Desperate for Relationship Genesis 2:18-25

“It is harder to lead a family than to rule a nation.” - Chinese Proverb “It is harder to lead a family than to rule a nation.” - Chinese Proverb “Leading a family through the chaos of American culture is like leading a small patrol through enemy-occupied territory.”-Steve Farrar, author on family life issues “Leading a family through the chaos of American culture is like leading a small patrol through enemy-occupied territory.”-Steve Farrar, author on family life issues

Amazing Facts 2 out of 3 marriages end in divorce. 2 out of 3 marriages end in divorce. 54% of first time marriages end in divorce in the first 3 years. 54% of first time marriages end in divorce in the first 3 years. 64% of first time marriages end in divorce in the first 7 years. 64% of first time marriages end in divorce in the first 7 years. 75% of all second time marriages end in divorce. 75% of all second time marriages end in divorce. 92% of all third time marriages end in divorce. 92% of all third time marriages end in divorce.

Amazing Facts Tonight, enough teenagers to fill the Rose Bowl, Cotton Bowl, Sugar Bowl, Orange Bowl, Fiesta Bowl, and the average Super Bowl will practice prostitution to support drug addictions. Tonight, enough teenagers to fill the Rose Bowl, Cotton Bowl, Sugar Bowl, Orange Bowl, Fiesta Bowl, and the average Super Bowl will practice prostitution to support drug addictions. 66% of all church-involved teenagers are sexually active. 66% of all church-involved teenagers are sexually active. 66% of American high school seniors have used illegal drugs. 66% of American high school seniors have used illegal drugs. Every 78 seconds, a teenager in America attempts suicide. Every 78 seconds, a teenager in America attempts suicide.

Genesis 2:18-25 The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name.

Genesis 2:18-25 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh.

Genesis 2:18-25 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, ' for she was taken out of man."

Genesis 2:18-25 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

The Other Side 95% of the boys say their fathers regularly tell them, “I love you.” 95% of the boys say their fathers regularly tell them, “I love you.” 95% of the girls say their mothers tell them regularly, “I‘m proud of you” or “You’re doing a great job.” 95% of the girls say their mothers tell them regularly, “I‘m proud of you” or “You’re doing a great job.” 94% say their fathers attend their athletic events. 94% say their fathers attend their athletic events. 97% of the boys say they get hugs from their dads. 97% of the boys say they get hugs from their dads.

The Other Side 100% of the girls say they get hugs from their moms and dads. 100% of the girls say they get hugs from their moms and dads. Recalling their childhood, 100% of the girls remember having stories read to them by their mothers. 85% of the boys recall having stories read to them by their dads. Recalling their childhood, 100% of the girls remember having stories read to them by their mothers. 85% of the boys recall having stories read to them by their dads.

The Other Side 89% of the boys say their fathers take them fishing. 89% of the boys say their fathers take them fishing. 100% of the girls say their parents have taken them to church. 100% of the girls say their parents have taken them to church.

Results 80% of these children say there are against premarital sex. 80% of these children say there are against premarital sex. 92% do not use illegal drugs. 92% do not use illegal drugs. Majority do not drink alcohol. Majority do not drink alcohol.

AN ATTITUDE OF HONOR But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

AN ATTITUDE OF HONOR The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, ' for she was taken out of man."

God speaks to husbands: “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers” - 1 Peter 3:7

God speaks to wives “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” - Ephesians 5:22-24

God speaks to children “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother -which is the first commandment with a promise- that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” - Ephesians 6:1-3

AN ATTITUDE OF HONOR Honor each other. Honor each other. What is honor? It is respect and esteem shown to another. What is honor? It is respect and esteem shown to another.

Showing Honor Demonstrate a regard for their presence. Demonstrate a regard for their presence. Engage them as a person of significance. Engage them as a person of significance. Listen until they are heard. Listen until they are heard.

Showing Honor Here are the dashboard indicators that your relationship may be in trouble: “unhealthy resentments”.

A PLEDGE TO LOYALTY “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

A PLEDGE TO LOYALTY The “leave & cleave” principle means that you commit yourself to the relationship as the primary relationship in your life.

Affair “an escape from reality, or a search for meaning outside the marriage.”

A PLEDGE TO LOYALTY God intends married people to live like married people. God intends married people to live like married people. Here is the dashboard indicator that your relationship may be in trouble: “emotional withdraw”. Here is the dashboard indicator that your relationship may be in trouble: “emotional withdraw”.

A COMMITMENT TO INTEGRITY “The man and the wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” “The man and the wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” Here is the dashboard indicator that your relationship may be in trouble: “no trespassing signs”. Here is the dashboard indicator that your relationship may be in trouble: “no trespassing signs”.

Application Do you have any dashboard indicators lighting up in key relationships in your life?

Possible responses: Duct tape response Duct tape response Tool response Tool response Evaluate the cause of the dashboard indicator and “fix” the problem. Evaluate the cause of the dashboard indicator and “fix” the problem.

How to Evaluate Honor – may require some “drawing out” conversation to be sure your actions are not hurting those you love the most. Honor – may require some “drawing out” conversation to be sure your actions are not hurting those you love the most. Loyalty – evaluation of resources (time, money and energy) to be sure your most important relationships have all that is required. Loyalty – evaluation of resources (time, money and energy) to be sure your most important relationships have all that is required. Integrity – an inside look to evaluate the real you and the invented you that everyone admires. Integrity – an inside look to evaluate the real you and the invented you that everyone admires.