2 Liking, Loving, Leaving and Hating: Backman’s Model of Relationships Stage 1: From “no contact” to “unilateral awareness”The key importance of propinquityAdditional factorsCultural restraintsFamilial restraintsIndividual factors (sexuality, disability, etc)
3 Backman’s 4 Stages (cont.) Stage 2: Sampling and estimationBegins with first impressionsThen comes identity bargaining (impression management)The comes the compromise processProspectives are usually similar in race, age, class, etc.Prospectives are similar in physical atttractivenessNormative Constraints can re-emerge at this stage.
4 Backman’s 4 Stages (cont.) Stage 3: Social PenetrationSelf-disclosureInterdependenceEmotional convergenceChanges in self-attributions: “We” instead of ‘I”Reinforcement and learning: partners train one another
5 Backman’s 4 Stages (end) Stage 4: Relationships are maintained, or relationships dissolve. Why?Changes in costs and rewardsIndividual: “I am more successful than you now!”Relational: “We’re bored with one another”Situational: “I can’t support you financially anymore”Cultural: “It’s okay for me to work outside the home now!”Interpersonal Processes leading to terminationReciprocityQuestioning of motives“Going public”Unequal involvement