1. SHIFT HAPPENS: Three Powerful Ways to Create Change Bill O’Hanlon

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3. 3 Shift Happens Method 1: The Journey of 1,000 Miles: The Small Steps Method of Change Method 2: The Same Damn Thing: The Breaking Patterns Method of Change Method 3: 52-Card Pickup: The Crisis Method of Change

4. Motivation 101 4 Away fromToward Past Present Future

5. 5 Method 1 Small Steps

6. Identify the smallest step a person could make that would led in the direction of change One small step to stop or move away from something one doesn’t like One small step to begin or move toward something one would like to start Identify the smallest step a person could make that would led in the direction of change One small step to stop or move away from something one doesn’t like One small step to begin or move toward something one would like to start 6

7. 7 Method 2 Change Patterns

8. The Four Realms of Change Being Doing Viewing Context/Setting Being Doing Viewing Context/Setting

9. VALUING/VALIDATION BEING

10. Accept and acknowledge the person, not all their actions

11. CHANGE THE DOING

12. Change: Actions Interactions Speaking

13. CHANGE THE VIEWING

14. Maya Angelou Change the viewing

15. Change: Focus of attention Meanings

16. Change views Discover what the person is attending to typically in the problem situation Find out what meanings they attribute in the problem situation –What causes it? –What intentions others have? –What it means about them and their future –What will solve it? Suggest other possibilities for focusing attention and alternate meanings Tell stories to help shift views Discover what the person is attending to typically in the problem situation Find out what meanings they attribute in the problem situation –What causes it? –What intentions others have? –What it means about them and their future –What will solve it? Suggest other possibilities for focusing attention and alternate meanings Tell stories to help shift views

17. CHANGE THE CONTEXT

18. Change: Locations Timing/time Associations Biochemistry Neurology Physiology

19. Discovering the “doing” of the problem Investigate how the person “does” anything related to the problem (Action/interaction/speaking/location/timing aspects) How could the person make the problem better or worse? If they could teach you or someone else to experience or create this problem, how would they do that? Investigate how the person “does” anything related to the problem (Action/interaction/speaking/location/timing aspects) How could the person make the problem better or worse? If they could teach you or someone else to experience or create this problem, how would they do that?

20. Identify and change patterns Discover what recurs again and again in the problem situation Find out what parts of that the person or others around them can change Suggest small changes to disrupt or change the pattern Tell stories to seed the possibility of change and to enhance motivation and positive expectation Discover what recurs again and again in the problem situation Find out what parts of that the person or others around them can change Suggest small changes to disrupt or change the pattern Tell stories to seed the possibility of change and to enhance motivation and positive expectation

21. 21 Method 3 The Crisis/Breakdown Method

22. Crisis/Breakdown When you discover you are riding a dead horse, the best strategy is to dismount. -Dakota Tribal saying

23. Crisis/Breakdown Method Sometimes we climb the ladder all the way to the top, only to discover that we have placed it against the wrong wall. -Joseph Campbell

24. Resilience From Post-Traumatic Stress to Post-Traumatic Success

25. Trauma and our ideas about it “Resilience is often the most commonly observed outcome trajectory following exposure to a potentially traumatic event.” [G. A. Bonnano, C. Rennicke and S. Dekel, (2005) “Self- enhancement among high-exposure survivors of the September 11th Terrorist Attack: Resilience or Social Maladjustment?” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 88:984-988.]

26. Trauma and our ideas about it Gist and Devily report that estimates of PTSD after the 9-11 attacks dropped by nearly 2/3 within a few months of the tragedy. “...these findings underscore the counterproductive nature of offering a [treatment] with no demonstrable effect, but demonstrated potential to complicate natural resolution, in a population in which... strong natural supports exist, and spontaneous resolution is prevalent.” Gist, R., and Devilly, G., (2002) “Post-traumatic debriefing: The road too frequently traveled,” Lancet, 360(9335):741-743 Gist and Devily report that estimates of PTSD after the 9-11 attacks dropped by nearly 2/3 within a few months of the tragedy. “...these findings underscore the counterproductive nature of offering a [treatment] with no demonstrable effect, but demonstrated potential to complicate natural resolution, in a population in which... strong natural supports exist, and spontaneous resolution is prevalent.” Gist, R., and Devilly, G., (2002) “Post-traumatic debriefing: The road too frequently traveled,” Lancet, 360(9335):741-743

27. Positive Disintegration Psychiatrist Kazimierz Dabrowski first posited a theory of “Positive Disintegration” in 1964 (Dabrowski, K. Positive Disintegration. Boston: Little, Brown & Co.), suggesting that overwhelming crises are necessary and natural elements that help people move from one developmental stage to the next.

