1. Common Communication Strategies For Survival

2. Altruism/ Assume Control Altruism Be of help and assistance Be of help and assistance Be available to give advice when requested Be available to give advice when requested Assume Control Present yourself as a leader, a person who has control over what goes on Present yourself as a leader, a person who has control over what goes on

3. Assume Equality/Comfortable Self Assume Equality Present yourself as an equal Present yourself as an equal Comfortable Self Act comfortable in your environment and with yourself Act comfortable in your environment and with yourself

4. Concede Control/Conversational Rule Keeping Concede Control Allow the other person to control the relationship and the situation Allow the other person to control the relationship and the situation Conversational Rule Keeping Closely follow the culture’s rules for how people are to socialize with each other. Demonstrate cooperation, friendliness, and politeness. Closely follow the culture’s rules for how people are to socialize with each other. Demonstrate cooperation, friendliness, and politeness.

5. Dynamism/ Elicit Other’s Disclosures Dynamism Present yourself as a dynamic, active, and enthusiastic Present yourself as a dynamic, active, and enthusiastic Elicit Other’s Disclosures Encourage the other to talk by asking questions and responding to answers with interest Encourage the other to talk by asking questions and responding to answers with interest

6. Facilitate Enjoyment/ Inclusion of Other Facilitate Enjoyment Make shared experiences enjoyable Make shared experiences enjoyable Inclusion of Other Include the other in your social activities and group of friends Include the other in your social activities and group of friends

7. Influence Perceptions of Closeness/ Listening Influence Perceptions of Closeness Engage in behaviors that make the relationship feel closer and more established than it actually has been Engage in behaviors that make the relationship feel closer and more established than it actually has beenListening Engage in active listening Engage in active listening Focus attention solely on the other and what is said Focus attention solely on the other and what is said

8. Nonverbal Immediacy/ Openess Nonverbal Immediacy Signal your interest in liking for the other through nonverbal cues Signal your interest in liking for the other through nonverbal cuesOpenness Be open to the other Be open to the other

9. Optimism/ Personal Autonomy Optimism Present yourself as a postive individual so that you will appear to be a person who is pleasant to be around Present yourself as a postive individual so that you will appear to be a person who is pleasant to be around Personal Autonomy Present yourself as a independent, free-thinking person Present yourself as a independent, free-thinking person Be a person who stands on their own and speaks their mind Be a person who stands on their own and speaks their mind

10. Personal Attractiveness/ Present Interesting Self Personal Attractiveness Look as attractive as possible in appearance and attire Look as attractive as possible in appearance and attire Wear nice clothing, practice good grooming and hygiene, and use good posture Wear nice clothing, practice good grooming and hygiene, and use good posture Present Interesting Self Present yourself as an interesting person Present yourself as an interesting person Highlight your past accomplishments and positive qualities, demonstrate intelligence and knowledge Highlight your past accomplishments and positive qualities, demonstrate intelligence and knowledge

11. Reward Association/ Self- Concept Confirmation Reward Association Present yourself as an important figure who can reward others for associating with you Present yourself as an important figure who can reward others for associating with you Self-Concept Confirmation Demonstrate respect for the other Demonstrate respect for the other Help the other feel good about themselves and the job they do Help the other feel good about themselves and the job they do

12. Self-Inclusion/ Sensitivity Self-Inclusion Set up frequent encounters with the other Set up frequent encounters with the otherSensitivity Act in a warm, empathic manner to the other and communicate concern and caring about organizational matters Act in a warm, empathic manner to the other and communicate concern and caring about organizational matters Send a message that says, “I care about you as a person, and I understand that your job is not always an easy one” Send a message that says, “I care about you as a person, and I understand that your job is not always an easy one”

13. Similarity/Supportiveness Similarity Demonstrate similarity with the other in terms of attitudes, values, interests, preferences, personality, and so on Demonstrate similarity with the other in terms of attitudes, values, interests, preferences, personality, and so onSupportiveness Be encouraging and feinforcing Be encouraging and feinforcing Avoid critizing the other or saying things that might hurt the other’s feelings Avoid critizing the other or saying things that might hurt the other’s feelings

14. Trustworthiness Present yourself as trustworthy and reliable Present yourself as trustworthy and reliable