1. Lesson 5: No One Shows Appreciation Alone
No One Eats Alone™
Presented by Beyond Differences
Lesson 5: No One Shows Appreciation Alone

2. Objectives Students will be able to receive and give compliments.
Students will distinguish the difference between a meaningful compliment and a surface compliment and analyze how tone affects meaning.

3. Free Write and Discuss What is the best compliment you ever received?
What made it a good compliment?
How did it make you feel?
What if you received a compliment just as meaningful every day?
If we gave more compliments at school, how do you think it would change the culture of our school?

4. Compliment Practice It takes courage to give and receive compliments.
Line up in two lines facing a partner.
First compliment: “I really like your shirt.” (Say it without much feeling.)
Second compliment: “I really like your shirt.” (Say it sarcastically.)
Third compliment: “I really like your shirt.” (Say it meaningfully…perhaps include why you like the shirt.)

5. Compliment Discussion
How did you feel after each of the three compliments?
Was it harder to give or receive the compliment and why?
What is the difference between a surface compliment and a deeper compliment?
Think about the difference between telling someone you like their shirt and the compliment you free wrote about in the beginning of class. 

6. Deep Compliments
Compliments that are deeper are about things that are not just on the outside or things that can change frequently, but are about things that are deep inside us.
For instance, your shirt can change everyday, or your hair might change from month to month, but telling someone, “I think you are a great friend and leader because I feel like you listen to me, hear me when I am sad, and that you try to include everyone” is something that person will carry with them throughout their life.

7. Compliment Practice and Discussion Round 2
We are going to try giving compliments again but this time they should be deep compliments.
What are examples of deep compliments?
I noticed how you work really hard in…
I think it is cool that you like…
I admire how you always…
Steps:
Form two groups.
Group 1: spread out in the room and close your eyes.
Group 2: quietly walk around the room and go up to as many people as possible and whisper deep compliments in their ear.
Switch! Group 2 spread out and close your eyes; Group 1 quietly give deep compliments.

8. Discuss How did it feel receiving compliments?
How did it feel giving compliments?

9. Wrap Up: No One Shows Appreciation Alone Worksheet
Use your worksheet and reflect on the following questions:
What did you learn from both giving and receiving compliments? 
What leadership qualities do you think you need to both give and receive compliments? 
If you gave someone at school one deep compliment a day and received one deep compliment a day, how do you think that would change the culture of our school?

10. Beyond Differences Challenge!
Spend the week thinking about deep compliments you can give to others in order to end social isolation.
Be courageous! Give the compliments!!!

11. No One Eats Alone™!