28. Post-traumatic Growth Inventory Posttraumatic Growth Inventory, an instrument for assessing positive outcomes reported by persons who have experienced traumatic events, is described. This 21-item scale includes factors of New Possibilities, Relating to Others, Personal Strength, Spiritual Change, and Appreciation of Life. Women tend to report more benefits than do men, and persons who have experienced traumatic events report more positive change than do persons who have not experienced extraordinary events. Ref: Richard G.Tedeschi and Lawrence G. Calhoun. “ The Posttraumatic Growth Inventory: Measuring the positive legacy of trauma,” Journal of Traumatic Stress, Volume 9, Number 3 / July, 1996, 455-471 Posttraumatic Growth Inventory, an instrument for assessing positive outcomes reported by persons who have experienced traumatic events, is described. This 21-item scale includes factors of New Possibilities, Relating to Others, Personal Strength, Spiritual Change, and Appreciation of Life. Women tend to report more benefits than do men, and persons who have experienced traumatic events report more positive change than do persons who have not experienced extraordinary events. Ref: Richard G.Tedeschi and Lawrence G. Calhoun. “ The Posttraumatic Growth Inventory: Measuring the positive legacy of trauma,” Journal of Traumatic Stress, Volume 9, Number 3 / July, 1996, 455-471

29. Post-traumatic Growth Inventory Categories are: New Possibilities Relating to Others Personal Strength Spiritual Change Appreciation of Life The American Psychological Association has this inventory on their website so people can take it: http://locator.apa.org/ptgi/ Categories are: New Possibilities Relating to Others Personal Strength Spiritual Change Appreciation of Life The American Psychological Association has this inventory on their website so people can take it: http://locator.apa.org/ptgi/

30. Post-traumatic Growth Inventory Sample statements; rate on a scale of 1-5 how much the trauma or crisis led to this: I established a new path for my life. I know better that I can handle difficulties. I changed my priorities about what is important in life. New opportunities are available which wouldn't have been otherwise. I have more compassion for others. I discovered that I'm stronger than I thought I was. I have a greater sense of closeness with others. Sample statements; rate on a scale of 1-5 how much the trauma or crisis led to this: I established a new path for my life. I know better that I can handle difficulties. I changed my priorities about what is important in life. New opportunities are available which wouldn't have been otherwise. I have more compassion for others. I discovered that I'm stronger than I thought I was. I have a greater sense of closeness with others.

31. Positive consequences of traumatic experiences New perceptions of oneself Feeling stronger and more self-assured Increased self-reliance Gains in recognizing and appreciating one’s own vulnerability Change in relationships with others Closer family ties Greater appreciation of significant others Greater self-disclosure and emotional expressiveness Changed philosophy of life Taking things easier Knowing what is truly important Greater spirituality New perceptions of oneself Feeling stronger and more self-assured Increased self-reliance Gains in recognizing and appreciating one’s own vulnerability Change in relationships with others Closer family ties Greater appreciation of significant others Greater self-disclosure and emotional expressiveness Changed philosophy of life Taking things easier Knowing what is truly important Greater spirituality

32. The 3 crucial elements of post- traumatic success Connection Compassion Contribution

33. Initial disconnection is normal But if it persists, then PTSD often ensues Discover natural places or ways of connection Help people reconnect or connect in places or ways they haven’t before But if it persists, then PTSD often ensues Discover natural places or ways of connection Help people reconnect or connect in places or ways they haven’t before

34. Maryann Burns, Cantor Fitzgerald Missed her train the morning of 9/11 The only place I felt like myself was work. I needed to be around other people who’d been where I’d been. I didn’t want to have to explain myself. In groups of other people I often felt detached, you know? Distracted. Work made me feel sane. I wanted to go to work every day.

35. Connecting with self and transforming trauma There is a way to turn tragedy, wounds, hurts and disrespect into life/career direction and good in the world 35

36. The Four Soul Signals Blissed/Blessed Or Dissed/Pissed Blissed/Blessed Or Dissed/Pissed

37. The Four Signals Wounded/Cursed/ Disrepected [Dissed] Wounded/Cursed/ Disrepected [Dissed]

38. Dissed Patsy Rodenberg Voice coach for actors and public speakers Patsy Rodenberg Voice coach for actors and public speakers

39. Dissed Ken Tucker Rock and Movie Critic Ken Tucker Rock and Movie Critic

40. Dissed and Pissed Sidney Poitier Actor Sidney Poitier Actor

41. Wounded Leonard Cohen: There’s a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in. Leonard Cohen: There’s a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.

42. Ann Rice Daughter who died of leukemia at 5. Rice wrote a novel that featured a 5-year-old who could never die. (Interview with a Vampire)

43. The Key Transforming the “negative” energy of anger and hurts into positive energy

44. Wounded/Disrespected We all leave childhood with wounds. In time we may transform our liabilities into gifts. The faults that pockmark the psyche may become the source of a man or a woman’s beauty. The injuries we have suffered invite us to assume the most human of all vocations—to heal ourselves and others. –Sam Keen

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46. Pissed Righteous indignation/dissatisfaction What would you talk about if given an hour of prime time television to influence the nation or the world? What pisses you off that you would like to correct in the world or other people? What can’t you sit still for? Righteous indignation/dissatisfaction What would you talk about if given an hour of prime time television to influence the nation or the world? What pisses you off that you would like to correct in the world or other people? What can’t you sit still for?

47. Wounded/Cursed/Indignation to Life/Career Direction Where were you (or someone else) pissed on that pissed you off? Where have you been wounded? Where or about what have you been cursed? How can you turn this wound or disrespect or curse into a blessing or contribution? Where were you (or someone else) pissed on that pissed you off? Where have you been wounded? Where or about what have you been cursed? How can you turn this wound or disrespect or curse into a blessing or contribution?

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