1. Mentoring Scenarios

2. Oooo, I want that video game!
Scenario #1
How am I going
to tell him I
can’t afford this???
Oooo, I want that video game!
$50
Josh and Ricky

3. Tips for handling money situations
Set a weekly budget beforehand
Don’t be afraid to say no
Find a balance of activities
Some that cost money, others that do not
Keep the child’s economic background in perspective

4. Dad came home angry again and hit me.
Scenario #2
Dad came home angry again and hit me.
Who should
I tell about
this?
Jordan and Will

5. Confidentiality Issues
Everything you discuss with a little buddy is confidential
Except for cases of:
Physical abuse
Sexual abuse
Emotional abuse
If you suspect a problem…….
Alert someone at the Campus Y immediately!

6. Scenario #3 I think I’m really getting through to How come I him.
got the girl?

7. Female to Male Mentoring Tips
If possible, avoid this problem altogether by not mentioning it
If it cannot be avoided, be aware of his view on the issue
Don’t be afraid of playing sports
Show him your unique abilities

8. I hear that this program was for babies. I’m too old for this stuff.
What do I
say to that?
I hear that this program was for babies. I’m too old for this stuff.
Kyle and Sean
Scenario #4

9. Adolescent Issues Too cool to be in the big buddy program Dating
Show your buddy the benefits of the program
Dating
Make sure your buddy knows what is appropriate and inappropriate behavior
Alcohol and drug abuse
Get to the problem before it gets out of hand

10. I had some of my dad’s beer last weekend.
Scenario #5
What should I
do about this?
I had some of my dad’s beer last weekend.
Steve and Brian

11. Alcohol Issues Don’t be afraid to ask Set a good example
Encourage participation in supervised activities
Alert someone immediately if you think there is a problem

12. LANGUAGE BARRIER Scenario #6 Hi, nice to meet you.
I’m here to pick up your son.
I’m Jason, his Big Buddy.
¿Qué dijo él? ¿Qué es
Big Buddy?
Scenario #6

13. Working through this Speak in the family’s native language if possible
Listen patiently to the parents
Use a translator if necessary
Meet with your Little Buddy at their home until the parents feel comfortable with your going somewhere else
Give the parents a written translation of the purpose and activities of the Big Buddy program

14. TEAM BUILDING ACTIVITIES
So now what happens?
Wow this is awkward.
Scenario #7
Peter and Jorge

15. Suggestions
Participate in the optional group activities with other Big and Little Buddies
Arrange this on a smaller scale with others in the program to participate in activities such as
Volleyball
Bowling
Picnics
Basketball
Trips to the park
Board games

16. Little Buddies who date
Wow, sometimes I just don’t know what to do with my girlfriend. She stopped bringing me lunch. What kind of a girl is that??
How old are you???
Juan
Scenario #8
Julia

17. Don’t panic! Discuss how to handle relationship issues
Emphasize what healthy dating relationships should be like
Teach your Little Buddy respect for members of the opposite sex
Mention sex issues only if your Little Buddy asks or you think they may be at risk
Notify the Campus Y if real complications arise