1. CONJUGAL INTIMACY HOW ABOUT THAT?
“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. ” – Hebrews 13:4

2. INTRODUCTION
“Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. ” - 1 Corinthians 7:4, 5

3. CONJUGAL INTIMACY - DEFINED
Conjugal Intimacy (Intercourse) - the sexual rights or privileges implied by and involved in the marriage relationship : the right of sexual intercourse between husband and wife.

4. CONJUGAL INTIMACY - DEFINED
“The act of sex” itself may be the same, however the Scriptures clearly differentiate a lawful sexual intimacy from an unlawful one.
Examples of unapproved sexual Intimacy
Genesis 34:2 – Shechem and Dina
2 Samuel 11:2- 4 – David and Bathsheba
Proverbs 6:29 – Intimacy with a neighbour’s wife.
Examples of approved sexual intimacy
Genesis 4:1, 4:25 – Adam and Eve
1 Samuel 1:19 – Elkannah and Hannah

5. CONJUGAL INTIMACY - DESTROYERS
“Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes” – Songs of Solomon 2:15.
There are things that work against fruitful sexual intimacy among couples.
Infidelity: It is breaking a promise to remain faithful to a sexual partner. It is also referred to as cheating, adultery, or having an affair.
Impotency : It is the inability to have conjugal intercourse or incapacity to consummate marriage.
Pornography: It is the representation of sexual behavior in books, pictures, motion pictures and other media that is intended to cause sexual excitement. It makes couples less satisfied with their conjugal relationship and less emotionally attached to each other.

6. CONJUGAL INTIMACY – DESTROYERS (cont’d)
“Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines: for our vines have tender grapes” – Songs of Solomon 2:15.
“Unpleasant” previous experience: If one was previously sexually abused, or engaged in sexual acts before marriage, these experiences could hinder conjugal intimacy.
Ignorance – Ignorance of the significance of conjugal intimacy makes couples tend to neglect this extraordinary act. Some assume that sexual intercourse is only required for procreation and hence deny each other the pleasure it brings into the marriage.
Homosexuality, bestiality and incest – These practices are both unscriptural and fundamentally opposed to proper conjugal intimacy.

7. CONJUGAL INTIMACY - DESIRABLE
“I am my beloved's, and my beloved is mine: he feedeth among the lilies.” Songs of Sol 2:16
Exclusiveness – becoming one flesh with one partner provides the best setting for satisfying sexual intimacy. Conjugal intimacy should be exclusively for couples.
Mutuality – Men and women have different sexual desires and preferences. Develop a submissiveness to ensure mutual satisfaction.
Pleasurability – Sexual play should be enjoyable. Both parties should find it pleasurable.

8. CONJUGAL INTIMACY – DESIRED (cont’d)
Relationality – Sexual intimacy should include a strong relational component.
Perpetuating Genital Union – Sexual playfulness and creative ways to pleasure one another cannot replace genital union.

9. LET US PRAY