Todays Topic Well be taking a look at… Promoting Social and Behavioral Competencies for Parents: Protecting your Child from Bullying
Todays Presenter Anne Townsend, Ph.D. Chief Academic Officer for Mariposa Child Success Programs
Session Segments Presentation – Anne will discuss bullying, teasing and social exclusion. – During Annes presentation, your phone will be muted. Q&A – After the presentation, well hold a Q&A session. – Well open up the phone lines, and youll be able to ask questions. – Anne will answer as many of your questions as time allows.
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Mission: to foster social-emotional competence in children by training adults in five key skills. The Mariposa Method: Empathy Personal Message Cooperative Problem Solving Descriptive Reinforcement Inductive Discipline Mariposa Child Success Programs Mission and Method
Behaving responsibly Understanding feelings Developing healthy relationships Managing emotions Problem solving What Is Social-Emotional Competence?
2 3 1 Bullying: What it is and what it is not Why it happens: Contributing factors How adults can help: Insights & options for problem solving Learning Objectives
What characteristics constitute bullying behaviors? Bullying Poll
1.Deliberate 2.Imbalance of power 3.Repeated Physical 1.Physical 2.Verbal 3.Psychological Bullying Characteristics
Bullying Poll Psychological Aggression Relational Indirect Social
Bullying Poll Do you think that bullying has increased in the past decade? Yes No Not sure Bullying Poll Do you think that bullying has increased in the past decade?
Bullying Poll It is hard to know… Bullying is under reported by kids (Culture of silence) Bullying is under recognized by adults (Indirect aggression is difficult to identify)
Bullying Poll True or false? Bullying is part of growing up Only children who are different get bullied Victims need to fight back Tattling is bad Bullies suffer low self-esteem Bullying is the result of a root cause
Bullying Poll Why Does Bullying Happen ?
Family Factors that Contribute to The Problem Lack of warmth and involvement Harsh discipline Overly permissive parenting Lack of supervision CHILD Community
School Factors that Contribute to the Problem Zero tolerance Focusing on bullies and victims Group punishment Lack of awareness CHILD Community
Child Factors Children who bully: Lack empathy for others Are impulsive and aggressive Desire to dominate Have a positive view of violence May have inflated self-esteem CHILD Community
Child Factors Victims of bullying: Tend to be either passive or provocative Often are socially isolated Exhibit anxious behavior React inappropriately CHILD Community
How Can YOU Help? Build awareness - develop a shared language Communicate empathy Invite kids to the problem solving process Give it a rest! Focus on what is working.
Build Awareness… A good friend is always there for you. A good friend is someone who listens. A good friend is kind. A good friend shares and takes turns.
Build Awareness… Talk about the bullying-teasing continuum… Ask your child: What are some examples when teasing is not okay? (Make a list together)What are some examples when teasing is not okay? (Make a list together)
Build Awareness… Teasing is Not Okay When… Someone asks for it to stop and it does not. The person teased reacts badly when they are teased. It is meant to hurt or put down another. It becomes a habit. No one will help because they think they will get teased. Everyone doesnt think it is funny.
Build Awareness… Define bullying with your child: What types of behaviors do you think are bullying? Is there a difference between the way girls and boys bully? Which is more harmful? Why?
Communicate Empathy Empathy involves listening to a childs feelings or point of view and communicating it back in a neutral manner. You think… You feel… You wish…
The Power of Empathy Counters the loss of self-esteem Counters the loss of self-esteem Validates their experience Validates their experience Physiological and neurological benefits Physiological and neurological benefits Basis for problem solving Basis for problem solving
Opportunities for Empathy
Opportunities for empathy One day she is nice and the next mean. It must be hard for you to trust her. One day she is nice and the next mean. It must be hard for you to trust her. You should just ignore her. Real friends wouldnt treat you like that. Instead of…Try
Opportunities for empathy Youre scared that if you retaliate it will make matters worse. Youre scared that if you retaliate it will make matters worse. Stand up to him once and for all. Instead of…Try
Opportunities for empathy You dont understand why they keep leaving you out. Part of you wonders if it is something you did.You dont understand why they keep leaving you out. Part of you wonders if it is something you did. What do you think may have triggered this?What do you think may have triggered this? Instead of…Try
Opportunities for empathy You are torn. You want to be included, but you dont like hurting someone else. How do you think you would feel if... Instead of…Try
Focus on what is going well… Give it a rest! Focus on what is going well… Im good at dancing. I do well in math class. I love horse back riding! I really enjoy playing with Sam.
Resources Resources Mariposa offers classes and workshops for parents and educatorscontact us for more information at A list of books, links, and articles is also available for webinar participants
Were going to open the phone lines now! There will be a slight pause, and then a recorded voice will provide instructions on how to ask questions over this conference call line. Well be answering questions in the order that we receive them. Well also be answering the questions that were ed to us during the presentation. If theres a question that we cant answer, well do some research after this session, and then the answer to all participants. Q&A
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