Better Parents and Better Children Gauh longx deix nyei die maa caux Gauh longx deix nyei fu’jueiv Ephesians 6:4 E^fe^so 6:4 Today’s Date: January 10, 2010

4 Zoux die nyei mienh aah! Maiv dungx cuoqv meih mbuo nyei fu'jueiv qiex jiez. Oix zuqc ei Ziouv nyei leiz dorh longx fu'jueiv, njaaux ninh mbuo muangx waac. 6:4 ฝ่ายท่านผู้เป็นบิดาอย่ายั่วบุตรของตนให้ เกิดโทสะ แต่จงอบรมบุตรด้วยการสั่งสอน และการตักเตือนตามหลักขององค์พระผู้เป็น เจ้า 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Better Children Better Children INTRODUCTION INTRODUCTION Better Parents Better Parents Better Families Better Families

I. Better Parents I. Better Parents Proverbs 22:6 Gauh longx deix nyei die maa 6 Njaaux fu'jueiv gan ninh horpc zuqc yangh nyei jauv, gox daaih ninh ziouc maiv leih nqoi. Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.

3 Children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. 4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. 5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate. Psalms 127 Having children is one of the greatest blessings God gives Maaih fu’jueiv se benx yietc nyungc Tin-Hungh bun daaih hlo haic nyei fuqv. 3 Naamh nyouz se ZIOUV bun nzipc nyei buonc, yungz daaih nyei fu'jueiv benx ninh nyei zingh nyeic. 4 Mienh hnyangx- jeiv lunx nyei ziangh hoc yungz nyei naamh nyouz, se hnangv forng-cang yiem mborqv jaax baeng nyei buoz. 5 Maaih forng buangv forng-ndongh nyei mienh orn-lorqc haic. Yiem zingh gaengh caux win-wangv dunx sic nyei ziangh hoc yaac maiv zuqc nyaiv.

Tremendous Responsibility Mv baac mbuo maaih gong camv nyei oix zuqc zoux “What kind of child will this be?” (Luke 1:66) What is At Stake? Soul of the Child Souls of the Parents 66 Haiz liuz nyei mienh zorqv naaiv deix sic an jienv hnyouv hnamv, "Aa, naaiv dauh fu'jueiv hlo daaih benx haaix nyungc mienh ni?" Weic zuqc mengh mengh baeqc baeqc nyei buatc jienv Ziouv caux ninh yiem. Fu’jueiv nyei wuonh oix hnangv haaix nor? Domh mienh nyei wuonh oix hnangv haaix nor?

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go…” How to raise a child “…and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” What he will be as an adult DependsuponDependsupon “Njaaux fu'jueiv gan ninh horpc zuqc yangh nyei jauv, gox daaih ninh ziouc maiv leih nqoi.” Naaiv se gorngv hnangv haaix dorh fu’jueiv njaaux fu’jueiv Naaiv se gorngv taux fu’jueiv hlo daaih hnangv haaix nor

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 Train up: - Mold & Shape Train fai njaaux naaiv joux waac maaih eix-leiz gorngv fiouv fai nanv. Dedicate by training Strong’s: “chanak figuratively, to initiate or discipline:- dedicate, train up.” Same word translated “dedicate” (Deut 20:5; 1Kings 8:63; 2 Chron. 7:5) – Training is dedicating a child to God. How? - Guide them in what they need Chanak - lit. means put something in the mouth. – as nurse gives an infant in order to prepare them for nursing (Pulpit). Naaiv joux waac se benx waa-meiv, maaih eix-leiz gorngv dingc hnyouv fungx Ziouv Chanak naaiv joux waac nyei eix-leiz se hnangv zorqv ga’naaiv dapv mienh nyei nzuih nor.

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 Train up: - Mold & Shape = Nanv & Fiouv Child: From infant to marriageable age 1 Sam. 4:21 – infant = Gu’nguaaz-faix Gen. 21: preteen lad = Fu’jueiv caan Gen. 37:2 - youth (17)= Dorng Nin nyei ziangh hoc Gen. 34:19 - marriageable age = Dorng jaa nyei ziangh hoc. While still under your roof! Njaaux fu’jueiv dongh ninh mbuo corc yiem jienv mbuo nyei buoz-ndiev nyei ziangh hoc “ Njaaux fu'jueiv gan ninh horpc zuqc yangh nyei jauv, gox daaih ninh ziouc maiv leih nqoi.” Gu’nguaaz yiem cuotv seix daaih taux dorng jaa nyei ziangh hoc corc yiem mbuo nyei buoz-ndiev.

