1. Harmful Relationships

2. Profile – A short description of a person.
What is your profile?
Profile – A short description of a person.
The following profiles will help you learn :
If you relate in harmful ways
If anyone who know relates in harmful ways

3. Type 1: The People Pleaser
The people pleaser is a person who constantly seeks the approval of others.
Constantly seeks approval from others
Performs unhealthy behaviors at times just to please others (drinking Illegal activities)
Viewed as doormat by others
Blocks there own potential for relationships because of low confidence and self respect

4. Type 2:Enabler
An enabler is a person who supports the harmful behavior of others
Often denies that the other person is committing bad behaviors or refuses to believe it
Makes excuses for the other person’s bad behaviors like blaming one self for being put down
Does not hold other person accountable for there behaviors

5. Type 3: The clinger
A clinger is a person who is needy and dependent. The clinger feels empty and wants the constant attention of another person in order to feel better.
Attention hungry
Dominates much of other person’s time
Can be controlling at points
Many times overwhelming to other person which then drives other person away.

6. Type 4: The Fixer
A fixer is a person who tries to fix another person’s problems. The fixer offers constant advice and might try to choose solutions for another person.
Constantly trying to solve other persons problems
May find solutions to other persons problems which takes up much of there time
Not a very good listener mainly wants to give advice
Not good in relationships because they tend to not listen

7. Type 5: The distancer
A distancer is a person who is emotionally unavailable to others. There are a variety of ways in which the distancer can keep other people at arm’s length.
Tends to not share feelings
Tries to remain busy with other things to avoid getting more involved with relationship
Has a hard time comitting to others.

8. Type 6: The controller
A controller is a person who is possessive, jealous, and domineering. The controller seeks to have power over others.
Possessive
Controls other persons time
Always trying to find out or tell where and what other person is doing
Does not give other person space

9. Type 7: The Center
A center us a person who is self-centered. The center is interested only in his or her own beliefs, attitudes, and ideas.
Does not listen to others
Controls most conversations
Dominates choices in a relationship
Does not provide needs of others

10. Type 8: The abuser
An abuser is a person who is abusive. The abuser might choose verbal abuse. He or she might make demeaning remarks or threats. The abuser might choose physical abuse.
May force sex acts
May use physical force as threats
Short tempered

11. Type 9: The liar
A liar is a person who does not tell the truth. Other people might respond and behave based on the false information presented by the liar.
Compulsive
Causes distrust
Creates distrust

12. Type 9: The Promise Breaker
A promise breaker is a person who is not reliable. The promise breaker might arrange to participate in an activity with another person and then not honor the promise.
Causes distrust
Exhausting
Causes other person to lose faith in them

13. Communication is the key
Convo Keepers
Ask questions
Show interest
Listen
Respond
Consider others ideas
Encourage
Be positive
Eye contact
Convo Killers
Talk about oneself
Lack of interest in what someone is saying
Interrupts others
Changes the topic
Being a know it all
Complaining
Talking about others
Avoid eye contact

14. Setting Guidelines For Dating
Dating = Any organized social plans with someone of similar interested
Inform your parents
Parents know exact plans
Arrange for safe transportation (other parents)
Establish reasonable curfew
Establish your code of conduct
Establish a code of conduct for them

15. Developing a code Talk about your values and expectations
Limit physical expressions of affection and let others know
Do not date those who do not respect your code
Agree to avoid alcohol and other drugs to limit unhealthy or dangerous situations
Stay In public places
Go on dates with other couples

16. What's responsible Responsible decisions are… Promote health
Protect safety
Follow laws
Show respect for self and others
Follow parents guidelines
Demonstrates character (demonstrates sel control to act responsibly)

17. What Dating Related Choices Might Not Be Responsible?

18. Sharpen Your Dating Skills
Not basing self worth on whether or not you can get a date
Be confident enough to deny dates that involve drugs and alcohol
Honor your dating commitments
It is healthy to have more than one date (do not get physical)
Exit a dangerous dating situation
Be clear of dating expectations when giving a gift
Be honest and kind when turning someone down for a date

19. Dating Abuse 101 Assault~ a physical attack or threat of attack
Homicide~ the killing of a person
Rape~ Sexual penetration without consent
Violence~ Abuse used by one person in a relationship to control another.
Aggressive Behavior~ The use of words or actions that are disrespectful toward others.
Passive Behavior~ The holding back of ideas, feelings, and decisions.

20. Date Abuse Stages
Build-up Phase- Frustration, anger, tension and even cruelty
Explosion Phase- Abuse and intentional harmful touching of another person
Honeymoon Phase- The victimizer has released anger. They now express shame remorse and even become caring giving gifts to win back trust

21. 68% of teens say boyfriends/girlfriends sharing private or embarrassing pictures/videos on cell phones and computers is a serious problem.
19% of teens in relationships say their partner has used a cellular device or the internet to spread rumors about
Nearly 1 in 4 teens in a relationship communicated with their partner via cell phone or texting HOURLY between 12 am & 5 am
1 in 3 teens say they are texted 10, 20, 30 times an hour by a partner keeping tabs on them
1 in 4 teens in a relationship say they have been called names, harassed, or put down by their partner through cell phones & texting.
71% of teens regard boyfriends/girlfriends spreading rumors about them on cell phones and social networking sites as a serious problem.

22. Watch Out Tech Abuse Disrespect using social media outlets
Excessive non stop messaging texting harassment
Online stalking
Threatening to share pictures

23. Myths About Dating Violence
Drugs alcohol make someone violent
Myth: Drugs and alcohol possess potential to intensify emotions and decrease inhibitions (What holds us back from making bad decisions).
Women are victims of violence more often than men
FACT: The U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics reports that 95% of the reported incidents of assaults in relationships are committed by males.

24. Most of the time abusers will never get better because it is a learned behavior and cannot be unlearned.
MYTH: Although it is uncommon for an abusive person to change and unlearn their behavior, if they acknowledge their behavior and want to change for themselves it can happen. However, no one can make them change, they have to make the decision for themselves.
If a person stays in an abusive relationship, it must not really be that bad.
MYTH: People stay in abusive relationships for a number of reasons: fear, economic dependence, confusion, loss of self-confidence, not recognizing that what’s happening is abusive, belief that the abuser needs their help or will change.

25. Being Physical Discuss your limits to healthy mutual choices
Make limits known
Do not date those who don’t respect your limits
Avoid alcohol and drugs or those who use such
There is only one you

26. Resources