… and such were some of you …

… and such were some of you …
Week 32 Counseling People Committing Sexual Sin … and such were some of you … 1 Corinthians 6:9-11

Biblical Counseling Basics 2012 - 2013
Faith Baptist Church of Palm Bay Biblical Counseling Basics

Biblical Counseling Basics Set #4 AUGUST-NOVEMBER 2013
8/28:Four Rules of Communication 9/11:Counseling People with Medical Illness 10/2:Trials and Suffering 10/9:Counseling Psychological Diagnosis 10/16:A Biblical View of Anger 10/23:Helping Those Suffering w/ Depression 10/30:Counseling Those in Sexual Sin 11/6:Forgiveness

1 Corinthians 6:9-11 9 - Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10 - Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God. Sexual Sin

Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin
Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin Introduction Biblical counselors will frequently minister to individuals enslaved to the following sins and/or people impacted by a loved one involved in these activities: Fornication • Pornography Adultery • Masturbation Homosexuality • Child Abuse Due to what is happening in our culture, we should prepare ourselves to do even more counseling in these areas in the future Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin Introduction Counselors frequently minister to those enslaved to sexual sins Due to what is happening in our culture, we should prepare ourselves to do even more counseling in these areas in the future 96 teenagers become pregnant every hour 1 in 14 girls has a sexually transmitted disease U.S. has 2700 strip clubs Doubled since 1987 American Spend >$ on strip clubs than ballet, theatre, classical, and jazz concerts combined $13B / 200 production companies (CA epicenter) 70% admitted to struggling with porn daily (XXX church) 54% of pastors viewed pornography within last year 70% of men (21% women) struggle with pornography 96 teenagers become pregnant every hour (Billboard on I 65 between Indianapolis ) 1 in 14 girls has a sexually transmitted disease(Indianapolis Star – reporting on a federal study) U.S. has 2700 strip clubs Doubled since 1987) American Spend more money on strip clubs than ballet theatre classical and jazz concerts combined $13B 200 production companies in (epicenter in CA) XXX church – 70% admitted to struggling with porn in daily lives (unscientific survey) Rick Warren’s pastor.com poll in % viewed pornography within last year Other surveys show 70% of men and 21% of women struggle with pornography Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin Outline Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament Foundational Perspectives Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin
I. Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament PORNEIA MOICHOS AKATHARSIA ASELGEIA MALAKOS ARSENOKOITES DSM IV TR = Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV – Technical (Text) Revision Sexual Sin Go to 52

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin I. Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament PORNEIA It is used of illicit sexual intercourse (1 Cor. 5:1; 6:9,13,18 7:2; 2 Cor. 12:21; Gal. 5:19; Eph. 5:3; Col. 3:5; 1 Thess. 4:3) DSM IV TR = Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV – Technical (Text) Revision Sexual Sin

1 Corinthians 5:1 It is reported commonly [that there is] fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father’s wife. Sexual Sin

1 Corinthians 6:9,13, 18 9 - Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 13 - Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body [is] not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. 18 - Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. Sexual Sin

1 Corinthians 7:2 Nevertheless, [to avoid] fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Sexual Sin

2 Corinthians 12:21; [And] lest, when I come again, my God will humble me among you, and [that] I shall bewail many which have sinned already, and have not repented of the uncleanness and fornication and lasciviousness which they have committed. Sexual Sin

Galatians 5:19; Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are [these;] Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness Sexual Sin

Ephesians 5:3; But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; Sexual Sin

Colossians 3:5; Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: Sexual Sin

1 Thessolonians 4:3 For this is the will of God, [even] your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin I. Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament PORNEIA It is used of illicit sexual intercourse The KJV typically translates it either “immorality” or some form of “fornication”. In the plural in Matt 5:32; 19:9 it stands for or includes “adultery’ DSM IV TR = Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV – Technical (Text) Revision Sexual Sin

Matthew 5:3 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. Sexual Sin

Matthew 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except [it be] for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin I. Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament PORNEIA MOICHOS This denotes one who has unlawful intercourse with the spouse of another (Luke 18:11; 1 Cor. 6:9; Heb. 13:4; 2 Pt. 2:14; Rom. 7:3.) DSM IV TR = Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV – Technical (Text) Revision Sexual Sin

Luke 18:11 The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, God, I thank thee, that I am not as other men [are,] extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this publican. Sexual Sin

1 Corinthians 6:9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, PORNEIA = Fornicators MOICHOS = Adulterers Sexual Sin

Hebrews 13:4 Marriage [is] honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Sexual Sin

2 Peter 2:14 Having eyes full of adultery, and that cannot cease from sin; beguiling unstable souls: an heart they have exercised with covetous practices; cursed children: Sexual Sin

Romans 7:3 So then if, while [her] husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. Sexual Sin

