1. School Violence Awareness
How to Stop Bullying?

2. How to Stop Bullying
The Victim
The Bystander
The Bully

3. The Victim - Do Always tell an adult:
Hard to talk about serious things with adults
Adults can help put a stop to bullying
Tell an adult that you trust and can talk to:
Parents
Teacher
School counselor
Coach
Nneighbor

4. The Victim - Do
So, you've told a grown-up and they haven't done anything  TELL SOMEONE ELSE
Get another person to go with you for support:
A friend
A sister
A brother

5. The Victim - Do Tell exactly what has happened: Who did the bullying
Where and when it happened
How long it's been happening
How it's making you feel

6. The Victim - Do
Ask the adult what they will do to help stop the bullying
It is the adult’s job to help keep you safe
Most adults really care about bullying
Most will do everything they can to help

7. The Victim - Do Stay in a group
Bullies like to pick on kids who are by themselves a lot
It's easier
They're more likely to get away it
Don’t be an easy "target“
Have others around to help you

8. The Victim - Do Stand up to the person who is bullying you
He might back off
Don’t fight
Tell the person bullying you that you don't like it and that they should stop
Keep it simple
Then walk away

9. The Victim - Do If you are being bullied online, don't reply
This may actually make the bullying worse
Tell a family member or another adult
Block any more communications
Only to accept messages from people you know
Save evidence of the bullying
Print out or save a nasty

10. The Victim – Don’t
Think it's your fault - nobody deserves to be bullied
Fight back or bully another person back
Won't make things any better
Might get you into big trouble
You want to act better than the bully

11. The Victim – Don’t Keep it to yourself Hope the bullying will go away
It's normal to want to ignore bullying
Bullying don't stop until adults and other kids get involved

12. The Victim – Don’t Skip school or avoid clubs or sports
Missing out on school or activities that you enjoy isn't the answer
You have a right to be there
Think that you're a tattle tale if you tell
Telling is NOT tattling
It's the right thing to do

13. The Victim – Don’t Hurt yourself
Some kids get so sad and depressed that they may try to hurt themselves
They think there is nothing else they can do
This definitely isn't the answer
Talk with an adult immediately and tell them how you are feeling
They can help stop the bullying

14. The Bystander Report the bullying to an adult
It's the right thing to do and it's not tattling
Who should you tell?
Teacher
School counselor or nurse
Parents
Coach
Any adult you feel comfortable talking with

15. The Bystander Ask a friend to go along with you
Tell the adult exactly what happened
Who was bullied
Who did the bullying
Where and when it happened
If you're not sure if another kid is being bullied but you think they probably are – it's good to report that, too

16. The Bystander
Most adults really care about bullying and will be VERY glad that you told them
If you told an adult and you don't think they did anything about the bullying (or if it isn't getting any better), find another adult to tell

17. The Bystander Support someone who is being bullied
Just be there for him or her and be a friend
Walk home after school
Sitting together on the bus or at lunch
Include him or her in school activities
Spend some time with him or her
Understand what he or she is going through
Show that you care about him or her and the problems he or she is facing

18. The Bystander Stand up to the person doing the bullying:
Tell the bully that what he or she is doing is wrong
Tell the bully that he or she should stop
Keep it simple
Get some friends to join you
They are more likely to stop if it's not cool
Don't bully them back
It's not easy to stand up to kids who may be bigger and stronger than you or really popular
Be sure to tell an adult

19. The Bully If you are hurting or threatening others in some way
If you are using your size, strength or popularity to do it
If you do it repeatedly and often
You're probably bullying someone

20. The Bully Hurting and making others feel bad is NEVER cool
Admitting that you are doing things to harm others takes some guts
Trying to find out what you should do to change the way you're acting
That's a step in the right direction

21. The Bully Think about what you're doing and how it affects others
You may have forgotten what it feels like to be hurt yourself
Calling others names
Pushing, hitting or stealing is funny
Teasing, hitting, keeping others out of a group

22. The Bully So the next time you are about to bully someone:
Put yourself in their shoes
Think about how it must make them feel
And just don't do it
Talk to an adult

23. Ask the Experts – Web Links
Ask The Experts: Middle and High School Students in Montana
Ask The Experts: Questions About What To Do When You See Bullying
Ask The Experts: Questions From Girls About Bullying
Ask The Experts: Questions From Boys About Bullying

24. Conclusion/Summary