What is this course all about? How to develop a good self image. How to develop a good self image.

Benefits of a good self image Happier Happier Confident Confident Perform better in school, sports, music and work. Perform better in school, sports, music and work. More outgoing More outgoing Develop better personal relationships Develop better personal relationships Fun to be with Fun to be with Healthier – physically, emotionally, and socially Healthier – physically, emotionally, and socially

Four Ways People Respond to New Information 1. Lock it out and refuse to accept it. 1. Lock it out and refuse to accept it. 2. Maybe for others, but not for me. 2. Maybe for others, but not for me. 3. Maybe I can use part of it. (buffet idea) 3. Maybe I can use part of it. (buffet idea) 4. This is great. I can use it! 4. This is great. I can use it!

The Living Zones I am zone (comfort) I am zone (comfort) Learning zone (stretched) I can be zone (stressed)

A Very Old Proverb “As a Man Thinks, He is.”

Negative Lucy

Real Nobility The truth is, there is nothing noble in being superior to somebody else. The truth is, there is nothing noble in being superior to somebody else. The only real nobility is in being superior to your former self. The only real nobility is in being superior to your former self. - Whitney Young

Anorexia & Bulimia

How Many Squares Do You See?

Scotomas 1. What are they? 1. What are they? Blind spots A sensory lockout of our awareness and the environment caused by conditioning or prior expectations. A sensory lockout of our awareness and the environment caused by conditioning or prior expectations.

FLY A scotoma

Scotomas 2. Why don’t some people change? 2. Why don’t some people change? They often have scotomas (blind spots) to improvement. They often have scotomas (blind spots) to improvement. 3. Lock on/Lock out 3. Lock on/Lock out We consciously only see one thing at a time

A scotoma How many faces? Do you see a young lady? How about the old lady?

Do you want to Be or Become? Human Beings Human Beings Have already arrived at their destination They are satisfied to stay in one place and tread water Human Becomings Human Becomings Are constantly looking for new opportunities to grow and become. They enjoy new journeys more than old destinations.

A scotoma Check out the center dots. Check out the center dots. They are the same. They are the same.

Success Is how you compare with your own best self.

Resistors Drain the Power to Success Fear of Failure Fear of Failure “I have to” “I have to” “I can’t do it.” “I can’t do it.” Lack of confidence Lack of confidence Excuses – “as soon as I get around to it.” Excuses – “as soon as I get around to it.” Worry Worry

As soon as I get a round….. Tu it

Smart birds Smart birds

It Couldn’t Be Done Somebody said that it couldn’t be done, but he with a chuckle replied, that “maybe it couldn’t,” but he would be one who wouldn’t say so ‘til he tried. Somebody said that it couldn’t be done, but he with a chuckle replied, that “maybe it couldn’t,” but he would be one who wouldn’t say so ‘til he tried. So he buckled right in with a trace of a grin on his face. If he worried he hid it, he started to sing as he tackled the thing that couldn’t be done, and he did it. So he buckled right in with a trace of a grin on his face. If he worried he hid it, he started to sing as he tackled the thing that couldn’t be done, and he did it. There are thousands to tell you it cannot be done, there are thousands to prophesy failure; there are thousands to point out to you, one by one, the dangers that wait to assail you. There are thousands to tell you it cannot be done, there are thousands to prophesy failure; there are thousands to point out to you, one by one, the dangers that wait to assail you. But just buckle in, with a bit of a grin. Just take off your coat and go to it; just start to sing as you tackle the thing that “cannot be done,” and you’ll do it. But just buckle in, with a bit of a grin. Just take off your coat and go to it; just start to sing as you tackle the thing that “cannot be done,” and you’ll do it. Edgar A. Guest

Perception Quiz 1. Do they have a fourth of July in England? 1. Do they have a fourth of July in England? 2. How many birthdays does the average man have? 2. How many birthdays does the average man have? 3. How far can a dog run into the woods? 3. How far can a dog run into the woods? 4. A farmer has 17 sheep. All but 9 died. How many had he left? 4. A farmer has 17 sheep. All but 9 died. How many had he left? 5. Take two apples from three apples and what do you have? 5. Take two apples from three apples and what do you have? 6. How many animals of each species did Moses take along in the ark? 6. How many animals of each species did Moses take along in the ark? Do you see OPPORTUNITY in everyday difficulty or DIFFICULTY in everyday opportunity?

Types of Worry Things that never happen………. 40% Things that never happen………. 40% Things already over and past……. 30% Things already over and past……. 30% Our own health………. 12% Our own health………. 12% Petty miscellaneous ……………. 10% Petty miscellaneous ……………. 10% 92% of what we worry about never happens 92% of what we worry about never happens What about the other 8%? What about the other 8%? …These are real problems you can solve.

Hall of Fame cartoon Excuses and a losers limp

Worry Poor Charlie

Trust You cannot worry and trust at the same time.

A scotoma Can you guess this one? Can you guess this one?

Conditioning Doing something repeatedly over a period of time until it becomes habit.

Conditioning Pavlov’s classic conditioning experiments

Conditioning Elephants – no longer trapped by their physical body, but trapped by their mind.

Conditioning What about people? What about people? Roger Bannister and the…….. 4 minute mile. How have you been conditioned? How have you been conditioned?

A scotoma What do you see? What do you see? It makes pies. It makes pies. It is a cow. It is a cow.

A scotoma How many images? How many images? Eskimo? Eskimo? Face? Face?

