2. How to deal with the specific current within Islam that wants to see peace as temporary, and ‘never’ gives up How to deal with the question whether Israel needs and wants peace Peace will come …why not nów! Live, love, laugh and be happy abraham@mijneu.euabraham@mijneu.eu, Abraham de Kruijf

3. Make appeal on evenworthines s of every human being Availability of concrete and practical peace scenario’s Carrot and stick mechanisms for sustainable peace Adhering to (international) law and justice ECO (quality of relationship) diagram Abraham de Kruijf, abraham@mijneu.eu, January 2010

4. How to deal with the specific current within Islam that wants to see peace as temporary, and ‘never’ gives up. Answers: 1.There is a Sulha Middle East Reconciliation example (2009) which extends reconcili- ation and forgiveness in a very profound way to Sharia, so peace will be possible 2.Settle also the other issues in peace proposals and in Peace will come, why not now 3.“Back to the roots in Abraham/Ibrahim family” 4.The dependency of the world of oil is going to change, relationship with Arab countries will change to interdependence 5.The World has other problems / challenges that urge us to cooperate, climate change, / drought, … 6.UN Peace keeping force 7.More financial help when parties cooperate, loss of help when no eagerness for peace, as ‘carrot and stick’ mechanism 8.…

5. How to deal with the question whether Israel needs and wants peace Answers: 1.Peaceful coliving with partners is to be prefered, but Israel is not afraid to stand alone 2.Choose for positive way of living, also within the country 3.I met a father: “We do not want peace?! My son is in the army. I want him safe and home!” 4.Honor Bitahon Atzmi, the need for self-security 5.“Back to the roots in Abraham/Ibrahim family” 6.Not give in to prophecies about future war 7.The World has other challenges that urge us to cooperate, Climate Change, drought 8.More financial help when both cooperate, loss of help when no eagerness for peace, as ‘carrot and stick’ mechanism  This list is not very long. And Israel is used to being and feel totally abandoned (Dr Arad). Will object (any) sanctions. Therefor it seems justifiable that Palestinians make a first step, and explain this well, on which Israel acts positively, so that peoples feel beginning of hope  But now Israel works via (slow) extension of settlements, which may create Palestinians despair  Help/stimulate/reward Palestinians (Hamas, PA/Fatah), as well as Israel, to offer an open hand

6. HOW DOES THIS PROPOSAL RELATE TO OTHER MIDDLE EAST INITIATIVES: THE FOLLOWING HAVE BEEN EXPLORED Arab Initiative (2002, 2007) Road map, proposed by the “quartet” (2003) Combination of Security Council Resolutions 242 and 338, the Oslo Accords, the 2003 Road Map, and the 2007 Annapolis understandings (2009) Quartet (2009) US President Obama (2009) EU Initiative (2009) Israeli Prime Minister Netanyahu Initiative (2009) Geneva initiative (2009) Palestinian Prime Minister Fayyad Initiative (2009) IPCRI Initiative, Gerhon Baskin, 2009 New era, new approaches, Walid Salem (2009) IDA Initiative (2009) 5

7. This proposal presented (as NGO) to Palestininan Activists, Uzi Arad’s office (phone, fax and paper), People who work in Community Projects, Leaders at the Palestinian Legislative Council, Director and teachers Dar Al-Awad Primairy School in East-Jerusalem, Grand Mufti of Jerusalem and Palestine, Chairperson of Sulha and Sulhita, President Peres’ office (email, phonecalls and paper), Hamas leaders (visits, email and paper), to young Israeli and Palestinian delegations, Dr. Saeb Erekat personally, Community Projects “Volunteering for Peace” in Hebron, Jerusalem Peace Makers, Orthodox Jews in Jerusalem who also want Peace with the Palestinians, to UN SG-office (fax), Senator Mitchell’s Office (visit and email), UN Special Envoy in Jerusalem, Independent Palestinian Politicians in PLC, Al Quds / Jerusalem University, US Representative at UN and in Jerusalem, Embassy of Israel The Hague, Palestinian Delegation in The Hague, Prof. Mohammed Dajani at Al Quds-University, US Embassy in The Hague, to one of the Dutch Government coalition political parties (personally to a Director, this party has vice-prime-minister and minister of Defense), Ministry of Foreign Affairs Jerusalem, PASSIA director, Bishops in Jerusalem, World Council of Churches, Dutch Protestant Churches, and to high ranked EU-representatives. Sincerely: it is being welcomed by all to whom I present and they help improve the presentation. But there might be more faith and sense of urgence in all the people I meet … Abraham de Kruijf, abraham@mijneu.euabraham@mijneu.eu

