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1 GUIDING CHILDREN’S BEHAVIOR HPC 3O May 2 nd, 2013

2 Understanding Guidance  Punishment is only a small part of guiding children  Guidance: using firmness and understanding to help children learn to control their own behavior

3 Understanding Guidance  As a result of effective guidance, children achieve self-discipline  ability to control their own behavior

4 Understanding Guidance Why is effective guidance important?  Helps children learn to get along with others  Handle feelings in an acceptable way  Promotes security and a positive feeling about self  Moral development  Developing a conscience - - inner sense of what is right

5 Consistency  Clearly making rules an applying them in the same way in all situations  Children lose trust in a caregiver who constantly changes rules or fails to enforce them  What should a parent do if more than one person cares for the child?

6 Guiding Behavior 3 ways to guide children to behave: 1. Encouraging appropriate behavior 2. Setting and enforcing limits 3. Dealing with inappropriate behavior in effective ways

7 Encouraging Appropriate Behavior 3 ways: 1. Setting a good example 2. Telling what is expected 3. Praising appropriate behavior  positive reinforcement

8 Encouraging Appropriate Behavior  Be specific  Notice the behavior as soon as possible  Recognize small steps  Help the child take pride in his or her actions  Tailor the encouragement to the needs of the child

9 Setting Limits  Limits include physical restrictions or rules of behavior  Limits should keep children from hurting themselves, other people or property  Should be few and reasonable!

10 What Should Limits Be?  Does the limit allow the child to learn, explore and grow?  Is the limit fair and appropriate for the child’s age?  Does the limit benefit the child, or is it merely for the adult’s convenience?

11 Making Limits Clear  Clearly state limits and restate everytime the situation arises  Limits must be clear  have a “small snack” is unclear for a 3-year old  Calm, direct tone

12 Making Limits Clear Setting limits includes four steps: 1. Show understanding of the child’s desires 2. Set the limit and explain it 3. Acknowledge the child’s feelings 4. Give alternatives

13 Dealing with Inappropriate Behavior A caregiver should ask these questions when responding to a child’s misbehavior:  Is the expected behavior appropriate given the child’s development?  Does the child understand the behavior is wrong?  Was the behavior knowingly and deliberately?

14 Dealing with Inappropriate Behavior Unintentional Misbehavior:  Spilling milk or juice for example  shouldn’t be punished!  If the child had no way of knowing it was wrong  Brittany picking flowers from the park

15 Dealing with Inappropriate Behavior Using Punishment Effectively:  Deliberate attempts  Punishment is negative reinforcement  response aimed at discouraging a child from repeating a behavior

16 Dealing with Inappropriate Behavior Using Punishment Effectively:  1 st time child breaks rule  a warning is fine  Rule broken another time  punishment given according to severity of misbehavior

17 Dealing with Inappropriate Behavior Techniques for dealing with inappropriate behavior:  Natural consequences  Loss of privileges: Take away a privilege. Most effective for ages 5 and older  Giving time-out: Short period of time in which a child sits away from other people and the center of activity

18 Dealing with Inappropriate Behavior Poor Disciplinary Measures:  Bribing  Making children promise to behave: forced to lie about misbehavior rather than disappoint  Shouting or yelling  Shaming or belittling  Threatening to withhold love

19 Handling Conflict  Anger – a natural emotion. Do not make the child feel guilty about it  Caregivers can help the child learn that there are acceptable ways of handling that anger

20 Handling Conflict Ways of handling anger:  Using words  Speaking calmly  Counting to ten Discuss the misbehavior and punishment after the child has calmed down. Explain how they misbehaved and what they should have done instead*


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