1. Good Grief Exploring death, loss and grief Revd Simon Betteridge Chaplain Team Leader & Head of Bereavement Services UHCW NHS Trust

2. Introductions Intros Content Confidentiality Care of self

3. Setting Loss in Context

4. Context & History of death and dying in England Affect of WWI Post-WWII reforms Shift in where people die Dispersal of communities

5. Attitudes & Cultural Perceptions Post-modernism and consumerism Loss of familiarity with death

6. Personal experience What is your experience? Reflect on a particular experience How did you feel physically and emotionally? How were those close to you affected? What was the most helpful/unhelpful thing that was said or done?

7. Experience of Grief Process of experiencing psychological, social and physical reactions to the perception of loss

8. The Grieving Process K Ü bler-Ross’ stages Denial – ‘No, it can’t be’ Feelings (anger) – ‘Why me?’ Bargaining – ‘If I just…’ Depression – ‘It hurts so’ Acceptance – ‘That’s ok’

9. The Grieving Process William Worden’s tasks of mourning Accept the reality of loss Work through the pain of grief Adjust to a new environment Emotional relocation

10. The Grieving Process Continuing bonds Challenging existing models Recognition of complexity Constructing a bond

11. Meeting Needs Be welcoming Be firm ground under their feet Give permission to show emotions Give time and space Place of ritual

12. Religious Input Recognition of value Familiar words Sense of peace Reconciliation Outward signs Offering to and being received by God