2 Stephen R. Covey is the author of the best-selling book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Other books he has written include First Things First, Principle-Centered Leadership, andThe Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families. In 2004, Covey released The 8th Habit. In 2008, Covey released The Leader In Me—How Schools and Parents Around the World Are Inspiring Greatness, One Child at a Time. Here are 10 Life Principles collected and learned From Stephen R. Covey.
3 Lesson 1 : The Light House Principle There are lighthouse principles. You don’t break them. You only break yourself against them. Don’t break yourself against lighthouse principles.
4 As the story goes, one night at sea, Horatio awakens to find that a ship is in his sea-lane about 20 miles away and refuses to move. Horatio commands the other ship to move starboard, 20 degrees at once. Horatio tries to pull rank and size on the other ship, stating that he’s a captain and that he’s on a large battle ship. The other ship replies, and it turns out it’s not actually a ship, but a lighthouse.
5 Principle # 2 : The 90/10 Principles 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day.
6 You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. You find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terribly.
7 Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time.” Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having. Notice the difference?
8 Principle # 3 : Law Of The Harvest Law of the Harvest is an enlightening look at the true meaning of ‘reaping what you sow,’ and the importance of a strong work ethic. Persistence, patience and perseverance, as well as attention to detail, are imperative: with potato farming, it takes three to four years from soil prep to harvest; short-cuts simply don’t cut it.
9 The unpredictable nature of farming provides an excellent backdrop, bringing to light that each task has great impact on the outcome. It’san opportunity to examine process, quality, competence, timeliness, sacrifice and preparation.
10 Examine the benefits and drawbacks of taking shortcuts, tackle projects with thorough preparation and planning, develop new behavior patterns for ‘doing things the right way’, draw upon priorities and core values when meeting the challenge of change and more.
11 Principle # 4 : True North Principle Principles are like a compass. A compass has a true north that is objective and external, that reflects natural laws or principles, as opposed to values which are subjective and internal. Because the compass represents the eternal verities of life, we must develop our value system with deep respect for "true north" principles.
12 The key to long-term success is learning to align with “true north” principles, working at leadership from the inside out, and being proactive to become an island of excellence-and to leaven the team.
13 Come up with a vision. What do you want to do Come up with a vision. What do you want to do? At the end of your life, how do you want to be remembered? By beginning with the end result that you want to achieve, you can multiply your impact and your legacy.
14 Principle # 5 : Put First Thing First Covey asked us how many struggle with work/life balance. Many hands went up. He said people often report they feel they spend 50% of their time on urgent, but not important tasks. Why is that? Covey stated it’s because everybody defines purpose differently.
15 When you understand your vision, you will know which pursuits are important to you and which ones are not. In this way, you will be able to let go of the less important things and let others do them in your stead.
16 Principle # 6 : Empathic Listening What you saw was influenced by your experience and that rather that impose your view, first understand the other person’s perspective – there’s a good chance, you’re both right!
17 If you want to be understood, you have to understand the other person first. Put yourself in that other person's shoes. That way, you can change your perspective and you can reframe it in such a way that it will make sense to your partner.
18 Principle # 7 : Sharpen The Saw Covey asked us whether we can use our full talent and capacity in our organization. He then asked us whether we feel the pressure to produce more for less. The point here was to emphasize how there’s a demand for greater results, but that we’re not necessarily utilized to our full potential.
19 One of the central messages of Covey is to ensure balance between production and production capability. In other words, you have to think long term. By sharpening the saw and ensuring your well-being, you can pursue your targets in the long run.
20 Principle # 8 : Inspiration Over Jackass Theory The Jackass Theory refers to the carrot and the stick. Covey asked us what kind of supervisor do you need when you have a job that you are passionate about and is using your talents and you feel you are appreciated. People are volunteers. You want them to contribute their greatest, unique contribution.
21 People are not on the same page People are not on the same page. There is so much bureaucracy, and rules and regulations that lay people down and disempower them. And we go back into what I call the 'Great jackass theory of human motivation'. Carrot-sticking them.-if you produce, you get the carrot, if you don't, you get the stick.' The people who are unprincipled or step on other people can not survive. - Stephen R. Covey
22 Principle # 9 : Finding Your Voice Covey asked how do you help people find their voice? You ask them what are they good at? What do they love doing? What is your greatest unique contribution? The key is finding a voice that meets a human need.
23 “Have you accomplished something or got to where you are because someone believed in you more than you believed in yourself?” If the answer is yes, then what if you believed in someone today more than they believe in themselves? If we all do this for one person, we will affect the entire human population!
24 Lesson 10 : Theory Of Circle Of Influence If you focus your energy outside your circle of influence, your capacity for influence will diminish, because you are wasting your time and energy on a concern over which you have no influence.
25 Covey challenged us to be a creative force: Get out of victimism . You’re not a victim of your circumstances. You are the creative force of your life. Empathize first. Grow your circle of influence. Make tremendous impact.
26 "There are three constants in life... change, choice and principles.“ Thanks
27 Thank You Very Much Sompong Yusoontorn "There are three constants in life... change, choice and principles."Thank You Very MuchSompong Yusoontorn