Presentation on theme: "Presence To Contribution March 2009 Tri-Counties Regional Center By Claudia Bolton, HSA Helen Sanderson Associates."— Presentation transcript:
Presence To Contribution March 2009 Tri-Counties Regional Center By Claudia Bolton, HSA Helen Sanderson Associates
Community Building: A definition from the experience of Options in Madison, WI. Community building is the way we learn about purposefully forming and organizing relationships, based on an emerging plan which captures a person s desire to explore and develop new memberships and relationships. Community building is focused on extending a person s opportunities to contribute to mutual relationships and is consciously oriented toward building the habits and skills of welcome in community settings. Members of Each Other, by John O Brien and Connie Lyle O Brien, 1996
Relationship and Community Building Work Must Be Intentional. What Can We Do To Make Sure It Happens? Even When the Laundry Is Not Done
The Community Connection Approach Learning about the person Community Mapping Mapping our networks Making a contribution Sustaining and Building Opportunities
Learning about the Person Several Tools: Circle of Support Relationship Map Good Day, Bad Day What is Important to Me (from PCT) Who am I, My Gifts and Capacities Who am I, My Style Hopes and Dreams
Relationship Mapping How these tools help: Identifies who is important to the person Who can contribute to getting the person better connected Identifies relationships that can be strengthened and supported Shows the balance of family, friends and paid support in the persons life Identifies community opportunities for participation
Intimacy: People you love, who love you, partners, family, friends, anchors, (can include pets and animals) Friendship: People you like, friends, family, people you like to be with, people who like to be with you (can include pets and animals) Participation: People, work, organizations, networks, associations, volunteering, community places you participate in Exchange: People who you pay or who are paid to provide services to you: hairdresser, doctor, landlord, bank teller, teacher, personal assistant, employees. Relationship Map Original map developed by Judith Snow Modified by Claudia Bolton Intimacy Friendship Participation Exchange
Ties and Connections Friendship Acquaintance Membership Keeping in Touch Being Part of a Family Having a Partner Being a Neighbor Being Known in a Neighborhood
John OBrien, Reflecting on Social Roles June 2006
Pam the Artist
Pam has a gift with animals
Bad DayGood Day
Working Gifts and Waiting Gifts We all have Working Gifts…These are the gifts we develop and strengthen throughout our lives. But we also have waiting Gifts, Gifts waiting to be called and developed. We dont often know what are waiting gifts are until were pressed into service. Henry Moore, Asset Based Community Development, When People Care Enough to Act, Green, More and OBrien, 2006
Having a Valued Role – Being Somebody!
Matching Staff and Matching Community Support
Support For Pam People who: Will stay until the event is over Can go at my pace (slow) Will not get into power struggles Will not take it personal when I am in a bad mood Will laugh and be silly with me Information and expectations about what will happen when we get there Support to get ready to go Physical assistance when the ground is uneven or I am tired Close attention paid to me so I dont do things that are unwelcome by others Ability to; distract me or make me laugh when I am in a bad mood Scout out new opportunities where I will be a welcomed member Must love animals, country and Christmas music, crafts, visiting the elderly and my family
COMMUNITY MAPPING People – who do you know? What are the key relationships you have or want to develop? Groups and associations – where do people meet up regularly in an organized or formal way? Third places- those places in every community where locals gather to visit, share news and be among others. Such places are a great spot to meet the neighborhood connectors (those people who know everyone else) and to assist someone to become a regular.
COMMUNITY MAPPING Church and Hall flower arranging class Priest, Fr Simmons Health Centre Yoga Slimming club Hospice shop Betty George, pub landlord, darts, fishing, pool, open mike. Library. Reading group. Community centre Womens group Coffee morning allotments Citizens advice Sheilas cafe home
Third Places Are on neutral ground Act as a leveler Conversation is the main activity Anyone can become a regular They have a low profile The mood is playful They can feel like a home away from home
Cindy and Friends at Dennys
Stables are Great Places to Hang out and be Part of a Community
Presence Participation Contribution
From Presence to Contribution ActivityBeing Present Having Presence Actively Participating ConnectingContributing Football Game Seated in the stand Cheering along with the others Dressed in team colors, commenting, shouting encourage- ment Going to the pub after the game, joining supporters going to other team games Selling raffle tickets, collecting funds, giving others a lift, Example from Helen Sanderson Associates, UK
Presence to Contribution ActivityBeing Present Having Presence Actively Participating ConnectingContributing KnittingKnits at home by herself Does not knit with others Knits every night Does not knit with others Gives her dishcloths to her family and friends Example from Julie Malette, HSA
Community Groups What are the groups expectations of its members? What is the membership like? Who are the welcomers? What support will the person need?
Community Places-Supporting Participation Revision Stages of Participation Characteristics- Expectations Support Needed Preparing to Go ___________ Arrival Unwritten rules Getting started Participation Finishing up Exit Other things to know/do
Patterns of Community Building Pay attention to natural cues Stand alongside Remember… Nothing about relationships is fixed – Community building work is rarely ever over
Characteristics of a Community Connector Confidence in understanding the person Trusts community members Has high expectations Trusts people to work out problems and Gently assists when needed Calls on others willingness to help
Community Connector Is well connected Focuses on gifts and capacities Believes in community hospitality Confidence in the capacity of people to do what is right Has replenished capacity to forgive Is flexible, and willing to laugh when things go wrong
Staff Development and Community Building Skills Have staff do their own relationship maps Identify staff who are natural connectors Encourage staff to get involved in the community themselves Encourage staff to be more curious, out- going, and to take more risks Use the Skills and Tools to shape Habits
Learning About What Works and Doesnt Work
Cindy With a Circle Graphic of the People in Her Life and their Roles
The Four Questions Things Weve Tried Things Weve Learned Things We are Pleased About Things We are Concerned About Plus One: Given what we know. Whats Next?
Pams Family Participates
Service Life important for What is important for the person is addressed important to No organized effort about what is important to the person, yet Community Life important to important for What is important to and important for the person is present Circle of support, Included Active Circle of support, Included in community life A Good But Paid Life important toimportant for What is important to and important for the person is present Closest people are paid staff or family. Few other real connections with others Important to Important to recognized Important to Important to present connecting Focus on connecting, relationships building relationships connecting Focus on connecting, relationships building relationships Where do you reckon people you support are at along this arrow? (Please fill in a square per person you support below, as in the example)
Action Steps for Getting Started Think about yourself or someone you support Think about several ideas that seem most appealing for getting started In a Round: share with your table members the ideas you have. The freshest thinking from the table will be shared with the entire group of participants.
What Did You Learn? What Will You Try? From Presence to Contribution…
Claudia Bolton 4171 Starkes Grade Road Placerville, CA