The KJV frequently translates it with some form of adultery
Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin I. Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament PORNEIA MOICHOS Unlawful intercourse with spouse of another The KJV frequently translates it with some form of adultery DSM IV TR = Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV – Technical (Text) Revision Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin I. Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament PORNEIA MOICHOS AKATHARSIA This word denotes moral uncleanness (TV, movies, jokes, etc.) (Rom. 1:24; 6:19; 2 Cor. 12:21; Gal. 5:19; Eph. 4:19; 5:3; Col. 3:5) Sexual Sin

Romans 1:24; 6:19 1:24 - Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: 6:19 - I speak after the manner of men because of the infirmity of your flesh: for as ye have yielded your members servants to uncleanness and to iniquity unto iniquity; even so now yield your members servants to righteousness unto holiness. Sexual Sin

AKATHARSIA = Uncleaness
2 Corinthians 12:21 [And] lest, when I come again, my God will humble me among you, and [that] I shall bewail many which have sinned already, and have not repented of the uncleanness and fornication and lasciviousness which they have committed. PORNEIA = Fornication AKATHARSIA = Uncleaness Sexual Sin

Galatians 5:19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are [these;] Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, PORNEIA = Fornication MOICHOS = Adultery AKATHARSIA = Uncleaness Sexual Sin

Ephesians 4:19; 5:3 4:19 - Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness. 5:3 - But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; PORNEIA = Fornication AKATHARSIA = Uncleaness Sexual Sin

Colossians 3:5 Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: PORNEIA = Fornication AKATHARSIA = Uncleaness Sexual Sin

The KJV usually translates it impurity
Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin I. Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament PORNEIA MOICHOS AKATHARSIA This word denotes moral uncleanness The KJV usually translates it impurity DSM IV TR = Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV – Technical (Text) Revision Sexual Sin

Week 32 ASELGEIA Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin
I. Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament PORNEIA MOICHOS AKATHARSIA ASELGEIA This word denotes excess, licentiousness, absence of restraint, indecency, wantonness, debauchery, sensuality (Orgy, Spouse swapping, threesomes, etc.) Mk. 7:22; 2 Cor. 12:21; Gal. 5:19; Eph. 4:19 DSM IV TR = Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV – Technical (Text) Revision Sexual Sin

Dictionary Definitions
Licentiousness: pursuing desires aggressively and selfishly, unchecked by morality, especially in sexual matters Lasciviousness: showing a desire for, or unseemly interest in, sex; provoking lust Sexual Sin

Mark 7:22 Thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness: Sexual Sin

2 Corinthians 12:21 [And] lest, when I come again, my God will humble me among you, and [that] I shall bewail many which have sinned already, and have not repented of the uncleanness and fornication and lasciviousness which they have committed. PORNEIA = Fornication AKATHARSIA = Uncleaness ASELGEIA = Lasciviousness Sexual Sin

Galatians 5:19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are [these;] Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, PORNEIA = Fornication AKATHARSIA = Uncleaness ASELGEIA = Lasciviousness Sexual Sin

Ephesians 4:19 Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness. AKATHARSIA = Uncleaness ASELGEIA = Lasciviousness Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin I. Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament PORNEIA MOICHOS AKATHARSIA ASELGEIA Excess, licentiousness, absence of restraint, indecency, wantonness, debauchery, sensuality The KJV usually translates it lasciviousness Others translate it sensuality DSM IV TR = Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV – Technical (Text) Revision Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin I. Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament PORNEIA MOICHOS AKATHARSIA ASELGEIA MALAKOS This word denotes a homosexual lifestyle, particularly one who takes the passive partner role in a male-to-male sex act. DSM IV TR = Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV – Technical (Text) Revision Sexual Sin

Week 32 MALAKOS Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin
I. Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament PORNEIA MOICHOS AKATHARSIA ASELGEIA MALAKOS Passive Homosexual lifestyle Variously translated as male prostitute (NIV), effeminate (NASB, ASV, KJV), homosexual (NKJV), (homo) sexual pervert (RSV, REB, NEB), boy prostitute, catamite in 1 Cor. 6:9 DSM IV TR = Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV – Technical (Text) Revision Sexual Sin

1 Corinthians 6:9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, PORNEIA = Fornicators MOICHOS = Adultery MALAKOS = Effeminate Sexual Sin

The KJV usually translates it effeminate
Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin I. Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament PORNEIA MOICHOS AKATHARSIA ASELGEIA MALAKOS Passive Homosexual lifestyle The KJV usually translates it effeminate DSM IV TR = Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV – Technical (Text) Revision Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin I. Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament PORNEIA 2. MOICHOS AKATHARSIA 4. ASELGEIA MALAKOS ARSENOKOITES This word denotes a homosexual lifestyle, especially one who takes the active role in homosexual intercourse DSM IV TR = Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV – Technical (Text) Revision Sexual Sin

Week 32 ARSENOKOITES Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin
I. Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament PORNEIA 2. MOICHOS AKATHARSIA 4. ASELGEIA MALAKOS ARSENOKOITES Active homosexual lifestyle Specifically interpreted as male homosexual pedophilia (one who practices anal intercourse, especially with a boy) DSM IV TR = Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV – Technical (Text) Revision Sexual Sin