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6 “Njaaux fu'jueiv gan ninh horpc zuqc yangh nyei jauv, gox daaih ninh ziouc maiv leih nqoi.” Njaaux fu’jueiv hnamv Tin-Hungh taaih Tin-Hungh fuh sux Tin-Hungh. Zuov ninh hlo daaih ninh ziouc maiv leiz Tin- Hungh nyei jauv. Ninh mbuo hiuv duqv gamh nziex Tin-Hungh muangx Tin-Hungh nyei waac. Ninh mbuo ziouc oix muangx mbuo domh mienh njaaux nyei waac. “Njaaux fu’jueiv yangh horpc nyei jauv, eix-leiz se njaaux fu’jueiv zoux kuv sic, zoux longx, zoux horpc nyei jauv. Buatc fu’jueiv zoux daaih mv zuqc oix zuqc gorngv mbuox ninh mbuo, maiv dungx zoux.”

Better Parents T each – Instruction Children – Fu’jueiv What: Saturate them with Word (Deut. 6:1-9) Who:  Fathers are responsible (Eph. 6:1-4)  Mothers should teach (2 Tim. 1:5; 3:15) Why: Fatal to assume they know (Jud. 2:10) Wuov nyungc mbuo oix zuqc njaaux haaix nyungc jauv? Njaaux Tin-Hungh nyei leiz-latc caux leiz (Nzamc Leiz-Latc 6:1-9). Zoux die nyei mienh oix zuqc zoux (E^fe^so 6:1-4) Zoux maa nyei mienh ( 2 Ti^mo^tai 1:5; 3:15 Hnamv daaih ninh mbuo hiuv duqv (Domh Jien (2:10) Haaix dauh

Show - Example Examples are powerful –Nyungc Zeiv  Live Right - Children Blessed (Prov. 20:7)  Yiem horpc - Zoux duqv zingx nyei kuv mienh, ninh nyei dorn-jueiv duqv fuqv (Congh Mengh Waac 20:7)  Follow what see (Ezek. 16:44)  "Maa hnangv haaix nor, sieqv hnangv wuov nor.“ (E^se^ken 16:44) Show them what want them to be  Christians / Faithful / Active (Ziepc zuoqv hnyouv yaac jienh)  Moral / Caring / Generous (ziux goux yaac maiv njapv)  Workers / Homemakers (Jienh zoux biauv gong nyei mienh)

Correct - Punishment Change the behavior (Prov. 22:15) Tiuv muangx waac nyei jauv (Congh Mengh Waac 22:15) Firm - put some teeth in the rules. Yiem mbuo gorngv nyei waac oix zuqc maaih deix haangh daauh Balanced with love / encouragement / praise Longc baengh fim nyei hnamv/orn hnyouv ninh mbuo/ ceng ninh mbuo. Done with future in mind (Heb. 12:11; Prov. 23:13-14) zoux ziangx taux setv mueiz. The Punishment Should:

Better Parents Better Parents Teach (Instruction) Show (Example) Correct (Punishment) Control Zoux nyungc zeiv Gunv goux fu’jueiv Mborqv njaaux Kuinx /Njaaux

Control - Gunv Children do not have wisdom - comes later Need guidance & restrictions Controlled by parents (cf. 1 Tim. 3:4-5) Parents need to watch / know.... Proverbs 29:15 “The rod and rebuke give wisdom, But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.” 15 Longc biaav mborqv njaaux yaac gorngv-njaaux, fu'jueiv ziouc jaa cong-mengh, mv baac se gorngv sueih fu'jueiv ei ganh nyei hnyouv zoux, ziouc bun maa zuqc nyaiv. Fu’jueiv cuotv seix daaih nyei ziangh hoc se mv congh mengh – nqa’haav hlo daaih cingx daaih maaih Fu’jueiv qiemx zuqc domh mienh dorh/gunv njaaux ninh mbuo Diex maac oix zuqc gunv goux fu’jueiv (1 T^mo^tai 3:4-5 Diex maa horpc zuqc goux mangc jienv fu’jueiv/yaac oix zuqc hiuv duqv fu’jueiv zoux haaix nyungc, mingh haaix.

Give Them Responsibility Bun ninh mbuo maaih buonc ndaam-dorng Teach them to work / Njaaux ninh mbuo zoux gong. Teach them to be content (Phil. 4:11). Njaaux ninh mbuo hoqc buangv eix (Fi^lipv^poi 4:11) Lamentation 3:27 “It is good for a man to bear the yoke while he is young.” “Naaiv se longx nyei, dongh mienh hnyangx-jeiv lunx nyei ziangh hoc bun ninh hoqc linc ndaam-dorng nyei jauv.”

