1. April 15 th : Crazy Love April 22 nd : Broken Vessels April 29 th : The Little Things We Do May 6 th : The Devil Made Me Do It May 13 th : Prayer May 20 th : Thunder & Lightning May 27 th : The Little Things June 3 rd : Journey With Purpose June 10 th : Learning to Love

2. I. IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS

6. A.Quirks (“an individual peculiarity of character; mannerism or foible”) What are yours? Your Spouses? How much does it bother you? What distorted conclusions do up come to? WHY?

7. I. IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS B. Taboo Topics What happens when they are not discussed? What are yours? Your Spouses? Why are they taboo? How do you discuss them?

10. I. IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS C. The Pace of Life Are you a reactor or actor? Are you intentional? How well to you find balance in your life?

11. I. IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS D.Speculation… Destroys Thoughts flow downhill like water What are the stories you make up in your head about your spouses Behaviors? Intentions? Feelings? How much do you expect your spouse to “read your mind”?

12. I. IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS E.Family Viruses What are your viruses? Your Spouses? What have you not dealt with in yourself that you learned from parents? WHY?

13. I. IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS F.Boundaries Genesis 2:21 - Family Luke 10 – Good Samaritan Galatians 6:22; 6:5 – Boulders vs. Knapsacks How clear are your family boundaries? Work boundaries? Ministry boundaries? Does your spouse feel respected? Honored? Cherished – by how you protect your time intimacy?

14. POINT 1: Tend to the little things… they kill a marriage What are the “little things” for you? Quirks that Bother You Poor Boundaries? Pace of Life? Taboo Topics that Fester? Stories You Make Up In Your Head About Your Spouse? I. IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS

15. II. TIMING IS EVERYTHING A. My Timing… How patient are you with your spouse’s growth? B. Without God’s Timing… 2 Peter 3:8(NIV) 8 But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day. C. = Bad timing!

16. POINT 2: It’s God’s job to work in your spouse’s heart… sometimes our mouths just get in the way II. TIMING IS EVERYTHING

17. III. THE ANSWER A. EXTRA GRACE NEEDED Grace… generosity of spirit… The single most disarming quality a marriage could have How graceful are you in your marriage? How can you grow in grace? What can you do to remind yourself of the need for more grace towards your spouse?

18. POINT 3: We can't process every little thing every time... Our marriages need more Grace III. THE ANSWER

19. PERSONAL QUESTIONS God is after my transformation... Why does my spouse’s behavior bug me so? What log is in your eye you need to deal with?... Cause there is one... What family “viruses” have you inherited? How have they interfered with your marriage? What are your taboo topics? Why? When you do talk... When is the best time? When is the worst time? How graceful are you towards your spouse?

20. DO SOMETHING Find a way to approach a “taboo topic” together this week- pray for openness and vulnerability to do so