1. Create the Life You Envision for Yourself

2. This is your life!

3. More often, we are pushed to think of others instead of ourselves and this benevolent, compassionate way of thinking leads to positive outcomes.

4. Being selfless is a valuable trait, and we look for it especially in our leaders.

5. When you become too selfless and not think of yourself enough, then you may start feeling resentful.

6. An example might be your friend asking for help on a personal project and initially, you may be happy to help.

7. But when there is demand for more commitment and sacrifice on your end, giving up your time and money.

8. And in reciprocation, when you ask for assistance on a project of yours, she claims to be too busy to help.

9. This is a situation where being too selfless can actually lead to resentment and adversely affect the relationship.

10. You need to make sure that even while striving to be a compassionate person, your wants, needs, and goals are still being met.

11. It is better to put yourself first in some situations and check your boundaries to not sell out on yourself.

12. Don't neglect yourself helping others

13. Have you ever felt completely drained when listening to someone else vent about their problems?

14. Being a sounding-board for your friends and family is compassionate.

15. However, lending an open ear to everyone who needs it may leave you feeling drained.

16. And who is there for you when you need a shoulder to lean on? Are the people you come to rescue whenever they need help available and able to do the same for you?

17. Most people are happy to return the favor, as long as you let them in.

18. Carrying your own problems all by yourself may leave you feeling like you are doing all the emotional lifting in the relationship, and that is where the problem begins.

19. Your wants, needs, and goals are valuable

20. Most helpers are good at neglecting their own needs and therefore, it is important to make sure that your personal wants, needs, and goals are a priority.

21. Most likely you can’t focus entirely on yourself while you lead, listen, and care for others.

22. But if you don’t make yourself a priority you can’t be there for others.

23. Everyone will benefit when you are healthy, happy, balanced and fulfilled.

24. And you won’t have to deal with the feelings of annoyance, resentment, and anger that come along with neglecting your heart.

25. You don't get to do this twice- follow your heart

26. You only get one life and you follow your heart and work hard to make your dreams a reality.

27. Sometimes that will mean you won’t have the time to be as compassionate as you want with others.

28. That is okay if you make an effort to help other people, it is important to first focus on your own goals.

29. As easy as it sounds to follow our dreams, it is the hardest thing to do for many.

30. Let us help you, take the first small step to creating a meaningful and fulfilling life.

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