10. Have you ever seen a kid beam from ear to ear when an adult tells them "well done?" Matthew 25:21 “His master replied, "Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master's happiness!’

11. How? Specific Sincere Look for the Gold in the other person, and speak words of encouragement Instill courage Learn what is affirming to that person When? As often as possible Imagine filling love tanks

12. Important to create a safe place before giving criticsm

13. My husband shows me he really loves me when he cleans up the kitchen in the morning Dorcas. Acts 9:36, 39 " In Joppa there was a disciple named Tabitha (which, when translated, is Dorcas*), who was always doing good and helping the poor. …All the widows stood around him, …showing him the robes and other clothing that Dorcas had made

14. Can feel like control when she gives hints. She is asking to be loved! I feel loved when you help me

15. This person loves to give and receive gifts The gift is special, well thought out, sometimes beautifully wrapped Gifts can be things, time, etc A handwritten note means far more than a store-bought card

16. Feels loved through the symbol of this gift You know me through the gifts you give You have been paying attention to me Forget an important date: The injury of not being thought about Giving the wrong thing

18. If you really love me you will spend time with me Can be as simple as a cup of coffee at Starbucks Tim – one of his primary love languages

19. Tim – beer tasting in Williamsburg.

20. Some people assume this is all about sex – NOT! These are the folks for whom a hug means the world Dulce and Gary – primary love language for them both Me – brought up in a home where there was little to no physical touch – this is a love language I struggle with, as it is one I have to consciously remember to do

21. If you are not a touch love language: "get off of me!" New moms!

23. Caring behaviors chart Steph did this todayForming ConnectionTim did this today Mon Tues Wed Thurs Fri Sat Sun Positive, caring behaviors that meet each other's love languages Mon Tues Wed Thurs Fri Sat Sun Tell me something you appreciated about me today (Affirmation) Empty the dishwasher (Service) Buy me a book I have been wanting to read (Gifts) Give me a hug today (Physical Touch) Go on a date to Starbucks (Quality Time)

27. Eph 4:8 Therefore He says: "when He ascended on high, he led captivity captive and gave gifts to men Mark 10:13. Then they brought little children to Him that they might touch them… Deuteronomy 7:23. But The Lord your God will deliver (serve) them before you

28. Judges 13:9 God listened to the voice of Manoah: and the angel of God came again to the woman as she was sitting in the field, but Manoah her husband was a not with her Matthew 3:17 and suddenly a voice came from heaven, saying, "this is my beloved son, in whom I am well pleased (Affirm)"

29. Think about which is your primary love language. We will divide up across the auditorium into love language groups. Talk about why you think you might fit in that group Then – each group to go to another group and talk about why and how they can show connections to each other through each other’s love language