1. BELL WORK Write about a time you sought revenge. Did it solve your conflict?

2. REVIEW What are some reasons for conflict Space Property Siblings What is the definition of conflict?

3. CONFLICT PREVENTING CONFLICT

4. OBJECTIVES  identify factors that build conflicts.  prevent conflicts from becoming serious.  develop stress management techniques to release anger.

5. WHY CONFLICTS BUILD Factors that can cause a conflict to escalate include anger, jealousy, group pressure, and the use of alcohol and drugs. escalate Become more serious

6. WARNIGN SIGNS OF CONFLICT A knot in the stomach Feeling concerned Faster heart rate Getting defensive A lump in the throat Wanting to cry Balled-up fists Not feeling valued Cold or sweaty palms Wanting to lash out A sudden surge of energy Wanting to escape

7. ANGER Anger itself is not a problem—the challenge is how to deal with the anger in an appropriate way.

8. DEALING WITH ANGER STEP AWAY BE QUIET FOR A WHILE SHARE YOUR FEELINGS FOCUS ON SOMETHING ELSE IDENTIFY THE PROBLEM FOCUS ON THE PROBLEM NOT THE PERSON

9. JEALOUSY Jealousy is a gateway emotion Jealousy Bitterness Resentment

10. JEALOUSY Revenge is often seen as “payback” or an opportunity to “even the score.” revenge Punishment, injury, or insult to the person seen as the cause of the strong emotion

11. REVENGE Revenge turns a minor conflict into a major conflict.

12. GROUP PRESSURE People in the middle of a public conflict often get swept up in a mob mentality. mob mentality Acting or behaving in a certain and often negative manner because others are doing it

13. ALCOHOL AND DRUGS Violent crimes committed under the influence of alcohol are a leading cause of teen deaths. The use of alcohol and other drugs makes it difficult to resolve conflicts in a peaceful way.

14. PREVENTING CONFLICTS FROM BUILDING Learn to understand your feelings

15. PREVENTING CONFLICTS FROM BUILDING Keep your conflicts private

16. PREVENTING CONFLICTS FROM BUILDING Avoid using alcohol or other drugs

17. PREVENTING CONFLICTS FROM BUILDING Show respect for yourself and for others

18. PREVENTING CONFLICTS FROM BUILDING Learn to accept people who are different from you.

19. PREVENTING CONFLICTS FROM BUILDING Put yourself in the other persons shoes.