8. Recursive reciprocity, central value: evenworthiness controverse solution, with a choice for quality of cooperation “To come up for your own interests” To extend negotiating with recursive reciprocity, including a search to deeper motives of “the other” With for sustained peace: “Obliged forgiveness and reconciliation” “carrot & stick conditionality…”: SANCTIONS: more money if all cooperate, loss of money if only one does not cooperate Abraham de Kruijf’s proposal / system for negotiating

9. Section for politicians and others: how Jews see Arabs, and Arabs see Jews, where they (may) agree on “it is important to be able to stand in each other’s shoes, even when it is only for a while” 8

10. (Dis-)Appointments History ….  UN  Israël  Palestinians  Israël  Palestinians  Israël  Rabin/Arafat  Fatah  Hamas  Gaza   ACKNOWLEDGEMENT DAY

11. Arabs, as seen by Jews  Arabs always attacking Israel  Arabs always want more (we gave them chances, they want liberation of more people)  Arabs are promoting terrorism  Arabs are promoting hatred  They do not respect us, “they stand on our toes”  They want to destroy Israel and our people  Suicide attacks  Less rational, therefore less predictable  Wanting to drive the Jews into the sea  Collaborating with other Muslims against us ……

12. Jews, as seen by Arabs  Occupying Arab land  Colonizing Arab land  Always suppressing us  They never execute UN-resolutions  They are always being helped by US  Make our life impossible, keep us in poverty  Prohibit us to travel to dear places, family, friends, spritual  They seem to need someone to react their grief on  They are projecting Holocaust pain on us  Jews are always “crying that Arabs are so bad to them”  They seem so convinced of themselves  …

13. What does acknowledgement mean to Israel - “We are always alone. …. No one is in our shoes”. Uzi Arad, National Security Adviser. - Recognition of Bitahon Atzmi = the most important NEED for Self-Security for our people - UN-resolutions threaten our self-security - We have a history of thousands of years, generations after generations, of being suppressed, suffering insecurity, expelled, and worse … - To not longer be victim, to be able to move from that. We have been chased by so many nations. - This was our land for so many years, and we have been exiled and suffered. Being killed, chased, de- pressed. Our religion was not accepted, they tried to erase this religion, we were not allowed to be. - People are always jealous on who we are, and accuse us for their problems. - During World War II the nazi’s tried to finish all the Jews in the world, many European countries let it happen. Our feeling is that only England and the United States helped us. - All we wanted is a safe place to live and we feel that wé are the only one that can protect us. - All our neighbors still want to kill us. Our existence feels always to be in risk. - We believe In trying to be morally, that is who we are. We have a moral culture. (That calls on critism from others, they project) But we came to a place where all the world sees us as the bad one, and they don’t see that we have no choice and are desperate of trying, nobody understands us. - “What did I do that you do this to me?” - All these experiences made us vulnerable, have hardened us: self-esteem, self-protection, self-righteousness? - “Also thou shalt not oppress a stranger: for ye know the heart of a stranger, seeing ye were strangers in the land of Egypt.” (Exodus 23:9) - We have fear from the past (when much fear and pain you defend yourself proactively) - Israel wants continued attention from the world. After Peace, maybe attacks restart?

14. What does acknowledgement mean to Palestinians - Recognition of NAKBA, the process of Palestinian Disposession since 1948 - They control every aspect of our daily life!! In supermarkets even, by The Wall, … - Gaza closure, Gaza war - (we have a historical / religious past with Israel as Palestinians/Filistinians) - Admittance that Israel never listens to us - Israel put more than 11.000 Palestinians in jail - To admit that Israel occupies our land and always invents something new - Israel denies room to live for our children, women and men - Through so much, and so many years of suppression and sometimes being desperate  we sometimes made an over reaction (which is/was not right of us) - The Sabra and Shatila massacre (1982), The Goldstein massacre in Hebron Mosque (1994), and many more massacres - Occupation / limitation of our Holy places - Prohibit us to travel to our dear places, family, friends (check points, Wall) - Over reaction / attack by Israel in Gaza war - Israel projects Holocaust and other pain on us, where we have nothing to do with their past - Israel never executes UN-resolutions -This is our country, even it is not formally our state, we do live here... ! - “What did I do that you do this to me?”

