1. Amy Millspaugh, Andrea Sowell Shanqueetay Easley, Yoneko Washington
Bullying
Amy Millspaugh, Andrea Sowell
Shanqueetay Easley, Yoneko Washington

2. Purpose
School Counselors working with parents to create a safe environment for students
This presentation focuses on parental awareness of bullying in the school system. The school counselors are working to create a safe school environment for all students with the help of the parents and the community.

3. Victims of Bullying

4. How much do you know about Bullying?
Parents will complete a Pre/Post Test on how much they know about bullying.

5. goals Identify the indicators of Boys and Girls Bullying
Identify the indicators of Cyberbullying
Identify the responsibilities of school, staff, and parents
Identify interventions to help prevent bullying

6. National Institute of Child Health and Human Development(2009)
Statistics
One incident of bullying happens every 7 minutes
Bullying affects nearly 1 out of every 3 children in grades 6-10.
55% of 8-11 year-olds and 68% of year-olds say bullying is a big problem.
National Institute of Child Health and Human Development(2009)

7. And the Survey Says……….
A nationwide survey highlighted by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) found that 6.6 percent of students in grades 9-12 had missed at least one day of school during the 30 days preceding the survey because they felt unsafe at school or on their way to or from school.
A review of 1999 data collected by the Federal government on school safety among 12- to 18-year-old students found that approximately 36 percent of students reported seeing hate-related graffiti at school.
Surveys done by Center for Disease Control and the Federal government.

8. Key facts
Adults are not as responsive to bullying as we should be (and as children want us to be)
Adults overestimate their effectiveness in
identifying bullying and intervening.
Bullying can occur anywhere—even where
adults are present.

9. Let’s talk bully Studies show that children identified as bullies
by age 8 are six times more likely to be
convicted of a crime by age 24.
60% of kids characterized as bullies in the 6th-
9th grade had at least one criminal conviction
by age 24.
Bullies are five times more likely to end up with
a serious criminal record by age 30.

10. Two types of bullying
School Bullying
Cyberbullying

11. Definition
Bullying-An aggressive behavior that is intentional and that involves an imbalance of power and strength
Cyberbullying – The act of bullying online consisting of one person or small group of people attacking each other via an internet-enabled desktop computer

12. Who is a bully? Some common characteristics:
Impulsive, confrontational, domineering, easily irritated, lack compassion
Struggles with being compliant to rules
Views violence in a positive manner
Tend to be physically stronger than other children

13. Types of bullying…
Physical any physical harm to include: hitting, punching, kicking and destruction of other child’s property
Verbal includes teasing, name-calling, taunting and racial slurs, as well as spreading gossip or malicious rumors
Cyberbullying includes harassing s or instant messages, as well as intimidating or threatening Web sites or blogs
Relational aggression not allowing the person to speak to other children or be spoken to (primarily seen among girls)

14. The bully…

15. Statistics…
Some studies suggest that 1 out of 7 children in the United States have either been the victim of bullying or has been the perpetrator of bullying against another student.

16. Statistics cont….
60 % of boys identified as bullies in grades 6 to 9 had one criminal conviction and 40% had three or more.
Those identified as bullies at age 8 had a one in four chance of having a criminal record by 30. (Norm is one in 20) (Eron and Huessman, 1987)

17. Who is targeted?… Two types of victims:
the passive victim, the shy child who is viewed as weak and…
the provoking victim, the child that may initiate negative interactions with others

18. The bullying circle

19. Signs of child being bullied…
Damaged or missing personal belongings
Unexplained bruises or injuries
Few friends
Reluctance of going to school
Poor school performance
Headaches, stomachaches or other physical complaints
Difficulty sleeping or eating

20. Victims of bullying suffer from…
Fear of going to school
Headaches & stomachaches
Difficulty concentrating on schoolwork
Long-term bullying causes:
Higher rates of depression, anxiety, low self-esteem and other mental health conditions.
Suicidal ideation and suffer from lingering wounds in adulthood

21. Why do bullies bully? Sometimes they may…
think they will win or get what they want
want to impress or entertain friends
enjoy power over others because sometimes they are being bullied
lack awareness that they are hurting others

22. Family influence of bullies…
Parents that show little affection and involvement
Extremely lenient parenting
Very little supervision
Severe physical discipline
Bullying behavior at home

23. Message for bullies…

24. Cyberbullying Previous methods Current methods Chatrooms Blog sites
Cell phones
Internet
MySpace
Facebook (Angela)

25. -or to damage someone’s reputation
Intent
What is the goal?
-to control
-to threaten
-to intimidate
-to invade privacy
-to scare
-to annoy and harass
-to spread rumors
-to gossip
-to be cruel
-or to damage someone’s reputation