Week 32 ARSENOKOITES Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin
I. Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament PORNEIA 2. MOICHOS AKATHARSIA 4. ASELGEIA MALAKOS ARSENOKOITES Active homosexual lifestyle, pedophilia Translated as: Abusers of themselves with mankind (KJV) Perverts (NIV, NEB, REB) Sodomites (RSV, NRSV, NKJV) Homosexual (NJB, NASB) Practicing homosexual (NAB) 1 Cor. 6:9; 1 Tim 1:10 DSM IV TR = Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV – Technical (Text) Revision Sexual Sin

ARSENOKOITES = Abusers of themselves with mankind
1 Corinthians 6:9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, PORNEIA = Fornicators MOICHOS = Adultery MALAKOS = Effeminate ARSENOKOITES = Abusers of themselves with mankind Sexual Sin

1 Timothy 1:10 For whoremongers, for them that defile themselves with mankind, for menstealers, for liars, for perjured persons, and if there be any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine; Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin I. Key Greek Words and Selected Uses in the New Testament PORNEIA 2. MOICHOS AKATHARSIA 4. ASELGEIA MALAKOS ARSENOKOITES Active homosexual lifestyle, pedophilia The KJV usually translates it abusers of themselves with mankind NASB usually translates it homosexual DSM IV TR = Diagnostic and Statistical Manual IV – Technical (Text) Revision Sexual Sin

Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives
Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Sin begins as temptation in the heart Sin, is malignant Victory is possible Sexual Sin Go to 85

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Understanding Temptation: Sin begins as temptation in the heart (James 1:13-18) Unrestrained desire (vv ) Sexual Sin

sin which leads to death
James 1:13-15 13 - Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man: 14 - But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death Legitimate desire (in the heart) grows to unrestrained desire (lust) grows to sin which leads to death Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Understanding Temptation: Sin begins as temptation in the heart (James 1:13-18) Unrestrained desire (vv ) Growing discontentment (vv ) Sexual Sin

James 1:16-17 16 - Do not err, my beloved brethren Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning. Unrestrained desire leads to growing discontentment It’s not what we want, it’s how bad we want it Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Understanding Temptation: Sin begins as temptation in the heart (James 1:13-18) Unrestrained desire (vv ) Growing discontentment (vv ) Misplaced focus (v. 18) Sexual Sin

James 1:18 Of his own will begat he us with the word of truth, that we should be a kind of first fruits of his creatures Instead of being fruitful for God, we become focused on selfish interests Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Understanding Temptation: Sin begins as temptation in the heart (James 1:13-18) Unrestrained desire (vv ) Growing discontentment (vv ) Misplaced focus (v. 18) Essentially, it is an issue of worship: Who or what is going to rule you? Who or what you are going to serve? Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Sin begins as temptation in the heart Sin, left unchecked, is malignant and leads to more sin. Note the downward spiral into sexual degradation described in Rom 1:21-28,32 Conclusion: Nobody goes from walking in the light one day to walking in the darkness the next Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Sin begins as temptation in the heart Sin, is malignant and leads to more sin. Downward sexual spiral in Romans 1 A Failure to glorify God (v. 21a) Sexual Sin

Romans 1:21a Because that, when they knew God, they glorified [him] not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Sin begins as temptation in the heart Sin, is malignant and leads to more sin. Downward sexual spiral in Romans 1 A Failure to glorify God (v. 21a) The loss of a grateful spirit (v. 21b) Sexual Sin

Romans 1:21b Because that, when they knew God, they glorified [him] not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Sin begins as temptation in the heart Sin, is malignant and leads to more sin. Downward sexual spiral in Romans 1 A Failure to glorify God (v. 21a) The loss of a grateful spirit (v. 21b) A foolish heart becoming further darkened (v. 21c) Sexual Sin

Romans 1:21c Because that, when they knew God, they glorified [him] not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened. Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Sin begins as temptation in the heart Sin, is malignant and leads to more sin. Downward sexual spiral in Romans 1 A Failure to glorify God (v. 21a) The loss of a grateful spirit (v. 21b) A foolish heart becoming further darkened (v. 21c) The suppression of truth (vv. 22, 25a) Sexual Sin

22 - Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools,
Romans 1:22, 25a 22 - Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools, 25 - Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. Fools deny the truth and/or change truth to a lie Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Sin begins as temptation in the heart Sin, is malignant and leads to more sin. Downward sexual spiral in Romans 1 A Failure to glorify God (v. 21a) The loss of a grateful spirit (v. 21b) A foolish heart becoming further darkened (v. 21c) The suppression of truth (vv. 22, 25a) Sin tightens its grip (vv ) Sexual Sin

