Understanding Values, Behaviour and Attitudes Self Development In the context of spirituality and a practical approach This course is designed by uconnect@srcm.org Presenter : Harshal Jawale Class 2 – Values Understanding Values, Behaviour and Attitudes Aurangabad Youth Seminar, India Date – July-05-2014

Identify the conflict in this video? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7KkHkggf_aU

Who is this guy?

What values does Salman Khan advocate?

Mission Statement To offer the youth of this country an aspirational set of values to live by; to help them achieve a balanced life focused on a spiritual goal and an ethical material life; and to contribute to nation building.

What are values? We will discover what values are collectively Watch a Video – Developing Personal Values (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z-sqn9W7FwQ&feature=related ) What are values? This discussion starter defines what values are and what people and factors in our lives help to shape our individual values and beliefs. The video is available at Uconnect dropbox/course material/students/chennai (16 sessions, 1hr each)/modules/values/values 1/developing personal values http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z-sqn9W7FwQ&feature=related

What values did Duryodhan represent? What are values? This discussion starter defines what values are and what people and factors in our lives help to shape our individual values and beliefs. The video is available at Uconnect dropbox/course material/students/chennai (16 sessions, 1hr each)/modules/values/values 1/developing personal values http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z-sqn9W7FwQ&feature=related

Key questions? Can values be taught and learnt? Are we born with them? Is there an age limit to such learning? Have interaction.. Time it.

Values Determine Behaviour Instead of the video I will show the diagram of the buoy and explain it “Your values are the anchor that determine how you think, make decisions, feel and ultimately behave. Changing behaviors must begin with examining your internal core values. If you value things, prestige or ideas more than people and self, your choices and behavior will be poor and bring sorrow, loss and failure to your life as well as hurt those around you” Self and others are greater than tasks and things which must be greater than systems ideas and concepts.. - This slide is important and make sure people understand the core values. The video is available at Uconnect/course material/students/chennai (16sessions 1hr each)/modules/values/values1/Values determine your behaviour http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yRQ8wHJ1a90&feature=related

A Sample Set of Personal Values, Attitudes, Behaviors Discipline, Prioritize, work hard Humility, Fairness, Empathy Kind, Generous, Giving Honest, Truthful Simple living Respect, Politeness, Not hurting others Treat others equally, avoid jealousy Forgive and forget Introspect and apologize even if not wrong. Goal Oriented

A Sample Set of Spiritual Values, Attitudes, Behaviors Discipline: Wake up at dawn. Do meditation at same time & place Prayer: Begin with prayer for spiritual elevation Fix a goal – complete oneness with God Be truthful. Accept miseries as Gifts from God Be plain and simple Know all as children of God Be not revengeful for wrongs done Eat in divine thought Mould life to rouse feeling of love & piety in others Bed time, repent for wrongs committed

What are my three core values? Exercise What are my three core values? PREPARE THE CLASS AS FOLLOWS Responsibility to the self and others vs self centered. How do we feel when we are cheated? How do we feel when we cheat someone else? What do we think of others when they behave in a noble way? What would others think of us when we behave in a noble way? “Arise Awake Rest not till the goal is reached” – Swami Vivekananda AND THEN ASK THEM TO THEIR EYES FOR 3 MINS. AND IN THE FIRST PERSON “ask your self “What are my top three core values” and then write them down and turn them in at the end of the session. We will show what the class is made of next time. Anonymity is key and don’t write your names.

Aligning Values, Goals with the nature of real Self Self = Value + Goal SELF GOAL Behaviour Means and ends.. Means taking care of the ends.. Ends justifying the means. Attitudes Values Aligning Values, Goals with the nature of real Self

VIRTUOUS CYCLE OF SELF DEVELOPMENT Having a Goal that is consistent with the real Self Refining values, beliefs and attitudes Gaining knowledge based on experience Practicing to become perfect The process of self development is Virtuous cycle. We have the higher Self, Ideal and Goals which are central to our existence. Its starts with defining a goal which is consistent with our higher SELF, refining your values, altering behaviors, gaining knowledge based on experience and practicing to get perfect. Constant adjustment to align our values, attitudes, behaviors, cultural beliefs is essential to reach that pre-defined goal which we set for ourselves. The adjustment reinforces the process of reaching the Goal which ultimately reaches to self realization. Self Development Self Fulfillment Self Realization

“Ordinary people can do extraordinary things.” Values Matter Watch a video - Values Matter (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GHcasIi5vVc) In a world where everybody is running and never walking, where we know the price of everything but have forgotten the value of life, we have decided to walk in order to celebrate and remind ourselves what we are made of: Love, Peace, Truth, Non-Violence, Right-Conduct. Let's turn anxiety into peace, fear into love, war into non-violence, exclusion into right-conduct. Let's walk hand in hand so that this world turns into our home...Walk for Values is an annual event that takes place worldwide to promote the goodness of human beings and the unlimited amount of values we posses. “Ordinary people can do extraordinary things.” Values Matter A video explaining various aspects of Values-Based Education. The video is set within Washingborough School in Lincolnshire but it is not about that specific school. The focus of the video is to explain what Values-Based education is, how it is taught, the impact it has on the students, how parents view the approach and what a school needs to do if it wishes to incorporate Values-Based Education in their school. The video is available at Uconnect/course material/students/chennai (16sessions 1hr each)/modules/values/values1/Values matter http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GHcasIi5vVc THE SPEAKER THANKS AND INVITES THE FACILITATOR TO CLOSE THE SESSION.

10 minute quiet time… THIS IS DONE BY THE FACILITATOR. Pay attention to yourself… try to write down what happened… Paying attention is a habit and once we do that to ourselves, we can do better with others.. Good Listeners have practiced being quiet.

In closing Create a new habit based on one Value Recognize and change a habit (Ex., Avoiding laziness) Reminders Meditate twice a day for 10 minutes Diary Writing Books recommended O Henry’s short stories Swami Vivekananda’s books Give examples of something they can practice… Respect, Compassion, Empathy etc.. Books recommended is such a suggestion. This may be altered.