26. ? Who are they? Girl Boy Man Woman old Friends Students young predator
Pedophile
old
Boy
Man
Woman
predator

27. Things we know
Most common school bullies are the same bullies in cyberspace.
Most common school victims are the same victims in cyberspace.
The bullying behavior transfers from the internet to the school
There are no boundaries in cyberspace, anything goes (Netiquette).
It is a misdemeanor for any bullying behaviors
over cyberspace, including texting, chatrooms,
blogs, sexting, and cyberstalking. (VT, OH)

28. How to identify
Starts spending excessive time on the internet late at night
Starts receiving phone calls late at night
Child minimizes pages quickly
Hiding conversations
Withdrawing from families, friends, or school activities

29. Stop
Block
Tell

30. What do I do? Keep a record of contacts from the harasser.
Report harassment to your internet service provider (ISP).
Get the school involved and aware of what is going on.
Notify the police online crimes department.
If the harassment is severe, contact the local FBI.
NEVER plan to meet the harasser!!
Do not leave your computer logged in unattended.
Get in the habit of changing your password frequently.
Check their signature for personal information.
Do NOT panic!

31. How do I protect?
-monitor your child’s usage -learn about this technology and how it fits in their life -help understand what is appropriate/inappropriate -adjust your privacy settings -Google your child’s name and monitor what comes up

32. Common adult feelings on bullying
Life
Character
Fail to notice
Ignore it
Blame
Fight

33. My child the bully

34. What it looks like
Bad Attitude
Low Self-Esteem
Bullying Siblings

35. What can I do? Take it seriously. Another child is being hurt
Talk to your child
Home life (Don’t Be a Bully)
Problem Solving
Positive Feedback
Prevention Programs
Support

36. School involvement
Ask a teacher or a school counselor if your child is facing any problems at school, such as if your child is struggling with a particular subject or has difficulty making friends.
Ask if you can become more involved at school
Ask them for advice on how you and your child can work through the problem.

37. Letter from a bully

38. My child the bystander
Two out of three kids want to help when they see bullying, and helping out is one of the most effective ways to stop bullying and prevent it from happening again. When friends help out, 57 percent of the time bullying stops in 10 seconds (Hawkins, Pepler, and Craig, Social Development, 2001).
There are effective and safe ways for kids to step in and help others being bullied.
Some work better in certain situations than others. You can help kids decide when to use each method by role-playing bullying situations with them. Remember to emphasize that kids should only step in when they feel safe.

39. How does my child feel?
Angry
Helpless
Guilty
Unsafe
Fear

40. How can I help? Social Skills Get to know their friends
Teach Assertiveness
Teach Compassion
Be a good example.
Show kids safe ways to help others.
Hold kids accountable.
Educate

41. School involvement Ask reporting policy
Ask who can your child talk to you
Ask if they have a curriculum or programs

42. What to look for… Withdrawal Loss of Friends Grades Drop
Loss of Interest
Torn Clothing
Bruises
Extra Needs

43. How can I help? Focus on child Be Supportive Gather Info
Teach Avoidance
Check your emotions
Educate

44. How can I help? Communication Online Friends
Contact School and/or Police
Don’t Erase
Contact Websites/Mobile Phone Providers

45. What can I do before Bullying Occurs?
Help Develop
Encourage Positive Friendships
Teach Safety Strategies
Home Security

46. Bully webisode

47. remember
Children and youth report that bullying typically happens in unsupervised areas. The more adults who are watching for bullying, the better.
Adults are responsible for creating safe.
When bullying is overlooked by adults, children and youth are less likely to report it because they expect nothing will be done.

48. The golden rule
Treat others the way you want to be treated. Stand up for someone when he or she needs it, and when you need it, someone will stand up for you.

49. www.epic.org Privacy tools www.haltabuse.org (WHOA)
Parent Resources
Privacy tools
Privacy Alliance
(WHOA)

50. References
Bullying: Help your child handle a school bully (2010). Children’ s Health (25). Retrieved from
Cyberbullying (July 16, 2010). Retrieved on July 21, 2010 from
For Kids (2005). Stop bullying now. Retrieved from
For Parents (2005). Stop bullying now. Retrieved from
For Teachers (2005). Stop bullying now. Retrieved from

51. More references
Greco, J., Carneval, K., Cary, J., Laurenza, C. (2008). Partnering to prevent k-5 bullying. ASCA 2008 Annual Conference.
Susan Kuchinskas

52. More references
U. S. Department of Health(2010). Stop bullying now. Retrieved on July 21, 2010 from
Wilson, K. (2007). Cyberbullying: A seven-step model to prevention. Retrieved from