Romans 1:24-25 24 - Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: 25 - Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. When man pushes against the boundaries, God releases you to further degradation Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Sin begins as temptation in the heart Sin, is malignant and leads to more sin. Downward sexual spiral in Romans 1 A Failure to glorify God (v. 21a) The loss of a grateful spirit (v. 21b) A foolish heart becoming further darkened (v. 21c) The suppression of truth (vv. 22, 25a) Sin tightens its grip (vv ) Given over to degrading passions (vv ) Sexual Sin

Numerous sexual sins listed here
Romans 1:26-27 26 - For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: 27 - And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. Numerous sexual sins listed here Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Sin begins as temptation in the heart Sin, is malignant and leads to more sin. Downward sexual spiral in Romans 1 A Failure to glorify God (v. 21a) The loss of a grateful spirit (v. 21b) A foolish heart becoming further darkened (v. 21c) The suppression of truth (vv. 22, 25a) Sin tightens its grip (vv ) Given over to degrading passions (vv ) Filled with all unrighteousness (vv ) Sexual Sin

Numerous sins result; Doing sin & having pleasure when others do
Romans 1:28-32 And even as they did not like to retain God in [their] knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; 29 - Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, 30 - Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, 31 - Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: 32 - Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them. Numerous sins result; Doing sin & having pleasure when others do Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Sin begins as temptation in the heart Sin, is malignant and leads to more sin. Downward sexual spiral in Romans 1 Story of NANC contributor (writer / speaker) arrested with Child molestation (went to prison) Dr. Wayne Mack – “Well when he fell, he didn’t fall far” Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Sin begins as temptation in the heart Sin, is malignant Victory is possible (1 Cor. 6:9-11) Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Sin begins as temptation in the heart Sin, is malignant Victory is possible (1 Cor. 6:9-11) All forms of sexual sins are in Paul's list (v.9): Fornicators Adulterers Effeminate Homosexual Sexual Sin

ARSENOKOITES = Abusers of themselves with mankind
1 Corinthians 6:9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, PORNEIA = Fornicators MOICHOS = Adultery MALAKOS = Effeminate ARSENOKOITES = Abusers of themselves with mankind Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Sin begins as temptation in the heart Sin, is malignant Victory is possible (1 Cor. 6:9-11) All forms of sexual sins are in Paul's list: Sin's domination is broken "Such were some of you .... “ "But. .. but ... but " Paul uses the strongest Greek terminology to indicate the contrast of the Christian life with the worldly life he has just been describing As a believer in Christ, victory over life-dominating sin is possible Sexual Sin

Week 32 Helping Those Suffering with Sexual Sin II. Foundational Perspectives Sin begins as temptation in the heart Sin, is malignant Victory is possible (1 Cor. 6:9-11) All forms of sexual sins are in Paul's list: Sin's domination is broken Victory is not an absence of temptation but a lifestyle marked by growth in turning from sin and sinning to God and godliness (1 Cor. 10:13; Rom. 6:11-13, 19) Sexual Sin

1 Corinthians 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God [is] faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear [it. Sexual Sin

Rom. 6:11-13 11 - Likewise reckon ye also yourselves to be dead indeed unto sin, but alive unto God through Jesus Christ our Lord. 12 - Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof. 13 - Neither yield ye your members [as] instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members [as] instruments of righteousness unto God. Sexual Sin

Rom. 6:19 I speak after the manner of men because of the infirmity of your flesh: for as ye have yielded your members servants to uncleanness and to iniquity unto iniquity; even so now yield your members servants to righteousness unto holiness. Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help the individual recognize, accept and acknowledge his sin Be alert to worldly rationalizations and justifications that minimize the sin Define and explain key words in appropriate passages (e.g.1 Cor.6:9-11; Gal. 5:19-21; Mk. 7:21-23, etc.) Sexual Sin

Gal. 5:19-21 19 - Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are [these;] Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, 20 - Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, 21 - Envyings, murders, Sexual Sin

Mk. 7:21-23 For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, 22 - Thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness: 23 - All these evil things come from within, and defile the man. Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help the individual recognize, accept and acknowledge his sin Be alert to worldly rationalizations that minimize the sin Define and explain key words in appropriate passages Counselors on occasion may need to "build the guilt” to aid the counselee's repentance Cavalier attitude Help understand the devastation and the potential progression in the future Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting To repent means to have a change of thinking that leads to a change of behavior. This is an ongoing process throughout the Christian life (Eph 4:22-24) Sexual Sin

Ephesians 4:22-24 That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; 23 - And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; 24 - And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness. Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Repent: change of thinking and behavior It involves a turning from sin and sinning to God and godliness (1 Thess. 1:4-10; 1 Pet 3:10-11) Sexual Sin

1 Thessalonians 1:4-10 4 - Knowing, brethren beloved, your election of God. 5 - For our gospel came not unto you in word only, but also in power, and in the Holy Ghost, and in much assurance; as ye know what manner of men we were among you for your sake. 6 - And ye became followers of us, and of the Lord, having received the word in much affliction, with joy of the Holy Ghost: 7 - So that ye were ensamples to all that believe in Macedonia and Achaia. 8 - For from you sounded out the word of the Lord not only in Macedonia and Achaia, but also in every place your faith to God-ward is spread abroad; so that we need not to speak any thing. 9 - For they themselves shew of us what manner of entering in we had unto you, and how ye turned to God from idols to serve the living and true God; 10 - And to wait for his Son from heaven, whom he raised from the dead, [even] Jesus, which delivered us from the wrath to come. Sexual Sin

