Presentation on theme: "Family Backgrounds and How They Influence Us"— Presentation transcript:
1 Family Backgrounds and How They Influence Us Chapter 2Family Backgrounds and How They Influence UsNow we move on to the chapter that explains much of what can go wrong in relationships and what we can do about it.Preview
2 Chapter Preview Preview STEP 2 Let’s look at the major questions that will be answered in this chapter.Preview
3 Chapter QuestionsDoes the family we grew up in affect the new family we make with a partner?How does how my parents treated me affect who I am now?What does my family of origin have to do with how I feel about my partner?Preview STEP 21 of 3(Going slowly, one at a time, and pausing gives students a chance to write them down – which helps them remember what will direct their chapter study.)Preview
4 Chapter QuestionsWhat does how I was raised have to do with the closeness I have in my new family?How did I learn about sex from my family?What did I learn growing up about marriage and divorce?Preview STEP 22 of 3Preview
5 Chapter QuestionsWhat did I learn in my family about proper behavior for men and women?What do different families think is important in life?What are some ways different families communicate about problems?Preview STEP 23 of 3Preview
6 Guided Learning Process 1st: Question2nd: Study3rd: Mark4th: Question again5th: Recite6th: Check7th: Restudy if necessaryPreview STEP 3Just a quick review of the steps you can use to speed up your study time.Preview
7 Text Assignment (Give assignment for the next class meeting.) (Choose the guiding questions for the sections you have assigned. The following slides present these guiding questions, 2 or 3 per slide, for students to write down.)(Reference numbers from Chapter Outline are noted at the bottom of each slide for instructor reference)(Good time to do the previewing exercise presented in the instructor notes – “Chapter Preview.”)Preview
8 Does the family we grew up in affect the new family we make with a partner? How does the family influence who we become as adults?How much does our family influence us?How can looking at our family background help us understand ourselves?The first section of the chapter addresses in general terms how our old family affects our new family.This section is broken into 5 subsections that basically answer the questions on this slide and the next one.1 of 2Preview A 1-2-3
9 Does the family we grew up in affect the new family we make with a partner? What can I do now about how I was raised?How can I change the way I feel because of negative experiences in my childhood?These are probably the most important questions of the chapter since they address the deepest issues that many of us ever have to deal with.2 of 2Preview A 4-5
10 How does how my parents treated me affect who I am now? How important is approval to children?How does criticism and rejection affect children?Another section that is critical to our functioning in our current relationships AND to how we treat our own children.Preview B 1-2
11 What does my family of origin have to do with how I feel about my partner? Preview C
12 What does how I was raised have to do with the closeness I have in my new family? Preview D
13 How did I learn about sex from my family? What are some good things I might have learned about sex from my parents?What are some negative things I might have learned about sex from my parents?How does what I experienced growing up affect my sexual behavior now?Everyone learned about sex from their own families even if it was never talked about.Preview E 1-2-3
14 What did I learn growing up about marriage and divorce? Preview F
15 What did I learn in my family about proper behavior for men and women? Preview G
16 What do different families think is important in life? How did the culture I grew up in affect what I think is important in life?How did my family of origin affect what I think is important in life?What did I learn in my family about how to work?Preview H 1-2-3
17 What are some ways different families communicate about problems? 7 different types of communicationWhat does each of these communication patterns look and sound like?How well does each of these communication patterns work to resolve problems?These are important because they tell us what kinds of communication were modeled for us as children so we can decide which we want to use in our own relationships.Preview I
19 Personal Perspective: Patterns of Communication Why does Alex have such a hard time communicating with his wife?Preview PP
20 What is unique about African American families? Cultural Perspectives: African American Family Strengths and InfluencesWhat is unique about African American families?Preview CP
21 At Issue Today: Values and Marital Satisfaction How does what we think is important in life affect how happy we are in our marriage?Preview AI
22 A Question of Policy: Family Environment How can government policies help parents be better parents?Preview QP
23 Why Examine Family Background? Our family growing up had great impact on our present lives and relationships in two ways:
24 Why Examine Family Background? Family is where we learned how to be a member of society.Our lessons were learned through generational transmission.We learned these lessons in four ways.How do you think we learned?
25 We learned in our family by: what our parents told us directlyrewards and punishments used to control our behaviorinteraction with parentsobserving, imitating, and modeling
26 Our family influenced us according to: How much contact we had with themHow intense our contact was with themHow important we were to each otherOur individual personalities
27 So what do we do about it?Figure out and analyze how our family influenced usTake responsibility to make life what we want it to be and choose our goalsAcknowledge feelings about the pastLet them go and make peace
32 Attitudes Toward Intimate Partners Adult relationships are often patterned after those in our family of origin.Poor relationship with parents increases difficulties in romantic relationships.
33 Attitudes Toward Intimate Partners Social Learning Theory – children imitate their parents’ behavior, attitudes, and perceptions in intimate relationshipsAttachment Theory – attachment characteristics with parents carried forward to subsequent adult relationships
38 Attitudes Toward Sex Our attitudes about sex are formed by Parents’ attitudes concerning:Natural curiosityDiscussion of sexual issuesGiving information about sexQuality of relationship with parents
39 Parents of Children with Healthy Attitudes About Sex . . . Have matter-of-fact attitudes about:Occasional nudityNatural bodily functionsGive positive instruction about sexual expression at appropriate ages
40 Parents Teach Unhealthy Attitudes About Sex by . . . Repressing children’s natural curiosityAvoiding discussions about sexSaying negative things about sex
41 Effects of Positive Parental Attitudes Teenagers adopt their parents’ attitudesChildren freely ask questions – thus, can get parents’ valuesDelay in beginning sexual activity
43 Children of Unhappy or Divorced Parents Don’t want to repeat parents’ mistakesWant happy marriages for themselvesBut are influenced by their parents’ relationship patternsAre accepting of the possibility of divorce
45 Learning Gender Roles in the Family Gender role = how people expresstheir gender sociallyMales act ‘masculine’Females act ‘feminine’Children usually follow parents’ exampleAppropriateness differs by family
46 Learning Gender Roles in the Family Children learn which of the following are appropriate for men and which for women:traits, behaviors, attitudes, valuesroles in marriage and familycareers
47 Learning Gender Roles in the Family How much children are influenced by parents depends on:how close they feel to their parentshow closely they identify with themwhat gender role their parents exhibit
49 Learning Values in the Family Cultures shape values and values shape cultures.Individualist culture = individualism andindependenceCollectivist culture = extended family andcommon good
50 Learning Values in the Family Our family of origin’s values are the basis of what we consider right, good, and properWe form our own values by examining other values.
51 Work Values and HabitsThe patterns of work in our family or origin are those we unconsciously adopt as adults.Workaholics had workaholic parentsChildren raised in financially well-off families don’t want to struggle with bills.
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