—Postintegral—embodied or conceptual 7. Teal—Integral—integrated or partial 6. Green—Pluralistic—sensitive or indifferent 5. Orange—Rational—win or lose 4. Amber—Mythic—right or wrong 3. Red—Egocentric—good or bad 2. Magenta—Magic—safe or unsafe 1. Infrared—Archaic—dead or alive
Second Tier First Tier

7. 2. Magenta Magic/Superstitious safe or unsafe
Basic Qualities and Capacities
Limited Views
Deep bonding with family, group or tribe.
No individuality. False beliefs in the magic.

8. Consciousness Development
8. Turquoise—Postintegral—embodied or conceptual 7. Teal—Integral—integrated or partial 6. Green—Pluralistic—sensitive or indifferent 5. Orange—Rational—win or lose 4. Amber—Mythic—right or wrong 3. Red—Egocentric—good or bad 2. Magenta—Magic—safe or unsafe 1. Infrared—Archaic—dead or alive
Second Tier First Tier

9. 3. Red Egocentric - good or bad (for me)
Basic Qualities and Capacities
Limited Views
Power, independence, creativity, spontaneity, uninhibited, carefree, alive, authentic, refreshingly open, setting of narrow boundaries.  
It’s all about me and now.

10. Consciousness Development
8. Turquoise—Postintegral—embodied or conceptual 7. Teal—Integral—integrated or partial 6. Green—Pluralistic—sensitive or indifferent 5. Orange—Rational—win or lose 4. Amber—Mythic—right or wrong 3. Red—Egocentric—good or bad 2. Magenta—Magic—safe or unsafe 1. Infrared—Archaic—dead or alive
Second Tier First Tier

11. 4. Amber Mythic/Conformist right or wrong
Basic Qualities and Capacities
Limited Views
Stability, order, purpose, rules, loyalty, hope, recognition, morals, honors past and considers future.
Mythic beliefs. Only one right way. Marginalizes non-conformists. Inflexible, rigid, patriarchal.  

12. Consciousness Development
8. Turquoise—Postintegral—embodied or conceptual 7. Teal—Integral—integrated or partial 6. Green—Pluralistic—sensitive or indifferent 5. Orange—Rational—win or lose 4. Amber—Mythic—right or wrong 3. Red—Egocentric—good or bad 2. Magenta—Magic—safe or unsafe 1. Infrared—Archaic—dead or alive
Second Tier First Tier

13. 5. Orange Rational/Modern win or lose
Basic Qualities and Capacities
Limited Views
Objectivity, good life for all, liberty, happiness, democracy.
Rational, calculating, cold and driven by status and success. Little consideration for environment and losers.
Kepler, Copernicus, Newton, Galileo, Columbus

14. Consciousness Development
8. Turquoise—Postintegral—embodied or conceptual 7. Teal—Integral—integrated or partial 6. Green—Pluralistic—sensitive or indifferent 5. Orange—Rational—win or lose 4. Amber—Mythic—right or wrong 3. Red—Egocentric—good or bad 2. Magenta—Magic—safe or unsafe 1. Infrared—Archaic—dead or alive
Second Tier First Tier

15. 6. Green Pluralistic/Postmodern sensitive or indifferent
Basic Qualities and Capacities
Limited Views
Equality, sensitivity, compassion, non-judgmental, holistic, caring, environmentally conscious, celebrates the feminine, animal rights, sexual liberation, authentic polyamory.
Endless processing and inability to reach decisions, pre/trans fallacy, confuses natural with dominator hierarchies, performative contradictions, marginalizes men and the masculine, elevates the feminine/Goddess image. New-age narcissism.