1 Peter 3:10-11 For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: 11 - Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it. Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Repent: change of thinking and behavior Turning from sin to God and godliness As our minds are renewed by God, we continue to become aware of how worldly we are and where our thinking and behavior need to change (Rom 12:1, 2) Sexual Sin

Romans 12:1-2 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, [which is] your reasonable service. Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess your sin to God and cry out for forgiveness For the unsaved, this would be judicial forgiveness (Rom 10:9,10; Eph 2:8, 9) Sexual Sin

Romans 10:9,10 9 - That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. 10 - For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. Sexual Sin

Ephesians 2:8, 9 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: [it is] the gift of God: Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess your sin to God and cry out for forgiveness For unsaved, judicial forgiveness For Christians, this would be parental forgiveness (1 John 1:9; 2:1, 2) Sexual Sin

1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Sexual Sin

1 John 2:1, 2 1 -My little children, these things write I unto you, that ye sin not. And if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous: 2 - And he is the propitiation for our sins: and not for ours only, but also for [the sins of] the whole world. Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess your sin to God and cry out for forgiveness For unsaved, judicial forgiveness For Christians, parental forgiveness Take hope from God's promise of mercy, forgiveness and a cleansed heart (Can be devastating) (Deut4:25-31; Ps 86:5; Col 1:21-23). Sexual Sin

Deuteronomy 4:25-31 Sexual Sin
25 - When thou shalt beget children, and children’s children, and ye shall have remained long in the land, and shall corrupt [yourselves,] and make a graven image, [or] the likeness of any [thing,] and shall do evil in the sight of the LORD thy God, to provoke him to anger: 26 - I call heaven and earth to witness against you this day, that ye shall soon utterly perish from off the land whereunto ye go over Jordan to possess it; ye shall not prolong [your] days upon it, but shall utterly be destroyed And the LORD shall scatter you among the nations, and ye shall be left few in number among the heathen, whither the LORD shall lead you And there ye shall serve gods, the work of men’s hands, wood and stone, which neither see, nor hear, nor eat, nor smell But if from thence thou shalt seek the LORD thy God, thou shalt find [him,] if thou seek him with all thy heart and with all thy soul When thou art in tribulation, and all these things are come upon thee, [even] in the latter days, if thou turn to the LORD thy God, and shalt be obedient unto his voice; 31 - (For the LORD thy God [is] a merciful God;) he will not forsake thee, neither destroy thee, nor forget the covenant of thy fathers which he sware unto them. Sexual Sin

Psalms 86:5 For thou, Lord, [art] good, and ready to forgive; and plenteous in mercy unto all them that call upon thee. Sexual Sin

Colossians 1:21-23 And you, that were sometime alienated and enemies in [your] mind by wicked works, yet now hath he reconciled 22 - In the body of his flesh through death, to present you holy and unblameable and unreproveable in his sight: 23 - If ye continue in the faith grounded and settled, and [be] not moved away from the hope of the gospel, which ye have heard, [and] which was preached to every creature which is under heaven; whereof I Paul am made a minister; Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess your sin to appropriate people and seek forgiveness (Mt. 5:23-24; 1 John 1 :8-9; Prov. 28:13) Sexual Sin

Matthew 5:23-24 Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee; Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift. Sexual Sin

1 John 1 :8-9 8 - If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 - If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Sexual Sin

Prov. 28:13 He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh [them] shall have mercy. Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Peacemaker Ministries suggests the following "Seven A's of Confession": Address everyone involved Avoid if, but, and maybe Admit sin specifically Acknowledge the hurt Accept the consequences Alter your behavior Ask for forgiveness Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness See the ACBC (formerly NANC) notes entitled "Guilt and Repentance" for a more complete discussion, including suggested wording on how to confess sin (Story of pastor winging it) Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness NANC notes on "Guilt and Repentance“ Discernment will need to be used in determining to whom confession is made, for what sins, and as to the timing (Story of promiscuous man) Small town, slept with people she knew and friends and lied to his wife Taught confession and forgiveness – it is the oil that keeps relationship running Homework – things in their hall of shame that if became public could affect the marriage. Come prepared to He expressed love for her and desire She started firing million questions. Randy stopped her. Agreed to forgive. List dropped to 2-3 questions. Both weeping. She asked forgiveness for not putting everything on the list Mine field How far back do I go – Seek forgiveness from those that are in your life. Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness NANC notes on "Guilt and Repentance“ Discernment for what when and to whom Public sins will require public confession and seeking of forgiveness. Such events provide opportunities to: Warn others not to sin (1 Tim 5:20) Sexual Sin

Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.
1 Tim 5:20 Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear. Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness NANC notes on "Guilt and Repentance“ Discernment for what when and to whom Public sins will require public confession and seeking of forgiveness. Such events provide opportunities to: Warn others not to sin Grant forgiveness and comfort the repentant sinner (2 Cor. 2:6-8) Sexual Sin

2 Cor. 2:6-8 6 - Sufficient to such a man is this punishment, which [was inflicted] of many. 7 - So that contrariwise ye [ought] rather to forgive [him,] and comfort [him,] lest perhaps such a one should be swallowed up with overmuch sorrow. 8 - Wherefore I beseech you that ye would confirm [your] love toward him. Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness NANC notes on "Guilt and Repentance“ Discernment for what when and to whom Public sins will require public confession and seeking of forgiveness. Such events provide opportunities to: Warn others not to sin Grant forgiveness and comfort the repentant sinner Energize godly Christians in their faith (2 Cor. 7:8-11) Sexual Sin

2 Cor. 7:8-11 8 - For though I made you sorry with a letter, I do not repent, though I did repent: for I perceive that the same epistle hath made you sorry, though [it were] but for a season. 9 - Now I rejoice, not that ye were made sorry, but that ye sorrowed to repentance: for ye were made sorry after a godly manner, that ye might receive damage by us in nothing For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death For behold this selfsame thing, that ye sorrowed after a godly sort, what carefulness it wrought in you, yea, [what] clearing of yourselves, yea, [what] indignation, yea, [what] fear, yea, [what] vehement desire, yea, [what] zeal, yea, [what] revenge! In all [things] ye have approved yourselves to be clear in this matter. Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness NANC notes on "Guilt and Repentance“ Discernment for what when and to whom Public sins require public confession King David’s Example (Psalm 51 - “The Repenter’s Psalm”) Sexual Sin

For I acknowledge my transgressions: and my sin [is] ever before me.
Psalm 51:3 For I acknowledge my transgressions: and my sin [is] ever before me. David acknowledged His sin Sexual Sin

David Took Responsibility before God
Psalm 51:4 Against thee, thee only, have I sinned, and done [this] evil in thy sight: that thou mightest be justified when thou speakest, [and] be clear when thou judgest. David Took Responsibility before God Sexual Sin

David asked for an inner man change
Psalm 51:5-9 Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me. 6 - Behold, thou desirest truth in the inward parts: and in the hidden [part] thou shalt make me to know wisdom. 7 - Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean: wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow. 8 - Make me to hear joy and gladness; [that] the bones [which] thou hast broken may rejoice. 9 - Hide thy face from my sins, and blot out all mine iniquities. David asked for an inner man change Sexual Sin

David spoke of an outer man change reflecting his inner change
Psalm 51:13-17 [Then] will I teach transgressors thy ways; and sinners shall be converted unto thee Deliver me from bloodguiltiness, O God, thou God of my salvation: [and] my tongue shall sing aloud of thy righteousness O Lord, open thou my lips; and my mouth shall shew forth thy praise For thou desirest not sacrifice; else would I give [it:] thou delightest not in burnt offering The sacrifices of God [are] a broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise. David spoke of an outer man change reflecting his inner change Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" removing from your life what draws you into sin (Matt 5:29-30; Heb 12:1) Sexual Sin

Remove from your life the things that keep you from “running the race”
Hebrews 12:1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, Remove from your life the things that keep you from “running the race” Sexual Sin

Matthew 5:29 -30 Radical Amputation
29 - And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast [it] from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not [that] thy whole body should be cast into hell And if thy right hand offend thee, cut if off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not [that] thy whole body should be cast into hell. Radical Amputation Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Jesus was not referring to a physical tearing out of the eyeball or a physical cutting off of our hands. That would not solve the problem. Blind and handicapped people still lust. He was calling us to deal severely with whatever causes us to sin; that is, tear it out, cut it off, throw it from you. Christ says to deal with it aggressively and radically! Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Not physical tearing out eyeball or cutting off hands A willingness to do this is a fruit of genuine repentance (Matt 3: 8) Sexual Sin

Bring forth therefore fruits meet for repentance:
Matthew 3:8 Bring forth therefore fruits meet for repentance: Willingness to get rid of your favorite stuff is a fruit of repentance Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Not physical tearing out eyeball or cutting off hands Willingness is fruit of genuine repentance Mike Cleveland in The Way of Purity suggests questions like these to help a person grapple with this needed action: Who or what in your life makes it easy for you to sin? Are you willing to part with that which will make you fall? Really?? Will you, right now, cut off and pluck out anything that is causing you to stumble-and throw it from you? Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Not physical tearing out eyeball or cutting off hands Willingness is fruit of genuine repentance Mike Cleveland The Way of Purity questions Many people will not perform radical amputation because they want to be strong more than they want to be pure. Unwisely, they want to continue being around temptation and be able to resist it. Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Not physical tearing out eyeball or cutting off hands Willingness is fruit of genuine repentance Mike Cleveland The Way of Purity questions Many people want to be strong more than pure Such a "reasonable" and "balanced" approach to dealing with sexual sin is seldom successful Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when, where and with whom you are most susceptible to sin and take evasive action (Rom 13:14) Sexual Sin