Better Parents Better Parents Teach/Njaaux Zoux nyungc zeiv Be an Example Correct/Zorc Dingc zuiz/Punishment Gunv Goux/Control Bun Ninh maaih buonc ndaam-dorng Give Them Responsibility Njaaux ninh mbuo longc ziangh hoc Time

Njaaux ninh mbuo longc Ziangh hoc/Time Njaaux yaac oix zuqc ziangh hoc / Training takes time Hindrances  Gong/Work  Nyienx a’nziaauc /Sports  Mangc dienx ziou /TV Ephesians 5:16 “redeeming the time, because the days are evil.” “Oix zuqc longc duqv horpc ziangh hoc, weic zuqc ih zanc nyei nyutc zeiv se orqv haic”

II. Better Children II. Better Children Listen To Parents Ziangh horngh nyei fu’jueiv se oix muangx domh nyei waac

Muangx Diex Maac / Listen To Parents Guai nyei fu’jueiv muangx diex maac nyei waac Wise to listen to parents (Prov. 1:8; 4:1; 15:5) Maiv muangx waac nyei fu’jueiv ziouc mingh dorngx jauv. Failure to listen - stray (Prov. 19:27)

Better Children Better Children Listen To Parents Obey Parents Muangx diex maac Muangx mbuoqc diex maac

Muangx Diex Maac / Obey Parents Muangx waac nyei Lingc Command to obey (Eph. 6:2-3; Col. 3:20) Maiv muangx waac se benx hlo haic nyei zuiz. Disobedience = great sin (Rom. 1; 2 Tim. 3) Duqv zipv Tin-Hungh nyei fuqv ziangh ndaauv. Blessing - live long (Eph. 6:2-3; Prov. 4:10-13)

Better Children Better Children Muangx diex maac Listen To Parents Mbuoqc diex maac Obey Parents Tongx nimc diex maac Honor

Tongx Nimc Diex Maac/Honor Parents Taaih Diex Maac Respect (Prov. 23:22; 31:28) Ziux Goux Diex Maac Care (1 Tim. 5:4, 16; Exo. 20:12)

III. Better Families III. Better Families God is Feared Word is Honored Gamh Nziex Tin-Hungh Taaih Tin-Hungh Nyei Waac

God is Feared Word is Honored 1. Njaaux fu’jueiv hiuv duqv gamh nziex Tin-Hungh Children taught to “fear God” (Psa. 34:11) 2. Fu’jueiv haih jangx duqv dongh zeix ninh wuov dauh Children remember creator (Ecc. 12:1) 3. Hmuangv doic gu’nyuoz dauh dauh mienh, maaih sienx fim, gorqc zeic sienx, gorqc mienh ganh ndaam-dorng gorqc mienh nyei buonc. Each member of family - own faith, own convictions, give account of self. 4. Taaih Ging-Sou njaaux nyei waac gorngv taux haaix nyungc. Respect Bible for what it is (2 Thess. 2:13) Gamh nziex Tin-Hungh Taaih Tin-Hungh nyei waac

Better Families Better Families God is Feared Word is Honored Communicate Gamh nziex Tin-Hung tongx nimc Tin-Hungh nyei waac Laanh caux laanh maaih jiu tong

Better Families God is Feared Word is Honored Communicate Know that Little Things Mean a Lot Gamh nziex Tin-Hungh yaac tongx nimc Tin-Hungh nyei waac Laanh caux jiu tong doic Hiuv duqv gorngv deix baav faix fiuv sic yaac maaih eix-leiz camv haic.

Know that Little Things Mean a Lot Little things are of greater value than – think Examples = Nyungc Zeiv: Meals together / “Sir” “Thank you” / Where sit Juangc jienv nyanc hnaangx/ gorngv waac/ Laengz zingh/ Zueiz haaix lomh nzoih zueiz. Hugs / Saying “I love you” / Less material Qam doic/ gorngv “Yie hnamv meih” / Maiv mauv ga’naaiv camv. “Special Time” / Lengc jeiv nyei ziangh hoc Hiuv duqv gorngv deix baav jauv hnangv mv maaih eix-leiz camv haic Diqv dien ga’naaiv mv baac maaih jaax-zinh camv haic - hnamv

CONCLUSION = NZUTV NORZ WAAC E^fe^so 6:1 “Fu'jueiv aac, weic zuqc meih mbuo sienx Ziouv Yesu, meih mbuo oix zuqc muangx diex maac nyei waac. Hnangv naaiv zoux se horpc nyei.” E^fe^so 6:4 “Zoux die nyei mienh aah! Maiv dungx cuoqv meih mbuo nyei fu'jueiv qiex jiez. Oix zuqc ei Ziouv nyei leiz dorh longx fu'jueiv, njaaux ninh mbuo muangx waac.” E^fe^so 5:21 “Meih mbuo oix zuqc laanh mbuoqc laanh weic zuqc meih mbuo lomh nzoih taaih Giduc.”