1. Choosing a Partner Dating

2. Choosing a partner Do we all choose who we get married to?
“Free-choice culture”
Any exceptions?

3. Let’s think:
If a partner had the qualities you desired, would you marry if you weren’t in love?”

4. If a partner had the qualities you desired, would you marry if you weren’t in love?

5. Courtship and dating
1828 Webster dictionary defined courtship as “the act of soliciting favor, the act of wooing in love, solicitation of a woman to marriage”
Courtship = preparation for marriage
The word dating emerged in 1910’s
By the 1910s, adolescent boys, in growing numbers, had begun to ask girls out.
During the 1920s and 1930s, dating also began to involve parties and high school events, including dances, plays, and football games.

6. Dating Today
Consists of an exclusive relationship developed through a series of appointed meetings

7. Why do we date? Dating may serve a few functions: Pleasure Romance
Learning to relate to the opposite or same sex (depending on sexual orientation)
To gain one’s progressive commitment to marriage.
Other reasons?

8. Hooking up “Fast food of dating”
A casual sexual encounter — anything from kissing onwards — with no strings attached

9. Hooking up 60-84 % of students reported having hooked up
Different than one-night stand because it doesn’t necessarily involve sexual intercourse

10. How many times have you hooked up?

11. Some facts about hooking up
Only 14% did not know the person
Almost half of the hook ups started at a party
On average, girls had 3, guys had 5 drinks
What does it imply to have hooked up?

12. What did you do when you hooked up?

13. Where do hook ups lead to?
A) Nothing
B) Friends with benefits
C) Exclusive relationship (rarely)
DTR
What is it?
Who is more likely to initiate it?

14. Where do hook ups lead to?
Agree or Disagree to: “People who hook up and have sex the first night don’t end up in a stable relationship”
43.3% agreed
20.6% disagreed
33.1% Undecided

15. Where do we meet people? Friends Different locations Online dating
Myspace, facebook
Video dating
Speed dating
Mail order brides

17. Internet dating