1. Family Ministry Training: Co-facilitator Co-facilitator
WELCOME!
Family Ministry Training:
unpacking “family”
Facilitators:
Co-facilitator Co-facilitator
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2. Words & Music: Philip A. Porter Used with permission
WORKSHOP 2
Opening Worship
Hymn 389,
Gathered Here
Words & Music: Philip A. Porter Used with permission
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3. In the mystery of the hour.
Gathered here
In the mystery of the hour.
In one strong body.
In the struggle
And the power.
Spirit, draw near.
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4. Introductions I’m ___________ from ______________
where I ________________.
After you speak, please place the object you brought that symbolizes “family” onto the center table without comment…
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5. An Open-Ended Covenant
Try to respect the needs of the others, but check your assumptions;
Try to listen to your own needs;
Do your best, and be forgiving of others (and yourself!) when someone makes a mistake.
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6. family ministry training
Building a New Way
Unitarian Universalists tend to be individualistic …
Our congregations often operate with a silo mentality …
Our faith calls us to live into becoming a truly multicultural Association …
Non-dominant cultures tend to be communal (i.e., “We”) rather than individualistic (i.e., “I”) …
SO …
We are called to learn how to develop a “we” culture, both for our own sake and as a model for the world.
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7. Families are the heart of congregational life!
Building a New Way
Families are the heart of congregational life!
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8. Congregation as “Family”
Group One: Think of as many positive implications as you can of thinking of the congregation as a family.
Group Two: Think of as many negative implications as you can of thinking of the congregation as a family.
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9. Developmental Models
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10. Developmental Models
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11. Some Developmental Theories
Erik Erickson - Psychosocial
Lawrence Kohlberg - Moral
James Fowler - Faith
Tracey Hurd - Psychosocial/Faith
The “UU Identity” Renaissance Module has great resources:
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12. Systems Thinking Family Roles the hero the authority the peacemaker
challenger
the
clown
Family Roles
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13. Systems Thinking Congregational Roles the matriarch the trouble maker
the historian
the institutionalist
the rebel
the inventor
the peace keeper
Congregational Roles
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14. Systems Thinking
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15. Ask yourself: family ministry training
What does this idea mean to you? How have you experienced or not experienced families being at the heart of congregational life?
In what ways does the congregation with which you are most familiar support and lift up families of all kinds?
What feelings and thoughts does this way of thinking about congregational life stir up in you?
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16. Share:
How have you experienced “families as the heart of congregational life” in the congregation you serve?
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17. The way things could be …
The way things are …
The way things could be …
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18. Share…
What can you imagine if the congregation you serve fully embraced this vision of family ministry?
What would need to happen to get you there?
Remember: be clear if you’re talking about “the best of all possible worlds” or the “reality” of what things are.
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19. Words & Music: Martha Sandefer Used with permission
WORKSHOP 2
Closing Worship
Hymn 1017…
Building
a New Way
Words & Music: Martha Sandefer Used with permission
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20. We are building a new way. We are building a new way,
Feeling stronger ev’ry day,
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21. We are working to be free. We are working to be free
hate and greed and jealousy.
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22. We can feed our ever need. We can feed our every need.
Start with love, that is the seed.
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23. Peace and freedom is our cry.
Without these this world will die.
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