1. Relationships

2. Stage 1- The Sparkle (Infatuation)
To begin this relationship you must be open and vulnerable
One feels positive about him or herself with increased self worth.
The person seems perfect for you
You cant seem to see enough of each other.
Any lack of attentention brings anxiety, fear of rejection and jealousy.

3. Stage 1- The Sparkle (Infatuation)
Ones individuality may be lost and sacrificed to this early relationship.
You don’t see the other person’s faults
This stage is an important part of beginning a good relationship and is the first step toward mature mutual acceptance

4. Stage 2- The Disillusionment
Begin to see the other person’s faults
Become irritable or competitive with one another
Involves disenchantment, thinking “maybe they aren’t as perfect as I thought”.
One of the following will happen
Can come to grips with the imperfections
Withdrawal of affection and the end of relationship

5. Stage 2- The Disillusionment
This stage is inevitable. Knowing your core (crucial) issues, methods of resolving conflict and positive communication techniques will help the relationship into the last stage

6. Stage 3-Mutual Acceptance (Mature Love)
See and accept the shortcomings of the other person.
Can be ourselves and feel secure without jealously
Can exchange strengths
Can be venturesome and spontaneous
Affirms self worth

7. Stage 3-Mutual Acceptance (Mature Love)
Most frequently a relationship ends in the first stage or when the disillusionment begins. Realizing that our self-image should not be destroyed because a relationship ended is important. Instead, deal with the grief of an ended relationship and work to make the next relations even better!

8. 3 Components of Relationships
Intimacy
Feelings of closeness
Connectedness
Grows steadily at first then tapers off
Experienced with family, friends, lovers

9. 3 Components of Relationships
Passion
Drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, and sexual interaction.
Intense desire to be with the loved one.
Develops rapidly in relationships and levels off

10. 3 Components of Relationships
Commitment
The decision that one cares for another and wishes to maintain the relationship.
Increases gradually at first and then grows more rapidly as the relationship develops.

11. Specific Types of Relationships- Sternberg
Non-Love
Absence of all three components
The relationship we have with acquaintances
Friendship
Contains intimacy
The first type of relationship we experience outside our families

12. Infatuation Empty Love Passion without intimacy or commitment
Love at first sight
Preoccupation with the other person
Seesawing emotions
Empty Love
Commitment without passion or intimacy
Often seen in the final stage of a relationship
In arranged marriage it may be the beginning

13. Romantic Love Fantasy Love Intimacy as well as passion
First experienced in adolescence
Romeo and Juliet type of relationship
Fantasy Love
Involves passion and commitment without intimacy
Portrayed on TV and in movies
Unlikely to last without the stabilizing effect of intimacy

14. Companion Love Complete Love Contains intimacy and commitment
Basically a long term friendship
Complete Love
Exists when all three components of the triangle are present
Achieving this type of relationship is difficult
Once achieved, much effort is required to sustain a special relationship