Thought Process Conscious Conscious Subconscious Subconscious Creative subconscious Creative subconscious

Conscious (the mic) 1. The awake stage 1. The awake stage 2. Use five senses to input information to the brain. 2. Use five senses to input information to the brain. 3. Can filter messages using “on/off switch.” 3. Can filter messages using “on/off switch.” 4. “No one can make you feel inferior with out your consent.” – E. Roosevelt 4. “No one can make you feel inferior with out your consent.” – E. Roosevelt

A scotoma What faces do you see? Old man? Young lovers?

Subconscious (the tape) 1. Stores information 1. Stores information 2. Stores it as “truth and reality.” 2. Stores it as “truth and reality.” 3. G.I.G.O 3. G.I.G.O (garbage in – garbage out) (garbage in – garbage out) 4. Stores information of what we thought happened not necessarily of what actually happened. 4. Stores information of what we thought happened not necessarily of what actually happened. 5. Allows us to do all reflex actions, habits and over learned skills without thinking. 5. Allows us to do all reflex actions, habits and over learned skills without thinking.

GIGO

FINISHED FILES ARE THE RE- SULT OF YEARS OF SCIENTIF- IC STUDY COMBINED WITH THE EXPERIENCE OF MANY YEARS.

Fascinating fairytales of faraway lands are the fertilizer for the fructification of the creative minds of the future.

A scotoma Face or……. Face or……. the word “liar”?

Creative subconscious (the TV) 1. Helps maintain sanity or reality. 1. Helps maintain sanity or reality. 2. Makes me act like me. 2. Makes me act like me. 3. Helps me act out the dominant image of myself. 3. Helps me act out the dominant image of myself. 4. Creatively finds a way to even though you are winning or…. 4. Creatively finds a way to lose even though you are winning or…. 5. Creatively finds a way to win even though you are losing. 5. Creatively finds a way to win even though you are losing.

A scotoma What do you see? Rabbit? Or a… Duck?

A Dreaded Disease Stinkin’, thinkin’ Stinkin’, thinkin’ Whenever you say…. Whenever you say…. “I can’t”, you have it. “I can’t”, you have it. Also called the self- fulfilling prophecy Also called the self- fulfilling prophecy The mind completes the picture you put in to it. The mind completes the picture you put in to it.

The Bob Wieland Story There is no “ I can’t” in this story. There is no “ I can’t” in this story. There is no stinkin’ thinkin’ There is no stinkin’ thinkin’ Bob Wieland was a Vietnam war vet. Bob Wieland was a Vietnam war vet. Finished the NY city marathon in 81 hours. Finished the NY city marathon in 81 hours. He had no legs. He had no legs. He did not use a wheel chair. He only used his crutches and the stumps of his legs. He did not use a wheel chair. He only used his crutches and the stumps of his legs. He finished 21,144 th. He finished last. He finished 21,144 th. He finished last. He began Nov. 1, 1987 and finished Nov. 4, 1987 He began Nov. 1, 1987 and finished Nov. 4, 1987 Other accomplishments: he ran across the U.S. using crutches and no legs. Other accomplishments: he ran across the U.S. using crutches and no legs. He tried to get into the Olympics as a weight lifter. He was denied because you have to wear shoes. He tried to get into the Olympics as a weight lifter. He was denied because you have to wear shoes. He hold the consecutive push up record. Some where in the thousands. He hold the consecutive push up record. Some where in the thousands. What great thing will you accomplish in your life? What great thing will you accomplish in your life? We are only limited by our own MIND! We are only limited by our own MIND!

A scotoma Count the legs Count the legs

How to Improve Your Self Image 1. “See” yourself as the person you want to become. (Visualize the best you.) 1. “See” yourself as the person you want to become. (Visualize the best you.) 2. Write goals for improvement and complete them. 2. Write goals for improvement and complete them. 3. Change your self talk; eliminate all negative, destructive self criticism. 3. Change your self talk; eliminate all negative, destructive self criticism. 4. Do something nice for somebody else without them knowing it was you. 4. Do something nice for somebody else without them knowing it was you.

A scotoma A face? A sax player?

How to Improve Your Self Image 5. Have the habit of “put-ups”, not “put-downs.” 5. Have the habit of “put-ups”, not “put-downs.” 6. Take inventory and realize how important, worthwhile, and beautiful you are – just like you are. 6. Take inventory and realize how important, worthwhile, and beautiful you are – just like you are. 7. Begin to move toward your 7. Begin to move toward your unlimited potential. unlimited potential.

Can you read this out loud, correctly? A bird in the A bird in the the hand is worthless. the hand is worthless.

Self Talk What we say to our self either out loud or just by thinking it to our self. What we say to our self either out loud or just by thinking it to our self. People who put themselves down – lower their performances. People who put themselves down – lower their performances. People who encourage and give themselves positive self talk – raise their performances People who encourage and give themselves positive self talk – raise their performances

Self Talk Future Future Subconscious Subconscious Mental reminders Mental remindersPerformance Rather than put yourself down, you should say… Rather than put yourself down, you should say… ….”That’s not like me. Next time I’ll ….” ….”That’s not like me. Next time I’ll ….”

A scotoma A 3D cube? A 3D cube? Or a two walled room? Or a two walled room?

New Beginnings Rite of Passage Rite of Passage The Wizard of Oz The Wizard of Oz

A scotoma Try to figure out this interesting cube. Try to figure out this interesting cube.

A scotoma Check out these lines Which is longer? They are the same.

A scotoma Are the lines straight? They are.

A scotoma A vase? A face? It is both.

A scotoma Count the horses Count the horses There should be 7. There should be 7.

A scotoma How many pandas? How many pandas?