1. Journal Prompt Please put phones in the parking garage and in your journal respond to the following: What does positive self concept have to do with being a leader?

2. Good Things! Review from last week Self-Concept – Social Experiences – Social Comparisons – Reflected Appraisals Paradigms; life, self, others

3. Problems for Leaders Problem #1 Hearing Negative over Positive Hearing Negative over Positive – We do not hear all things equally – We hear negative things more loudly than we do the positive things that are said to us – Volunteer for Demonstration

4. Small Group Chat What are some negative things we hear or think about ourselves? What are some negative things we hear or think about ourselves?

5. Problems for Leaders Problem #2 Self-concept Based on Performance Self-concept Based on Performance – We base our self-concept on our performance – Abilities and performance change – Self worth needs to be based on WHO WE ARE NOT WHAT WE DO WHO WE ARE NOT WHAT WE DO

6. Problem #2 Continued How do we feel after playing an amazing game? Why? How do we feel after playing an amazing game? Why? How do we feel after you play poorly and cost your team the victory? Why? How do we feel after you play poorly and cost your team the victory? Why? We can not allow our performance to control how we CHOOSE to feel about ourselves! We can not allow our performance to control how we CHOOSE to feel about ourselves!

7. What are little babies good for? Don’t produce product other than waste! Can’t help out around the house Can’t mow the lawn Can’t make money They cry at ALL the wrong times Puke on you Keep you up all night Can’t even conduct intelligent conversation!

8. What we really think of babies Look how cute Look how cute So precious So precious So perfect So perfect How sweet How sweet What a beautiful What a beautiful

9. Not So Cute Moments Then Timmy, age 3, spills a glass of milk and is not so cute anymore… Then Timmy, age 3, spills a glass of milk and is not so cute anymore… WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU!? WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU!?

10. Self-Concept If we face our self-worth on abilities at some point it will change If we face our self-worth on abilities at some point it will change AND that change will be NEGATIVE AND that change will be NEGATIVE

11. Y.O.U. Are you a worthy person with a unique purpose in life? Are you a worthy person with a unique purpose in life? Are you lovable and of great worth regardless of your performance? Are you lovable and of great worth regardless of your performance? What do you think about yourself? And who decides what you think about yourself? What do you think about yourself? And who decides what you think about yourself? YOU DO! What are we going to choose to think about ourselves? YOU DO! What are we going to choose to think about ourselves?

12. Reflection What are you going to do to make sure you have a positive self-concept regardless of your abilities at any given time? What are you going to do to make sure you have a positive self-concept regardless of your abilities at any given time?