Presentation on theme: "Coaching Self and Others David Birch Ashridge Consulting"— Presentation transcript:
1Coaching Self and Others David Birch Ashridge Consulting
2What is coaching?Creating the conditions for something new to come into being...Requires that we slow down and bear uncertainty in order to create a future and respond flexiblyIs a joint discovery with the coach sitting alongside their clientChange happens in the room when the coach offers genuine openness, support, courage and curiosity
3Coaching works at three levels HEADHEARTWILLWhat do I understand?What do I feel?What do I intend to do?
4Powerful questions shift the nature of the future What is the story I keep telling about the problems around here?What is my attachment to this story costing me?What is the crossroads I face at this stage in the game?How much risk am I willing to take?What is my contribution to the very thing I complain about?What are my doubts and reservations?
5How am I listening? Critically Compassionately Seeing people as: HostileInadequateSelf-servingAttitude: Blaming“They are wrong/difficult/naïve… or I am”CompassionatelySeeing people as having:FeelingsNeedsValuesAttitude: Empathising“I am curious, want to understand their feelings, needs and values… and my own”
6A chance to practiceIn pairs decide who is the coach and who is the clientClient tells a story about an unresolved issue involving themselves and another personCoach listens compassionately and asks powerful questionsCoach feeds back - without judgment - what they are picking up about the client’s ‘feelings, needs and values’Review what has changed for coach and client