04 / / 2008 Bishop-Designate Marcus D. CampbellBishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell 1 Conflict Resolution A Tool To Assist Pastors and Ministers

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell2 04 / 2008 Definition of Conflict A natural disagreement resulting from individuals or groups that differ in attitude, beliefs, values, or needs. Synonyms: Discord, Contention, Battle, Fight, War

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell3 04 / 2008 Biblical Example of Conflict Acts 15:39-40 “ And the contention was so sharp between them, that they departed asunder one from another: and so Barnabas took Mark, and sailed unto Cyprus; and Paul chose Silas, and departed, being recommended by the brethren unto the grace of GOD.”

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell4 04 / 2008 Causes of Conflict Past Rivalries (Unforgiveness) Personality Differences Egotism Personal Agendas Lack of Communication Ignorance Spitefulness Pride

04 / / 2008 Bishop-Designate Marcus D. CampbellBishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell 5 Conflict Resolution Resolving Conflict Within the Family

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell6 04 / 2008 Factors that cause conflicts within a family: Lack of effective communication Perceptions of reality Personal Opinions Power struggles Lack of respect Morals/values Feelings and emotions Lack of a desire to understand

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell7 04 / 2008 Factors that cause conflicts within a family cont’: Personal Fears Stress Life changes Differences in growth and maturity patterns

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell8 04 / 2008 Resolution for Family Conflicts Sit down and talk about the REAL problem Be willing to LISTEN Talk TO the family and NOT AT the family Take ownership for YOUR part Ensure that you understand the problem Agree to consciously work together FORGIVE! (Matthew 18: 21-22)

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell9 04 / 2008 Resolution for Family Conflicts cont’ Remember your Love for them Be patient with them Consciously be kind Be honest always Pray together

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell10 04 / 2008 Scriptural Reference Proverbs 14:35 ; Proverbs 15:1,18 James 1:19-20 Ephesians 4:26-27, 31 Ecclesiastes 7:9 Hebrews 12:15 Psalm 4:4

04 / / 2008 Bishop-Designate Marcus D. CampbellBishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell 11 Conflict Resolution Resolving Conflict Within Employment

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell12 04 / 2008 Factors that cause conflicts on the job: Lack of effective communication Perceptions of reality Personal Opinions Power struggles Lack of respect Morals/values Feelings and emotions Lack of a desire to understand

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell13 04 / 2008 Factors that cause conflicts on the job cont’: Personal Fears Stress Life changes Differences in growth and maturity patterns Denial of promotions and merit raises Family problems

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell14 04 / 2008 Resolution for Employment Conflicts Pray about the entire situation Discuss your conflict with those involved Set an office call with your supervisor and discuss the conflict and guidance Document all occurrences and conversations Utilize the chain of authority or command Consider relocation within the company or to a new company or field of employment

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell15 04 / 2008 Scriptural Reference Deuteronomy 30:15-16 Matthew 7:21, Job 36:11 Romans 8:28 John 15:10 James 1:25

04 / / 2008 Bishop-Designate Marcus D. CampbellBishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell 16 Conflict Resolution Resolving Conflict Within the Church and Groups

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell17 04 / 2008 Causes of conflict in the church Lack of effective communication Ignorance Gossip Clicks, factions, and sets Power struggles Money Acceptance of TRUE Structure and Authority

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell18 04 / 2008 Divine Structure of The Church Our: 1. Anointed Leaders 2. Appointed Leaders 3. Allotted Leaders Our: 1. Anointed Managers 2. Appointed Managers 3. Allotted Managers How we serve! Our: 1. Authority 2. Guidance 3. Foundation Why we serve! Our: 1. Relevance 2. Respect 3. Responsibility

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell19 04 / 2008 Resolution of conflicts in the church Corporate prayer and fasting Establishment of effective communication The Doctrine of Belief (The Holy Bible) The Bylaws and/or Constitution of the church Setting the standard and upholding it Advocating and living holiness Sincere Listening and Loving Always be willing to reason Remember where the true authority exists

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell20 04 / 2008 Scriptural References: Acts 1:4-5 Hebrews 10:12-14 Matthew 24:14 Isaiah 52:8 1 Corinthians 1:10 John 10:15-16, John 16: Ephesians 4

04 / / 2008 Bishop-Designate Marcus D. CampbellBishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell 21 Conflict Resolution Resolving Personal Conflicts

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell22 04 / 2008 Causes of personal conflicts: Denial Stress Loss of focus Frustrations Unappreciation Lack of rest Unhealthy diet Absence of a prayer life

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell23 04 / 2008 Resolution of personal conflicts: Acknowledge where you truly are in life Be REAL with yourself Be real with GOD Seek clarity from GOD on your purpose Disconnect from the inhibitors in life Love yourself Take care of yourself Forgive yourself

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell24 04 / 2008 Scriptural References: Matthew 5:44-45 Mark 11:25 Luke 6:36-38 Proverbs 20:22