One FleshOne Flesh

FACT 4,774,000 The number of women in the U.S. who experience physical violence by an intimate partner ever year. -Center for Disease Control and Prevention

FACT 20 The number of people who are victimized by domestic abuse every minute -Center for Disease Control and Prevention

FACT 70x The amount of times more likely a woman is to be murdered in the few weeks after leaving her abusive partner than at any other time in the relationship -The Domestic Violence Intervention Program

Abuse in the Adventist Church René Drumm 2 Studies 5-state region 7 churches around Adventist University 2,000 people Drumm, René. “Abuse in the Adventist Church.” Review and Harold, 2007.

Abuse in the Adventist Church “Spouse abuse has been documented as a major problem among Adventists today.” Drumm, René. “Abuse in the Adventist Church.” Review and Harold, 2007.

Abuse in the Adventist Church “Spouse abuse has been documented as a major problem among Adventists today.” “From our extensive review of the prevalent literature, it appears that Adventists in North America are on par with and in some cases— particularly with male victimization—higher than national statistics.” Drumm, René. “Abuse in the Adventist Church.” Review and Harold, 2007.

Even Adventists need to know how to love better.

Christ and His Bride

Ephesians 5:22-33

22-24 Instruction to Wives Instruction to Husbands Ephesians 5:22-32

Ephesians 5:22-24Wives

22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Wives

Ephesians 5: Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Wives

Ephesians 5: Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Wives

Ephesians 5: Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Wives

Ephesians 5:22-24 be subject to your own husbands in everything. Wives

Ephesians 5:22-24 be subject to your own husbands in everything. Wives ὑποτάσσω to willingly place yourself in a position under 2 nd person present passive (you be submitting yourself) Women do this to themselves, A man is not called to subject his wife.

Ephesians 5:22-24 be subject to your own husbands in everything. Wives Jesus Subjected Himself to his parents (Luke 2:51) The carnal mind is not subject to God’s law (Romans 8:7) Women do this to themselves, A man are not called to subject his wife

Ephesians 5:22-24 be subject to your own husbands in everything. Wives Not all women to all men Not sisters to brothers Wife to your own husband

Philippians 2:3 3 with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; Wives

Ephesians 5:21 21 and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ. Wives

Ephesians 5:22-24 be subject to your own husbands in everything. Wives v. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body.

Christ Church

Christ Church Husband Wife

1 Samuel 24:6

So he said to his men, “Far be it from me because of the Lord that I should do this thing to my lord, the Lord’s Anointed, to stretch out my hand against him, since he is the Lord’s anointed.” 1 Samuel 24:6

David did not remain in the abusive situation, but he still willingly placed himself under Saul.

The Adventist Home, pg. 117 It was not the design of God that the husband should have control, as head of the house, when he himself does not submit to Christ. He must be under the rule of Christ that he may represent the relation of Christ to the church. If he is a coarse, rough, boisterous, egotistical, harsh, and overbearing man, let him never utter the word that the husband is the head of the wife, and that she must submit to him in everything; for he is not the Lord, he is not the husband in the true significance of the term. Husbands

Ephesians 5:25-32Husbands

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, 30 because we are members of His body. 31 F OR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND SHALL BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. Husbands

Ephesians 5: Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, 30 because we are members of His body. 31 F OR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND SHALL BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. Husbands

Ephesians 5: Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, 30 because we are members of His body. 31 F OR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND SHALL BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. Husbands

Ephesians 5: Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, 30 because we are members of His body. 31 F OR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND SHALL BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. Husbands

Ephesians 5:25-32 Love your wives as your own body. Husbands

Ephesians 5:25-32 Love your wives as your own body. Husbands 5 patient, kind, not jealous; does not brag is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails;

Ephesians 5:25-32 Love your wives as your own body. Husbands Your greatest focus of love on earth is to your wife

Ephesians 5:25-32 Love your wives as your own body. Husbands 28 …He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it…

Husbands

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Shield her from present danger Protect her from potential harm Ease her pain when she is hurting Wince when she gets hurt Husbands Love yourself by loving your wife

Husbands Christ loves His bride (v )

He gave Himself up for her, Husbands

Christ loves His bride (v ) He gave Himself up for her, He works to sanctify her, Husbands

Christ loves His bride (v ) He gave Himself up for her, He works to sanctify her, He works to cleans her by the washing of water with the word, Husbands

Christ loves His bride (v ) He gave Himself up for her, He works to sanctify her, He works to cleans her by the washing of water with the word, He views her as glorious for Himself, Husbands

Christ loves His bride (v ) He gave Himself up for her, He works to sanctify her, He works to cleans her by the washing of water with the word, He views her as glorious for Himself, He works to remove every spot or wrinkle or any such thing; Husbands

Christ loves His bride (v ) He gave Himself up for her, He works to sanctify her, He works to cleans her by the washing of water with the word, He views her as glorious for Himself, He works to remove every spot or wrinkle or any such thing; He works to make her holy and blameless Husbands

Christ loves His bride (v ) He gave Himself up for her, He works to sanctify her, He works to cleans her by the washing of water with the word, He views her as glorious for Himself, He works to remove every spot or wrinkle or any such thing; He works to make her holy and blameless He nourishes and cherishes her, Husbands

Christ loves His bride (v ) He gave Himself up for her, He works to sanctify her, He works to cleans her by the washing of water with the word, He views her as glorious for Himself, He works to remove every spot or wrinkle or any such thing; He works to make her holy and blameless He nourishes and cherishes her, He considers her His body. Husbands

Husbands Christ loves His bride (v ) He gave Himself up for her, He works to sanctify her, He works to cleans her by the washing of water with the word, He views her as glorious for Himself, He works to remove every spot or wrinkle or any such thing; He works to make her holy and blameless He nourishes and cherishes her, He considers her His body.

The Greatest Love of AllChrist

31 F OR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND SHALL BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH. Christ

The Greatest Love of All 31 F OR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND SHALL BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. Christ

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John 3:16 “God so loved the world, that He gave His only-begotten Son.” Christ

Desire of Ages, p. 25 “God so loved the world, that He gave His only- begotten Son.” John 3:16. He gave Him not only to bear our sins, and to die as our sacrifice; He gave Him to the fallen race. To assure us of His immutable counsel of peace, God gave His only-begotten Son to become one of the human family, forever to retain His human nature. Christ

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