1. Body Language Blunders

2. Body Language is 55% of communication (38% is tonality, 7% is words): Our brain relies on snap judgements to categorize another person and predict whether they are trustworthy, threatening, competent, likeable…………. Here are 15 body language blunders to avoid:

3. Leaning Back too much — you will appear lazy or arrogant No: 1

4. Leaning forward — can seem aggressive. Aim for a neutral posture No: 2

5. Breaking eye contact too soon — can make you seem untrustworthy or overly nervous. Hold eye contact a tad longer, especially during a handshake No: 3

6. Nodding too much — can make you look like a noddy head doll! Even if you agree with what’s being said, nod once and then try to remain still No: 4

7. Chopping or pointing with your hands — feels aggressive No: 5

8. Crossing your arms — makes you look defensive, especially when you’re answering questions. Try to keep your arms at your sides No: 6

9. Fidgeting — instantly transmits how nervous you are. Avoid it at all costs No: 7

10. Holding your hands behind your back (or firmly in your pockets) — can look rigid and stiff. Aim for a natural, hands at your sides posture No: 8

11. Looking up or looking around — is a perceived cue that someone is lying or not being themselves – even if it is only nerves. Try to hold steady eye contact No: 9

12. Staring — can be interpreted as aggressive. There’s a fine line between holding someone’s gaze and staring them down No: 10

13. Failing to smile — can make people uncomfortable, and wonder if you really want to be there. Go for a genuine smile especially when meeting someone for the first time No: 11

14. Stepping back when you’re asking for a decision — conveys fear or uncertainty. Stand your ground, or even take a slight step forward with conviction No: 12

15. Steepling your fingers or holding palms up — looks like a begging position and conveys weakness No: 13

16. Standing with hands on hips — is an aggressive posture (like in the animal world when a bird or a dog puffs themselves up to look bigger) No: 14

17. Checking your phone or watch — says you want to be somewhere else. What’s more, it’s just plain bad manners No: 15

18. So, what should you do? Aim for good posture in a neutral position, whether sitting or standing.

19. Stand with your arms at your sides, and sit with them at your sides or with your hands in your lap. Pay attention so that you naturally hold eye contact, smile, and be yourself.

20. If you discover you have a particular problem with one or two of the gestures on the list, practice by yourself with a mirror or with a friend who can remind you every time you do it, until you become aware of the bad habit yourself.

21. Facilitator: Su Pilkington 03 9005 7079 0419 283363 smp@somuchpotential.com.au www.somuchpotential.com.au