15. Where Arabs and Jews (may) agree on:  To begin with a suggestion for the former sheets and to add on the phrase: Arabs: Wanting to drive Jews into the sea … … to swim together on a nice day….  Having a great desire for peace  Desire for balance of power, without “love and peace”  Happy children, safe country, no attacks, possibility to freely travel  Liberation of prisoners if security is guaranteed  No more challenges that make us both react with more or less violence  As 18-year-old participant Jafar Qutob of Nablus explains, “I want to represent my people as they are: humans who are eager to have a better life than the one they are living today, a peaceful life without war, killing or any kind of violence. I will try to communicate and socialise with all different people regardless of their religion or nationality, and especially with Israelis, who I believe are humans like me". (Naazish YarKhan in Common Ground News Service 7sep09)  Balancing our mutual criticism: no Holocaust in Palestinian schoolbooks, no Nakba in Israeli schoolbooks …, or openness …  Oneness, but also room for differences  Financial means and work  That what is called “Religious trust”  That what we would need from “the other”:  ……………….

16. Section on (a different kind of) negotiation, cooperation and forgiveness, through reconciliation and forgiveness in also the Middle East way: for and by ALL 15

17. What does forgiveness mean to you? Justice: even in our families and with our friends and collegues we sometimes do / meet injustice. What then when we expect Justice from “the enemy” / international community?

18. Sulha is the Arabic custom to stop a cycle of violence and bloodshed, the Arabic way of reconciliation. This means returning the rights of the injured, and the dignity of all. Now being offered for the first time for such a large conflict. (Think of the African Ubuntu). Slicha means: ‘Forgive me’, and is said by the offender. The offender is the one who takes the initiative. The Jaha is the necessary, neutral, mediating party. The Jaha intervenes and arranges the Sulha. The offender is willing to confess guilt, the process has to be prepared carefully. The maker of this Peace proposal offers himself to play a role in the Jaha. Note: there are also scenario’s where the offender does not say Slicha explicitely, but: a wooden pole, and a large white linen sheet are presented by the Jaha. In which the offended as well as the offender make knots. The white flag as symbol of forgiveness and protection of the injured parties. Israel and Palestinians, as well as Palestinians together, may forgive and reconcile. The five main Sulha-Slicha steps (summarized very shortly): Recognition of injures. Compensating damage After the offender says Slicha the offended party must forgive the ex-offender. The parties must publicly shake hands in order to declare that the violence is over. Sharing a meal: to show that the parties are welcome in each other’s homes and as a sign of peace.

19. Appreciate each other leaders as well as people(s) Against Jewish State? This means that it appeals to permanence of suppression and 2nd-class citizenship and less than evenworthiness; there is a risk for ‘ethnocracy’. See page with overview of ‘-cracies’. Fór: evenworthiness (refer to interview) of all citizens: ecodemo-cracy Evenworthiness: in Northern Ireland called Parity Of Esteem

20. Day 1 12:00 PA, Hamas Israel Emphasize the sorrow of many of Hamas’ grass-roots: groups, small groups, individuals. Announces thinking of making peace with the former enemy. Liberates soldier Shalit. Because of evenworthiness of all humans wants liberation of 1 prisoner. As investment in the future. Invite Israel to liberate out of free will 450 prisoners more. “And Hamas announces to be considering recognition of Israel....” And Fatah too, where still necessary. Hamas offers trust to Israel. (Starts to) opens Gaza borders, liberates out of free will many more prisoner(s)…. WHEN DOING THIS: PA, HAMAS AND ISRAEL COMPLY WITH HUMANE NEEDS AND WITH THE CALL OF THE G8, I GUARANTEE MUCH MORE (FINANCIAL) HELP FROM THE WORLD. Here concentration on the CORE of the Day of Acknowledgement and Possibilities now (THE NEXT SHEET CONTAINS ALL THE ACTIVITIES, ON EVERY HOUR OF THAT ACKNOWLEDGEMENT DAY) To be followed by courageous continuation of peace proces and liberation of all This is a short impression. Of course the wordings may be changed. The core of this proposal is at this moment to show a route to bring parties on equal level, where one is not a 'victim' of the other. I would suggest Palestinians to take initiative and strength and 'not to wait for nobody'. 19

