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1 Paul Eastwick and Eli Finkel Northwestern University Do Men and Women Show Evidence of Reciprocal Liking While Speed-dating?Paul Eastwick and Eli FinkelNorthwestern University
2 Reciprocity and Attraction (non-romantic) Early studies: We tend to like people who like us (Backman & Secord, 1959)David Kenny: 2 ways to measure reciprocity of likingDyadic – If I uniquely like you, do you uniquely like me?Generalized – Are “likers” also liked in turn?The answer to both is typically “yes”
3 Reciprocity and Attraction (non-romantic) From Kenny (1994)StudyGeneralizedDyadicFirst Encounters: One on oneBurleson (1983).27.26Chapdelaine, Kenny, & LaFontana (1994).58.42Kenny & Bernstein (1982)xx.29First Encounters: GroupsDabbs & Ruback (1987).36.13Kashy (1988).09.28Park & Flink (1989)-.10.18Long-term acquaintance.12.49Curry & Emerson (1970)-.26.48Malloy & Albright (1990).75Newcomb (1961)Wright, Ingraham, & Blackner (1985).74r =.43r =.32I’ll explain more about speed-dating later, but it’s basically the romantic equivalent of a blocked one-on-one design.
4 Reciprocity and Attraction (romantic) Participants’ recall of falling-in-love experiences typically involve reciprocityEx: finding out the potential partner was interested in you (Aron, Dutton, Aron, & Iverson 1989)But it could still be as (or more) common that we are uninterested in the people who like usWhat about playing “hard to get”? (Walster et al., 1973)Aron really only gets at half the story – what about all the times you learned about someone’s liking and you didn’t like them back?
5 Romantic vs. Platonic Liking An individual who demonstrates platonic liking for many others is likable (Folkes & Sears, 1977)“Likers” are typically nice people, so they are liked in returnBut an individual who demonstrates romantic liking for many others?This may come across as unselective or even desperate
6 Hypotheses In a purely romantic context… Dyadic – Unique liking will be reciprocated (a positive correlation as in previous research)Generalized – Likers will be disliked (a negative correlation unlike previous research)Should correlate with measures of desperationIn other words, dyadic vs. generalized no longer operate in the same direction
8 Method – Speed-dating 163 Northwestern undergraduates Completed a 30-minute background questionnaire online prior to the eventMet 9-13 opposite sex individuals for 4 minutes eachCompleted a ~2 minute questionnaire after each dateAfter returning home, participants “yes” or “no” the other participants online“Matches” can one another through web portal
9 Method – Measures (after each date) Romantic DesireI really liked my interaction partnerI was sexually attracted to my interaction partnerI am likely to say “yes” to my interaction partnerChemistry – My interaction partner and I……seemed to have a lot in common…seemed to have similar personalities…had a real connectionPerceived Romantic DesireI think that my interaction partner really liked meI think that my interaction partner was sexually attracted to mePerceived UnselectivityTo what percentage of the other people here today will this person say “yes”?
10 Method - MeasuresThe Social Relations Model – actor, partner, and relationship effectsActor effect: Average amount Laura liked her datesPartner effect: Average amount Laura was liked by her datesRelationship effects: The amount Laura liked each particular date independently of her actor effect and her date’s partner effect
13 Results – Generalized Effects Romantic Desire(Partner)Chemistry(Partner)Perceived Desire(Partner)Romantic Desire(Actor) - Men-.42†-.39-.03Romantic Desire(Actor) - WomenRemind them of the platonic finding here-.42**-.30†-.12Assumed reciprocity (Romantic desire actor with perceived desire actor) r = ~.33Generalized reciprocity correlation still negative and significant controlling for coder-rated physical attractiveness
14 Mediation – Why don’t you like me? (Because I’ll say yes to anyone!)Unselectivity(Partner)β = .34***β = -.16*#s are slightly different because I’m not correcting for attenuation hereβ = -.30***Desire (Actor)Desire (Partner)β’ = -.25**Sobel z = 1.85, p = .065
15 Results – Personality correlates Measure♂ Desire(actor)(partner)♀ Desire“I sometimes feel as though I would date anyone who is interested in me”.23*-.20†.17-.30*
16 Mediation – Why do I like you? (Because I’m desperate!)Desire (Actor)β = .19*β = -.26***Self-reportDesperationβ = -.24*Desire (Partner)β’ = -.19*Sobel z = 1.99, p = .047
17 Results – Personality correlates Measure♂ Desire(actor)(partner)♀ Desire“I sometimes feel as though I would date anyone who is interested in me”.23*-.20†.17-.30*Time since last romantic physical contact.20†-.45**-.22†-.27*# sex partners in past year-.07.32**-.04.19# romantic physical contact partners in past year-.16.48**.01.12
18 Results – Personality correlates Measure♂ Desire(actor)(partner)♀ Desire“I expect that I will be interested in going on a date with _____% of the people I meet speed-dating”.25*-.24*.27*-.26*“I expect that _____% of the people I meet speed-dating will be interested in going on a date with me.”.15-.03-.10.16“Members of the opposite sex that I like tend to like me back”.05.26*-.11.38**Extraversion.33**-.09.12Conscientiousness.14-.02-.22†
19 A procedural bias?At least 3 separate teams of speed-dating researchers have reported a large sex difference (in the male direction) in “yessing”But men are always the ones rotating, even at professional speed-dating eventsCould there be something empowering about rotating that results in a higher yessing rate?At 4 of our events, men rotated, and at 3 of the events, women rotated
21 DiscussionFound a positive dyadic reciprocity correlation (if I uniquely like you, you tend to uniquely like me back)Found a negative generalized reciprocity correlation for both men and womenAppears to be related to desperation / unselectivityRomantic liking appears to come in one of two “flavors”The flavor can be determined in only 4 minutes!
22 Thank you Candida Abrahamson David Kenny Wendi Gardner Dan Ariely Daniel MochonJacob MatthewsGeorge LoewensteinThe Northwestern Class AllianceThe University Research Grants CommitteeLayla BermeoDebra BladeChristine BrooksBonnie BuikMadelaine EulichMegan GraneyJeff JablonsKristin JonesJulie KellerJennifer LeytonKaidi LiuMallory MartinoAshley MasonJesse MatthewsAbby MitchellJennifer RosnerSeema SaigalSarah ScarbeckDavid SternbergLaura ThompsonAshley TreadwayStephanie Yang