16. Consciousness Development
8. Turquoise—Postintegral—embodied or conceptual 7. Teal—Integral—integrated or partial 6. Green—Pluralistic—sensitive or indifferent 5. Orange—Rational—win or lose 4. Amber—Mythic—right or wrong 3. Red—Egocentric—good or bad 2. Magenta—Magic—safe or unsafe 1. Infrared—Archaic—dead or alive
Second Tier - Being-Based/Evolutionary First Tier - Need-Based

17. 7. Teal Integral integrated or fragmented
Basic Qualities and Capacities
Limited Views
Recognizes the importance of all preceding levels, including the process of development itself. Does not force own values onto others. Knowledge and competency supersede rank, power, gender, or status. Flexibility, spontaneity, and functionality become the highest priority.
Frustrated, especially with Green, can be cynical, cold, calculating, distant, opportunistic, manipulative, overly analytical and arrogant. Can feel quickly discouraged and bored as it can think it has seen and had it all. Often feels isolated and alone.

18. Consciousness Development
8. Turquoise—Postintegral—embodied or conceptual 7. Teal—Integral—integrated or partial 6. Green—Pluralistic—sensitive or indifferent 5. Orange—Rational—win or lose 4. Amber—Mythic—right or wrong 3. Red—Egocentric—good or bad 2. Magenta—Magic—safe or unsafe 1. Infrared—Archaic—dead or alive
Second Tier First Tier

19. 8. Turquoise Postintegral embodied or conceptual
Basic Qualities and Capacities
Limited Views
Embodiment, full embrace, interweaving, tantric, non-dual, deep ecology. Evolutionary desire to co-create and pro-create to serve universal goals with partner and others. Wisdom.
Radical when it comes to ego-transcendence. Feelings of spiritual superiority and evolutionary elitism. Gurus/teachers negligent about blind-spots and uneven development. Inability to create sustainable organizational structures.

21. Compatibility Matrix

22. Communication at the same level of consciousness, considering male/female differences
Turquise – Co-Creative
Teal - Validity Claims (Truth, Truthfulness and Rightness) Green – Non Violent Comm. Orange – Rational Win-Win Amber – Mythic Roles/Rules
Red – Arguing and Fighting
Magenta – Dominator and Vicitim

23. Four views or perspectives on self/being (1)
Body, including hormones, brainwaves, behavior, impulse-response, truth. Objektivity

24. Four views or perspectives on self/being (2)
Social status and enviornment. Interobjektivity

25. Four views or perspectives on self/being (3)
Mind, soul, worldview, values, believes, dreams, goals, intentions, beauty. Subjektivity

26. Four views or perspectives on self/being (4)
Lanuage, culture. Intersubjektivity

27. Every human possesses these four dimensions

28. Every human possesses these four dimensions

29. Metaphorical Triangle of Love Commitment/Dependence
Internal Intimacy
External Passion
Commitment/Dependence

30. States of Falling In Love
State 1: Lust/Infatuation–driven by sex hormones testosterone and estrogen.

31. Level of Passion He to her She to him External Attraction Intern

32. Primary Male Sexual Fantasy
How does she look?
Primary attraction to body. Men want sex objects. A man wants the one thing from every woman.

33. YouTube „Tit for Tat“

34. Primary Female Sexual Fantasy
How does he look and ???????
Womens desires/needs/wants depend on level of their consciousness. A woman wants everything from one man.

36. Primary Fantasy Dynamic
Height 30k per inch
Ms. 100%
45k
Number
Mr. 80%
Male attractiveness
$0k
$150k+
Female attractiveness

37. Fear-Shame Dynamic

38. I need to feel safe, met and cared for:
I feel threatened/scared; I feel abandoned/disconnected. He does not love me/care for me.
FEAR

39. I need to have sex and be supported/appreciated I am not good enough to make her feel safe and happy. I am not appreciated as protector/provider. She does not look up to me.
Shame

40. Fear/Shame Downward Spiral
Stops romancing
Complaining
Fixing
Nagging
Withdrawing into his cave
Shaming
Angry
Love/Stosny: How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It
Emasculating
Sexually unfaithful
Emotionally unfaithful
Relationship Crash

41. States of Falling In Love
State 1: Lust/Infatuation–driven by sex hormones testosterone and estrogen.
State 2: Attraction/Romance –love-struck phase, driven by dopamine (in cocaine, nicotine, meth), norepinephrine (adrenalin) and serotonin that all make us “temporarily insane”. Conflict, healing, growth, awakening.

