1. Lesson 3: No One Grows Alone
No One Eats Alone

2. Objectives Students will be able to receive and give compliments.
Students will distinguish the difference between a meaningful compliment and a surface compliment and analyze how tone affects meaning.
Students will determine what supports are in their lives that are positive and what leadership skills they need to become an activist and leader that combats social isolation.
Students will create personal action steps to help combat social isolation.

3. Free-Write and Discuss
What is the best compliment you ever received?
What made it a good compliment?
How did it make you feel?
What if you received a compliment just as meaningful every day?
If we gave more compliments at school, how do you think it would change the culture of our school?

4. Compliment Practice and Discussion
It takes courage to give and receive compliments.
First Compliment: “I really like your shirt.” (Say it without much feeling.)
Second Compliment: “I really like your shirt.” (Say it sarcastically.)
Third Compliment: “I really like your shirt.” (Say it meaningfully…perhaps include why you like the shirt.)
Discussion: How did you feel after each of the three compliments?

5. Reflection: What can I do to combat social isolation?
Drawing Instructions:
Think about the people, places, and things that give you positivity and strength; the things that ground you. These things should go in the roots. Try to come up with at least 5-8 ideas.
Think about the leadership skills you will need to combat social isolation at your school. For example you might need courage. Try to come up with at least 4-5 characteristics.
Think about what you can personally do at school to help combat social isolation; what actions can you take? This is the most important step and you should write 8-10 actions.
Be ready to share your artwork out to a group!

6. Compliment Practice and Discussion Round 2
Discussion: What is the difference between a surface compliment and a deeper compliment? Think about the difference between telling someone you like their shirt and the compliment you free wrote about in the beginning of class.
Compliments that are deeper are about things that are not just on the outside or things that can change frequently, but are about things that are deep inside us.
For instance, your shirt can change everyday, or your hair might change from month to month, but telling someone, “I think you are a great friend and leader because I feel like you listen to me and hear me when I am sad, and you try to include everyone” is something that person will carry with them throughout their life.

7. Compliment Practice and Discussion Round 2
We are going to try giving compliments again, but this time they should be deep compliments.
What are examples of deep compliments?
I noticed how you work really hard in…
I think it is cool that you like…
I admire how you always…
Steps:
Form two groups.
Group 1: spread out in the room and close your eyes.
Group 2: quietly walk around the room and go up to as many people as possible and whisper deep compliments in their ear.
Switch! Group 2 spread out and close your eyes; group 1 quietly give deep compliments
Discuss: How did it feel receiving compliments?” “How did it feel giving compliments?”

8. Beyond Differences Challenge!
Spend the week thinking about deep compliments you can give to others in order to combat social isolation.
Be courageous! Give the compliments!!!

9. Join us online! What can you do to combat social isolation?
Join Beyond Differences online movement #NoOneGrowsAlone
Follow our online campaign #NoOneEatsAlone
Continue the conversation about what actions you can personally take to end social isolation by sharing a sign on social media.
Students and teachers can upload photos to the Beyond Differences’ Facebook Page, or tag Beyond Differences on Instagram or Twitter with a caption that includes the hash tag #NoOneGrowsAlone.
Students can use the sentence frame: “I plan to combat social isolation by…”

10. No One Eats Alone!