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2 Difficult people create 50% of everyday problems. The negative behavior is primarily done to wear you down.

3 When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. Thich Naht Hanh

4 YES VIRGINIA, THERE ARE 10 TYPES OF DIFFICULT PEOPLE ! Tanks Snipers Know-It-Alls Think-They-Know-It-Alls Grenade Person Yes Person Maybe Person Nothing Person No Person Whiners

5 Sherman Tanks Aggressive, in your face behavior verbal and physical behavior…goal is control at all costs…I win/you lose! Tanks will never back down! Deal with them by: Standing your ground, but not getting into a fight with them…it will only escalate the fight Maintaining eye contact… Smiling/maintaining self control Calling security if a show of force or restraint is needed.

6 The Sniper Uses sarcasm tinged with humor that is meant to embarrass and humiliate you when you are the most vulnerable… goal is control…I win/you lose! Deal with them by: Confronting them when it is happening; ask them to repeat comments so they can be heard by all Let them know you sense underlying unpleasant meanings in what they say.

7 The Know- It- Alls Dominates conversation with lengthy, haughty arguments, and eliminates opposition by finding flaws and weaknesses to discredit other points of view. Is very knowledgeable and competent. Deal with them by:. Picking your battles…sometimes it is best to ignore them or thank them for the information.. Never ever asking for their opinion. Recognize that their knowledge is a valuable asset

8 The Think They Know It Alls Do not know what they are talking about, but they have a knack for conversation and act like a professional. Deal with them by: State the correct facts or give alternative opinions in as much detail as you can. Move on to the next topic as soon as you correct a balloon. This gives the balloon enough time to deflate with as little embarrassment as possible.

9 The Grenade They yell like Sherman Tanks, but more explosive These people seem reasonable, friendly and collected. Then for no reason they attack. Often they attack because of a comment that made them feel threatened or doubted. Deal with them by: Dont do anything at all. Just look them straight in the eye. Eventually all exploders reach a stopping point. Then try to get privacy with them, Get facts about what happened, and Always offer help in the form of a realistic action plan to help get them back on track Try to calm them down.

10 The Yes Person In an effort to please people and avoid confrontation, Yes People say yes and never follow through Deal with them by: Getting them to do what they say they will do so you can count on them.

11 The Maybe Person They lose themselves on analyzing things to death and never get back on track; Have great difficulty saying anything that might be hurtful or distressing to anyone so…they do nothing at all ! Fraught with indecisiveness ! Deal with them by: Making sure they have a dead line and know the reason for the dead line. Being helpful and providing background info to help them make a decision to commit to work asked of them.

12 The Nothing Person…better known as the Clam Silent, unresponsive; Achieving power by withholding communication from you; Doesnt want to be blamed for a wrong answer; Listens attentively but contributes little. Deal with them by: Smiling expectantly at them; Let them know that their contribution is welcome and appreciated; Ask open ended questions that require more than a yes or no response.

13 The Negativist … better known as the No Person Pessimistic; Tear down morale; Play to our despair; Feel like they have no control over anything; Feel that those with power cant be trusted…suspicious and paranoid Deal with them by: Responding to pessimism with an optimistic statement that is realistic; Ask whats the worst that could happen? Dont argue with them ! Dont try to convince them that they are wrong! Distance yourself from them or limit your time with them to maintain a positive outlook; Be a reality check … a statement like Wow…I just fell into gloom and doom here might at times be appropriate.

14 The Complainer…also known as the Whiner Generalizes every complaint; Nothing, it seems, is ever right for them; They give little specific information about the complaint; They usually state a complaint and then walk away; They rarely have a solution just several ways to complain. Deal with them by: Ask them to do the opposite; Ask for specifics: who, what, when, where, why, and how; When they start to walk away, ask them to stay for a minute to finish the discussion; Don't try to get them to solve the problem they'll resist… a solution will deprive them of an opportunity to complain; View the complainer as a resource. Sometimes what they complain about really is a problem that needs to be resolved.

15 If you want plenty of experience in dealing with difficult people, then have kids.

16 Tips for Dealing with the Difficult Try not to take things personally Ask questions rather than make statements Have supporting evidence in writing Ensure understanding and communication Use appropriate phrases when needed Use I rather than you Separate the issue from the person Be assertive rather than aggressive Turn the tables Express appreciation when appropriate

17 A PARTING THOUGHT Sometimes smiling and being nice is the best approach for dealing with difficult people. Muster up all the inner peace you can and try to be kind. The good karma is worth it. Unknown

18 Bell, Arthur and Smith, Dayle M. Winning with Difficult People. 2 nd edition. Barrons Educational Services: 250 Wireless Boulevard, Hauppauge, New York, 11788. Copyright 2004 Bramson, Robert M. Coping with Difficult People: The Proven Effective Plan That Has Helped Millions of People Deal with the Troublemakers in Their Lives at Home and at Work. Dell Publishing, a division of Random House, Inc: 1540 Broadway, New York, NY. 1006. Copyright 1988 (considered a classic reference). Brinkman, Dr. Rick and Kirschner. Dealing With Difficult People: 24 Lessons for Bringing Out the Best in Everyone (Mightly Manager Series). Mc-Graw-Hill Professional: Two Penn Plaza, New York, NY 10121-2298. Copyright 2006. people/2298 people/2298 People-at-Work.htm (on line video) People-at-Work.htm Dealing with Challenging Persons: Suggested References

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