1. WCADV Core Advocacy Training Laurie Jorgensen April 19, 2011

2. What are examples of abuse we see or hear about as we provide services?

3. Domestic Violence   New field of study and services (30 yrs old)   Still primarily female victims of all ages   Also women, men and transgender   Opposite and same sex relationships   People with disabilities and none

4. What do we know?   All income, education, resources   Varied levels of trauma and injury   Individualized circumstances and needs   Victims seldom self-identify that what they are experiencing is domestic abuse or violence

5. What does it look like? Source: Domestic Abuse Intervention Project Duluth, MN

6. Who?  Young and old…all ages  Opposite and same sex  Women, men and transgender  People with disabilities and with none  All levels of income, jobs and resources

7. Domestic Abuse is NOT…  Acts that come out of brain injuries or dementia  Situational violence without a pattern or dynamic of power and control  Someone “losing control” (common excuse)

8. Trauma-Informed   One-time vs. culmulative trauma   Seeking outside help is not first resort   Victims are wary, distrustful   Victims are vigilant and resourceful   Victims prioritize survival

9. How does violence differ by gender?  Vast majority of general violence happens to men by men 70% of violence crime against strangers = crimes against males 70% of violence crime against strangers = crimes against males 76% of victims of male homicide are men 76% of victims of male homicide are men Men commit between 85 – 99% of reported rape, murder, assault, domestic and sexual violence Jhally, 2000 & Bonderman, 1995 Men commit between 85 – 99% of reported rape, murder, assault, domestic and sexual violence Jhally, 2000 & Bonderman, 1995  Women’s use of violence against men is most often retaliatory or defensive.

10. How does violence differ by gender?  Violence against Women is mostly perpetrated by someone they know 77% of crimes against relatives/partners = crimes against females 77% of crimes against relatives/partners = crimes against females  Men’s violence against women is systematic and supported by social norms Women as objects Women as objects Male roles - Boys will be boys; don’t be a sissy Male roles - Boys will be boys; don’t be a sissy Power over others is desired Power over others is desired

11. How does domestic abuse differ by gender?   Women are injured more frequently and far more severely   When the relationship ends, Men-abuse ends Women-abuse escalates, stalking   FEAR-emergency room research found that men are not afraid of partner; women are terrified

12. The Abusive Mentality  Manipulative  Strives to have a good public image  Feels justified, entitled, superior  Denies and minimizes behavior  Is possessive  Disrespects victim Adapted from Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That?

13. Domestic Abuse is NOT…  Mutual abuse  Violence without the power and control dynamic or pattern  A loss of control  Committed by individuals with brain injuries or dementia

14. We need to ask ourselves… Is this woman coming through the door my “client” or my sister? How will that change how I see and work to help her?