42. Level of Intimacy (Interior)
Interne Anziehung
He to her
She to him
Intern
Intern
Extern
Extern

43. Spiritual State-Stages
Gross/Waking (Observe body/objects)
Subtle/Dreaming (Observe thoughts)
Causal/Deep Sleep (Observe experience)
Pure Witness (No subject/object split)
Non-Dual (Integration of the above)

44. Repressed Sexuality Fucking Having Sex Lovemaking Transcendent Sex
Sexual State-Stages
Repressed Sexuality
Fucking
Having Sex
Lovemaking
Transcendent Sex

45. Five Love Languages Personality Types
Words of affirmation (NLP auditory)
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts (NLP visual)
Acts of Service
Physical Touch (NLP kinesthetic)

46. Personality Types
Enneagram

47. Enneagram Personality Types Self Preservation Instinct
Preoccupied with the safety, comfort, health, energy, and well-being of the physical body.
Sexual (aka "Attraction") Instinct
Intense drive for stimulation and a constant awareness of the "chemistry" between themselves and others. Social (aka "Adaptive") Instinct
Serve the needs of the social situation they find themselves in.

48. States of Falling In Love
State 1: Lust/Infatuation–driven by sex hormones testosterone and estrogen.
State 2: Attraction/Romance –love-struck phase, driven by dopamine (in cocaine, nicotine, meth), norepinephrine (adrenalin) and serotonin that all make us “temporarily insane”. Conflict, healing, growth, awakening.
State 3: Attachment–driven by oxytocin (produced during child birth, nursing and orgasm) and vasopressin.

49. Commitment/Dependence
Interne Anziehung
Er zu ihr
Sie zu ihm
Intern
Intern
Extern ?
Extern ?

50. Metaphorical Triangle of Love
Intimacy
Passion
Co-Dependence – Dependence – Independence – Interdependence – Inter-Being – Inter-Becomming

51. Animus Complex In Females:
Stage 1: Male as alien outsider She fears, hates and is strangely attracted to him.
Stage 2: Male as Father, God or King She wants his approval.
Stage 3: Male as Hero She wants to look up to him (marry up to him).
Stage 4: Male as Independent Being She wants to find out who she is outside male relationship.
Stage 5: Male as partner She sees him as an equal and opposite partner.

52. Anima Complex In Males:
Stage 1: Female as Mother He needs a mommy to take care of him.
Stage 2: Female as sex objects He wants her to admire him, be sexually submissive.
Stage 3: Female as a supportive partner He wants her to be his caring, loving wife who he provides for.
Stage 4: Female as creative/spiritual guides She challenges him to find meaning/love from a source other than woman.
Stage 5: Female as equal partner He sees her as an equal and opposite partner.

53. Metaphorical Triangles of Love

54. Integral

55. Feminine/Masculine Polarities:

56. Healthy ascending: To improve, to go beyond, to grow, to create (relationships/larger structures), and to think big. Unhealthy ascending: To ignore, repress, control, and dominate the lower, instead of embracing and caring for it.
Healthy descending: To be connected with and sensitive to the richness and fullness of the world, body, feelings, emotions, and sexuality. Unhealthy descending: To be overwhelmed, fused with, and run by details, feelings, earthly desires, and needs.
Healthy agency: Autonomous functioning of the individual, taking action through one’s own will, self-actualizing. Unhealthy agency: Alienation and dissociation from others.
Healthy communion: Peaceful, responsible, considerate, and caring connection with others. Unhealthy communion: Fusion, dependency, neediness, and clinging.

57. Masculine
Feminine
Masculine
Feminine

61. Purpose What is of ultimate concern to you?
What do you feel most passionate about?
What is your purpose?
Do Good - Find Truth - Create Beauty