1. Social mentalities Competing and social ranking
Affiliative Cooperation
Caregiving/ nurturing
Sexual
Care
eliciting
Connectedness/ support/emotional care/
e.g. Competitive – Social comparison - competences of self relative to others, - pride vs shame
Sexual – attractiveness
Affiliative – sensitivity to distress empathy/sympathy, providing for needs, expressing love and caring, interest in care of others
Useful diagram – and very good succinct summary of social mentalities + like the pics!
Desirability
Conflict for resources
Organise – attention, physiology, reasoning, emotion, cognitions, actions

2. How illness can affect social motives
Competing and social ranking
Affiliative Cooperation
Caregiving/ nurturing
Sexual
Care
eliciting
More reliant on other
Skew in balance of give and take
Emotional memories triggered
Strengthened soothing/calmness, strength, courage, connectedness through successful navigation of threats
Body/self less desirable, less able to compete for resources. Shame at bodily functions/changes and vigilance to rejection as ‘not good enough’
Reduction in competitiveness perspective about what really matters
e.g. Competitive – Social comparison - competences of self relative to others, - pride vs shame
Sexual – attractiveness
Affiliative – sensitivity to distress empathy/sympathy, providing for needs, expressing love and caring, interest in care of others
Define emotional memories
Split into 2 slides
Physical vulnerability
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I wonder whether you could include potential positive impact of illness related to the competing/social ranking motive - I recall that in the “In sickness and Health” paper they discuss how illness/health threat can sometimes lead to reduction in competitiveness between partners - and gaining a different/more healthy perspective about what really matters, potentially strengthening relationship – a minor point.