1. Ladies Ministry “GIRL TALK” Developing values & confidence
DESTINY LIFE FAMILY CHURCH,NAJJERA,,
UGANDA
17TH SEPT 20116

2. DISCOVERING SELF Course Overview
Critical analysis of BELIEFS,VALUES, HABITS, ATTITUDES.
Our Perceptions: Our perceptions frame our individual reality and inform our beliefs in life
Right perceptions very necessary
Develop The Right PERCEPTION in LIFE

3. Overview Contd Temperament assessment Goal setting Session 2
WHO AM I?-JOHARI window
Make life plan template
Review
Questions And Answers
Certificates of Participation? Yes!!!

4. WHO AM I? USE THE FOLLOWING STATEMENTS IN THIS COURSE
“I AM,” “I THINK”, “I FEEL”
QUOTE:” Men are not prisoners of fate but only prisoners of their own mind ”.Roosevelt
I think we should always have the right perception for better decisions in life

5. beliefs Something believed
An opinion or conviction,eg the earth is flat
Confident in the truth or existence of something even when not subjected to rigorous proof
Confidence,faith,,trust,eg a child’s belief in his parents
Sometime a religious tenet, creed or faith

6. VALUES IDEALS,CUSTOMS,INSTITUTION MIGHT BE POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE
Eg positive:cleanliness,freedom,education,money,happines s,love,friendship,carefulness etc
Negative:cruelty,crime,drunkeness,recklessness,
careless living etc

7. What do you believe in?what do you value?
YOU-FIRST!!!!!
YOUR VALUE ,your believe
Write down some things you value
Do you believe in hard-work or luck?
Are there models you admire?
What did they value?
Did they work to uphold their value?
What made them famous or prominent personalities?

8. Perception
Sense of cognition,understanding,intuition,psychological , aesthetic qualities,
mind-image, insight, discernment
Perception is how one sees things and forms a mind –set on the object in question

9. HABITS
It is an acquired behaviour pattern regularly followed until it becomes almost involuntary eg crossing the leg,piking nose,bending while walking,clearing throat,looking at the sky etc
It could be customary habit eg saying “goodmorning”,shaking hands,hugging,peking etc
Addiction(negative),eg smoking, narcotics/drugs, drinking etc

10. Attitudes Attitudes determine Altitudes Attitude
Manner,disposition,feeling,position with regard to a person or thing
Tendency or orientation especially of mind
Expression of action either a threatening or relaxed attitude
OUTWARD DISPLAY OF FEELING BY ACTION OR BEHAVIOURR

13. Attitude contd

14. Interests-Discover “YOU”
It is good to discover
(i) what you are very good at doing
(ii) what you enjoy doing
(ii) what makes you happy will lead to life fulfillment and give you success-rest of mind(if positive)
What do you value?
People/materials,work/rest,happiness,peace,money,res pect,music,fashion,neat environment,quietness???
Lets play a game of self Discovery-JOHARI WINDOW

15. JOHARI WINDOW Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham in 1955
JOHARI window example - increasing open area through feedback solicitation

16. johari window four regions
what is known by the person about him/herself and is also known by others - open area, open self, free area, free self, or 'the arena'
what is unknown by the person about him/herself but which others know - blind area, blind self, or 'blindspot'
what the person knows about him/herself that others do not know - hidden area, hidden self, avoided area, avoided self or 'facade'
what is unknown by the person about him/herself and is also unknown by others - unknown area or unknown self

17. OPEN/FREE AREA
BLIND AREA
HIDDEN AREA
UNKNOWN AREA

18. Future plans
Now that you understand yourself ,what is your future plans?
What is comfort zoning?
“Putting Home Comfort In Your Hands”

19. Permanent shift/temporary?

20. Forming a consensus
A paradigm shift is radical change in underlying belief or theory-it reflects in your actions
Are there things you need to change attitudes towards?
Are there habits you need to change?
Are there beliefs you need to shift?-eg interests,habits,values,customs,traditions.
Metamorphosis e.g the caterpillar

21. Watch this !!!

22. Goal setting-Life Plans

23. How to set goals

24. Why set goals Top achievers set goals
Successful business and career people set goals
Gives you long &short term vision
You have focus
Gives you pride in your achievements
It raises your self confidence

25. How to set goals-TARGETS
Step-create your big picture-your dreams say in the next 10years
Step 2-break it down in years,eg in 2years,3years ,5years
Step 3-break it into months,then weeks,then daily
Step4-start working on it immediately

26. Further tips State goals in positive statements
If you have many goals ,prioritize them-set priorities.
Always write goals down-in black and white
Don’t put easy-to-achieve goals eg to participate in exam,rather say –to get 4.5GPA at end of this semester

27. Sample of 5year goal Susan
my Career-to become a managing editor of a publishing firm
In 5years –become deputy editor
In 1 year-volunteer in any area the MD is heading up
In 6months-get a certificate to enhance my publishing skills
In 1 month- ask questions to determine what skills I require
In 1 week-book a meeting with current MD.

28. Schedule regular maintenance • Understand the basics of how the your system works so you’ll know when it isn’t • Organize the information about your system • Learn how to maximize the efficiency of your system • Perform a periodic inventory of yourself to ensure you are following your goal(s)

29. Discussion/Question time

30. Hope you”ll have a changed Positive, fulfilling life
Hope you”ll have a changed Positive, fulfilling life!!!!!! ACHIEVE YOUR DREAMS!!!!

31. Appreciation
Thanks for your attention!!!

32. Prof (Mrs.) Anumaka ,,IJEOMA Blessing Is a mother, counsellor,ordained minister of Gospel of JESUS CHRIST. Director of Academic Affairs/Registrar,Kampala International University,Uganda