Do not set yourself up for failure
Romans 13:14 But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to [fulfil] the lusts [thereof.] Do not set yourself up for failure Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when/where susceptible Remind yourself regularly of the Gospel You are righteous in Christ (Romans 6:6) Sexual Sin

The old man is dead! Treat him as such!
Romans 6:6 Knowing this, that our old man is crucified with [him,] that the body of sin might be destroyed, that henceforth we should not serve sin. The old man is dead! Treat him as such! Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when/where susceptible Remind yourself regularly of the Gospel You are righteous in Christ You have the power of Christ to grow and change (Romans 6:11-14) Sexual Sin

You can win the battle over sin’s rule!
Romans 6:11-14 11 - Likewise reckon ye also yourselves to be dead indeed unto sin, but alive unto God through Jesus Christ our Lord Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof Neither yield ye your members [as] instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members [as] instruments of righteousness unto God For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace. You can win the battle over sin’s rule! Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when/where susceptible Remind yourself regularly of the Gospel You are righteous in Christ You have the power of Christ to grow and change God does not expect you to be perfect, but He does expect you to be growing and changing (Romans 8:29) Sexual Sin

God expects you to be striving to be more Christ-like
Romans 8:29 For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate [to be] conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren. God expects you to be striving to be more Christ-like Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when/where susceptible Remind yourself regularly of the Gospel You are righteous in Christ You have the power of Christ to grow and change God expects you to be growing and changing The love of Jesus Christ for you motivates you to strive for godliness (2 Cor. 5:14-21) Sexual Sin

we might be made the righteousness of God in him.
2 Corinthians 5:14-21 14 - For the love of Christ constraineth us; because we thus judge, that if one died for all, then were all dead: 15 - And [that] he died for all, that they which live should not henceforth live unto themselves, but unto him which died for them, and rose again Wherefore henceforth know we no man after the flesh: yea, though we have known Christ after the flesh, yet now henceforth know we [him] no more Therefore if any man [be] in Christ, [he is] a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new And all things [are] of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation; 19 - To wit, that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them; and hath committed unto us the word of reconciliation Now then we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God did beseech [you] by us: we pray [you] in Christ’s stead, be ye reconciled to God For he hath made him [to be] sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in him. To love Christ means to strive for godliness Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when/where susceptible Remind yourself regularly of the Gospel You are righteous in Christ You have the power of Christ to grow and change God expects you to be growing and changing Love of Christ for you motivates you God's grace guarantees your growth into godliness (Phil. 2:13; Tit 2:11-15) Sexual Sin

When you accept God as Lord, He starts to work His will
Philippians 2:13 For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of [his] good pleasure. When you accept God as Lord, He starts to work His will Sexual Sin

God purifies us and compels us to good works
Titus 2:11-15 For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, 12 - Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; 13 - Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ; 14 - Who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee. God purifies us and compels us to good works Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when/where susceptible Remind yourself regularly of the Gospel You are righteous in Christ You have the power of Christ to grow and change God expects you to be growing and changing Love of Christ for you motivates you God's grace guarantees your growth The Holy Spirit is your divine helper for change (2 Cor. 3:1-18; Gal. 5:16). Sexual Sin

The Holy Spirit helps! Gloriously!
2 Corinthains 3:1-18 1 - Do we begin again to commend ourselves? or need we, as some [others,] epistles of commendation to you, or [letters] of commendation from you? 2 - Ye are our epistle written in our hearts, known and read of all men: 3 - [Forasmuch as ye are] manifestly declared to be the epistle of Christ ministered by us, written not with ink, but with the Spirit of the living God; not in tables of stone, but in fleshy tables of the heart. 4 - And such trust have we through Christ to Godward: 5 - Not that we are sufficient of ourselves to think any thing as of ourselves; but our sufficiency [is] of God; 6 - Who also hath made us able ministers of the new testament; not of the letter, but of the spirit: for the letter killeth, but the spirit giveth life. 7 - But if the ministration of death, written [and] engraven in stones, was glorious, so that the children of Israel could not stedfastly behold the face of Moses for the glory of his countenance; which [glory] was to be done away: 8 - How shall not the ministration of the spirit be rather glorious? The Holy Spirit helps! Gloriously! Sexual Sin

If you listen to the Holy Spirit, you will not Sin!
Galatians 5:16 [This] I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. If you listen to the Holy Spirit, you will not Sin! Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when/where susceptible Remind yourself regularly of the Gospel Be active in the services and ministries of a Bible-believing, preaching and practicing local church (Heb 3:12, 13; 10:24, 25) Sexual Sin

