1. Conflict Resolution & Violence Prevention Bullying Freshman Health

2. What is Bullying? Intimidating, scaring or controlling another person repeatedly Intimidating, scaring or controlling another person repeatedly Using Physical Force: hitting, kicking choking etc. or damaging ones property Using Physical Force: hitting, kicking choking etc. or damaging ones property Using Verbal Threats: humiliating, hurtful or racist comments, name-calling, insults, taunting, teasing or spreading rumors Using Verbal Threats: humiliating, hurtful or racist comments, name-calling, insults, taunting, teasing or spreading rumors

3. Examples of Bullying Name calling Name calling Threatening Threatening Scaring Scaring Silent treatment Silent treatment Leaving victim out of activities Leaving victim out of activities Hitting Hitting Kicking Kicking Writing nasty notes Writing nasty notes Forcing victim to do things against their will Forcing victim to do things against their will

4. BULLYING VIDEO http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QLJcKlMVhzE&feature=related

5. Why do people bully others? See it as a way of becoming popular See it as a way of becoming popular Makes them look tough Makes them look tough To attract attention To attract attention Bully is jealous of victim Bully is jealous of victim Being bullied themselves Being bullied themselves Many do not understand the severity of their actions Many do not understand the severity of their actions

6. Why are people bullied? No particular reason No particular reason They are different They are different Look weak or shy Look weak or shy Previously unresolved conflict Previously unresolved conflict

7. Health effects Physical effects: permanent, temporary or debilitating Physical effects: permanent, temporary or debilitating Psychological effects: feeling lonely, sad, frustrated, intimidated, insecure or unsafe Psychological effects: feeling lonely, sad, frustrated, intimidated, insecure or unsafe

8. Are you a bully? A Show of Hands\ How many of you have bullied someone? How many of you have witnessed a bullying situation? How many of you took action to resolve the bullying situation?

9. BULLYING VIDEO http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E1LG9NymhTE&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E1LG9NymhTE&feature=related

10. What can you do if you are being bullied? Speak to a trusted adult Speak to a trusted adult Ask for help from friends Ask for help from friends Be assertive, not aggressive Be assertive, not aggressive Avoidance Avoidance

11. What can you do if you see someone else being bullied? Always try to stop it Always try to stop it If you do nothing, you are saying “it is okay with me.” If you do nothing, you are saying “it is okay with me.” Enabling Enabling Show the bully you think what he is doing is stupid and mean Show the bully you think what he is doing is stupid and mean Help the victim speak to a trusted adult Help the victim speak to a trusted adult

12. Exclusion from activities Children can not be allowed to systematically exclude others Children can not be allowed to systematically exclude others “No one wants to play with him!” “No one wants to play with him!” “Don’t be her friend!” “Don’t be her friend!” “No one play with Noah!” “No one play with Noah!” A child has the right to play with or not to play with another child or group A child has the right to play with or not to play with another child or group

13. Bullying can be like sexual harassment It is done by someone with more power or social support to someone with less It is done by someone with more power or social support to someone with less Often includes the abuser blaming the target for the abuse Often includes the abuser blaming the target for the abuse Often it leads to the target blaming him/herself for the abuse Often it leads to the target blaming him/herself for the abuse

14. Bullies need to learn Acknowledge their own actions Acknowledge their own actions Acknowledge the results of their actions on themselves and others Acknowledge the results of their actions on themselves and others Change their actions Change their actions Find alternatives to satisfying needs Find alternatives to satisfying needs Develop guilt – “ I hurt someone.” Develop guilt – “ I hurt someone.” Develop trust Develop trust

15. Cyber Bullying Sending harassing or threatening emails, instant messages, posting information on social networks, using bulletin boards, blogs etc. Sending harassing or threatening emails, instant messages, posting information on social networks, using bulletin boards, blogs etc.

16. BULLYING VIDEO http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W1g9RV9OKhg

17. Are you a bully? Recall a incident where you bullied someone else Why did you do it? How were you feeling during the situation? Right after?