2Understanding Guidance Punishment is only a small part of guiding childrenGuidance: using firmness and understanding to help children learn to control their own behavior
3Understanding Guidance As a result of effective guidance, children achieve self-discipline ability to control their own behavior
4Understanding Guidance Why is effective guidance important?Helps children learn to get along with othersHandle feelings in an acceptable wayPromotes security and a positive feeling about selfMoral developmentDeveloping a conscience - - inner sense of what is right
5ConsistencyClearly making rules an applying them in the same way in all situationsChildren lose trust in a caregiver who constantly changes rules or fails to enforce themWhat should a parent do if more than one person cares for the child?
6Guiding Behavior 3 ways to guide children to behave: Encouraging appropriate behaviorSetting and enforcing limitsDealing with inappropriate behavior in effective ways
7Encouraging Appropriate Behavior 3 ways:Setting a good exampleTelling what is expectedPraising appropriate behavior positive reinforcement
8Encouraging Appropriate Behavior Be specificNotice the behavior as soon as possibleRecognize small stepsHelp the child take pride in his or her actionsTailor the encouragement to the needs of the child
9Setting LimitsLimits include physical restrictions or rules of behaviorLimits should keep children from hurting themselves, other people or propertyShould be few and reasonable!
10What Should Limits Be?Does the limit allow the child to learn, explore and grow?Is the limit fair and appropriate for the child’s age?Does the limit benefit the child, or is it merely for the adult’s convenience?
11Making Limits ClearClearly state limits and restate everytime the situation arisesLimits must be clear have a “small snack” is unclear for a 3-year oldCalm, direct tone
12Making Limits Clear Setting limits includes four steps: Show understanding of the child’s desiresSet the limit and explain itAcknowledge the child’s feelingsGive alternatives
13Dealing with Inappropriate Behavior A caregiver should ask these questions when responding to a child’s misbehavior:Is the expected behavior appropriate given the child’s development?Does the child understand the behavior is wrong?Was the behavior knowingly and deliberately?
14Dealing with Inappropriate Behavior Unintentional Misbehavior:Spilling milk or juice for example shouldn’t be punished!If the child had no way of knowing it was wrong Brittany picking flowers from the park
15Dealing with Inappropriate Behavior Using Punishment Effectively:Deliberate attemptsPunishment is negative reinforcement response aimed at discouraging a child from repeating a behavior
16Dealing with Inappropriate Behavior Using Punishment Effectively:1st time child breaks rule a warning is fineRule broken another time punishment given according to severity of misbehavior
17Dealing with Inappropriate Behavior Techniques for dealing with inappropriate behavior:Natural consequencesLoss of privileges: Take away a privilege. Most effective for ages 5 and olderGiving time-out: Short period of time in which a child sits away from other people and the center of activity
18Dealing with Inappropriate Behavior Poor Disciplinary Measures:BribingMaking children promise to behave: forced to lie about misbehavior rather than disappointShouting or yellingShaming or belittlingThreatening to withhold love
19Handling ConflictAnger – a natural emotion. Do not make the child feel guilty about itCaregivers can help the child learn that there are acceptable ways of handling that anger
20Handling Conflict Ways of handling anger: Using words Speaking calmly Counting to tenDiscuss the misbehavior and punishment after the child has calmed down. Explain how they misbehaved and what they should have done instead*