Hang out with those that will encourage you to righteousness
Hebrews 3:12-13 12 - Take heed, brethren, lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief, in departing from the living God But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin. Hang out with those that will encourage you to righteousness Sexual Sin

We desperately need to be together. That is the local church.
Hebrews 10:24- 25 24 - And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: 25 - Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some [is;] but exhorting [one another:] and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching. We desperately need to be together. That is the local church. Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when/where susceptible Remind yourself regularly of the Gospel Be active in a Bible-believing church Regularly put yourself under the clear, accurate teaching of God's Word (2 Pet 3:18) Sexual Sin

God gives us the local church for continuing education
2 Peter 3:18 (last verse) But grow in grace, and [in] the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him [be] glory both now and for ever. Amen. God gives us the local church for continuing education Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when/where susceptible Remind yourself regularly of the Gospel Be active in a Bible-believing church Regularly put yourself under God's Word Develop loving, authentic relationships (James 5:16) (cf. "Using Accountability Partners Effectively'') Sexual Sin

Confessing to those close to you draws you closer
Jame 5:16 Confess [your] faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. Confessing to those close to you draws you closer Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when/where susceptible Remind yourself regularly of the Gospel Be active in a Bible-believing church Seek to grow in practicing helpful spiritual disciplines (Mt. 5:6; Rom. 6:11-19) Sexual Sin

Your desire for righteousness should be like a dying man’s thirst
Matthew 5:6 Blessed [are] they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled. Your desire for righteousness should be like a dying man’s thirst Sexual Sin

yield your members servants to righteousness unto holiness.
Romans 6:11-19 11 - Likewise reckon ye also yourselves to be dead indeed unto sin, but alive unto God through Jesus Christ our Lord Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof Neither yield ye your members [as] instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members [as] instruments of righteousness unto God For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace What then? shall we sin, because we are not under the law, but under grace? God forbid Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his servants ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness? 17 - But God be thanked, that ye were the servants of sin, but ye have obeyed from the heart that form of doctrine which was delivered you Being then made free from sin, ye became the servants of righteousness I speak after the manner of men because of the infirmity of your flesh: for as ye have yielded your members servants to uncleanness and to iniquity unto iniquity; even so now yield your members servants to righteousness unto holiness. Seek practical ways to grow and love others with your gifts Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when/where susceptible Remind yourself regularly of the Gospel Be active in a Bible-believing church Grow in helpful spiritual disciplines Systematic Bible reading and study Meaningful Scripture memory and meditation Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when/where susceptible Remind yourself regularly of the Gospel Be active in a Bible-believing church Grow in helpful spiritual disciplines Systematic Bible reading and study Meaningful Scripture memory and meditation Prayer (Adoration; Confession; Thanksgiving; Supplication) Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when/where susceptible Remind yourself regularly of the Gospel Be active in a Bible-believing church Grow in helpful spiritual disciplines Systematic Bible reading and study Meaningful Scripture memory and meditation Prayer Serving others Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when/where susceptible Remind yourself regularly of the Gospel Be active in a Bible-believing church Grow in helpful spiritual disciplines Systematic Bible reading and study Meaningful Scripture memory and meditation Prayer Serving others Witnessing Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when/where susceptible Remind yourself regularly of the Gospel Be active in a Bible-believing church Grow in helpful spiritual disciplines Systematic Bible reading and study Meaningful Scripture memory and meditation Prayer Serving others Witnessing Reading theologically sound literature Sexual Sin

III. Steps in Helping Individuals Gain Moral Freedom: Help recognize, accept sin Repent and keep repenting Confess sins to God, cry out for forgiveness Confess sin and seek forgiveness Perform "radical amputation" Cultivate a heart for God and Godliness Determine when/where susceptible Remind yourself regularly of the Gospel Be active in a Bible-believing church Grow in helpful spiritual disciplines Systematic Bible reading and study Meaningful Scripture memory and meditation Prayer 4). Serving others Witnessing 6) Reading Financial generosity Sexual Sin

Recommended Resources for Further Study: Alcorn, Randy. The Purity Principle: God's Safeguards for Life's Dangerous Trails. Sisters, OR: Multnomah,.2003. Cleveland, Mike. The Way of Purity. Bemidji, MN: Focus, Gallagher, Steve. Dry Ridge, KY: Pure Life Ministries, At The Altar of Sexual Idolatry (2000) At The Altar of Sexual Idolatry Workbook (2000) A Biblical Guide to Counseling the Sexual Addict (2004) Harris, Joshua. Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is): Sexual Purity in a Lust-Saturated World. Sisters, OR: Multnomah, 2005

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Biblical Counseling Basics Set #4 AUGUST-NOVEMBER 2013
8/28:Four Rules of Communication 9/11:Counseling People with Medical Illness 10/2:Trials and Suffering 10/9:Counseling Psychological Diagnosis 10/16:A Biblical View of Anger 10/23:Helping Those Suffering w/ Depression 10/30:Counseling Those in Sexual Sin 11/6:Forgiveness

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