21. Scenario Jaha: ‘Sul ha’ mediator Israël Pales- tinians Room, respect, for Acknowledgement of All AcknowledgementDayAcknowledgementDay © abraham@mijneu.eu 1947 Partit- ion Plan UN a. Day 1 09:00 hrs United Nations (sup- port of US, EU, World, NL) Opening by Jaha (Mediator) and United Nations. One has to be the First. United Nations? To use Sulha flag and/or to say: ‘Slicha’, ‘Forgive me’ to the Palestinians for “offending and injuring”. And/or to start with the white linen flag (page 9). Knowing that the 1947 decision was not meant as an offense. Confrontations Palestinians – Israel are partially caused by UN’s lack in 1947-1948 in offering workable structures nor compensation, followed by mutual revenges of and disasters for the peoples. Now UN restores dignity, offers compensation. UN decided in 1947, though we choose not to look back to the detailed status of that decision, in the interest of the total solution now. The compensation by UN today can be combined with help that UN and countries give to the Palestinians. Day 1 12:00 Hamas Israel Emphasizes the sorrow of many of Hamas’ grass-roots: groups, small groups, individuals. Announces thinking of making peace with the former enemy. Libe- rates soldier Shalit. Because of evenworthiness of all humans wants liberation of 1 prisoner. As investment in the future. Invites Israel to liberate out of free will 450 prisoners more. “And we announce to be considering recognition of Israel....” And Fatah too, where necessary. Hamas offers trust to Israel. Opens Gaza borders, liberates out of free will many more prisoner(s)…. Hamas -Gaza- But now peace and prosperity with all parties! PLO -> Palestinian Authority

23. On Water for all On Israeli Settlements On Jerusalem On Settlements and Refugees, in connection On Palestinian Refugees On the States 22

24. God Abraham Ishmael  Islam: Allah  Mohammed, Allah’s Prophet: Qur’an (~610-632) Sjia Sunna, Later also Sufi, And other directions  Jitchak  Judaism: YHWH, Tenach (~450-~200 bCE)  (interpretation of) the Law, different directions  Jesus, the Messiah, Son of God, God as Father, Trinity the Apostles, 1 e congregations, Holy Spirit, 1 st and/or 2 nd century AD, the Bible (Torah + New Testament) Roman-Catholic church, Pope, incumbent of Christ, successor of Peter, Mary, statues, world hierarchy Eastern-Orthodox (1054), Greek-orthodox (~1833) Anglican Church (1534), Old Catholic Church (~1870) Reformation, Luther (1517),Calvin: Jesus Protestant churches Methodists, Mormons, Quakers, Baptists, Jehovas Witnesses Pentecostal churches  “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your mind, and your neigh- bour as you love your- self” Haghar Sara Mary, from the line of Abraham animation by abraham de kruijf, /Ibrahim  abraham@mijneu.eu That we may meet each other in Love and cooperation, wellbeing for all people. Love and cooperation demand unity, but / and also room for differences. And an extra and welcome / necessary dimension is: “Love your enemy too”. Result of studies: Development of the ‘Abrahamitic’ / Monotheistic Religions And this is not especially for believers but for everyone…  One orthodox church (-1054) Central value: evenworthiness, everyone is evenworthy. We “should” act toward another as we would want them to act toward us. Ref. the questionaire “Hagar said: The Living (one) who sees me” And: Ezechiel 47:22,23 for one state solution? 23

25. © abraham@mijneu.eu The Beginning Trust building needs guidance and leadership. And connecting generations. A Dutch saying: trust comes by foot and leaves by horse … One economical statement on the future: let economic results after peace go to the people and not to merely to project developers. 24