1. What are the components of an abusive relationship? Do this now. Pick up your materials on the front desk. Homework: Complete the Circle of violence wheel. What are we doing today? 1. Look at a few stats on dating violence. 2. Explore the wheel of dating violence 3. Read a play and decipher what violent behaviors are being used.

2. Dating Violence 1 out of every 4 women will experience abuse in a dating relationship 1 in 3 teenagers report knowing a friend or peer who has been hit, punched, kicked, slapped, choked or physically hurt by his or her partner. 1 in 4 teens who have been in a serious relationship say their boyfriend or girlfriend has tried to prevent them from spending time with friends or family; the same number have been pressured to only spend time with their partner. 90% of dating violence is reported by females, but males are victims too.

3. How big is the problem???

4. Types of dating violence Physical-Causing bodily harm Emotional – using words or actions to demean or manipulate (some say this is more hurtful and longer lasting) Sexual- any unwanted sex act

6. CYCLE OF VIOLENCE

7. What are your Dating rules? Don’t be overly jealousOpen communication Don’t cheatShare feelings Be willing to compromiselaugh together Don’t get mad over simple thingstrust me Respect me and my family ListenDon’t try to recreate me Don’t lieDon’t be clingy Support meDon’t hit or humiliate me No sex till married Give me room for other friends Talk things out, don’t assume Do things sexual that are mutual

8. What can you do? Arrange dates with other couples Let others know where you are Bring $ and a cell phone Get an order of protection If you suspect a friend is abusive, remind that friend it is wrong Help educate others if they are blinded by love

10. Why do people Abuse others?

11. What are the signs of an abuser? Is extremely jealous, hypersensitive and controlling; Verbally abusive and threatens violence; Has unpredictable mood swings, with instances of explosive anger; may use drugs and alcohol; Isolates their partner from friends and family; Uses force during an argument, physical and emotional; Believes in rigid sex roles, women are a possession;sex Blames others for his problems or feelings; Has a history of abusive relationships

12. More signs of abuse Makes rules (what you can wear, who you can see, how you spend your free time, where you work) Controls partner through manipulations (threats, blackmail, sharing secrets) Name calling and put downs Lying Swearing & vulgar remarks